Help Me Buy My Mom's House

In January 2016 I experienced the loss of a loved one for the first time in my life when my grandma passed away; then, less 60 days later in March 2016 I felt that loss again with the unexpected passing of my beautiful mother.

It's been, to put it in egregiously understated terms, a rough year.

The house
When my mom first looked at the little 1100 square foot, single family home, she didn't really think it was hers; it was ugly, the floors were stained, there were holes in the walls and the place just looked a wreck. But  those closest to her knew this was it, and convinced her to take the leap. After a while, as she did with so many other things, she drew the beauty out of the house and it became our base, our home.

Us
I moved out of that house in 2012 to go to university, and when I moved back to California in 2014, I moved in with my then-boyfriend, now-husband. We both have full time, timelessly respectable jobs, I am an administrative assistant and he is an accountant, but student loan debt keeps us living that apartment-life.

And then my life changed forever. On St. Patrick's Day 2016, I received a phone call. I had gone to bed early, and had been ignoring my phone as it vibrated next to me. Finally I picked up, my mom's roommate was calling to let me know that he was at the house, and my mom was not breathing. She was not breathing and had no pulse. The paramedics were there. They had been there for a while. 

She was taken to the hospital where they were able to get a heartbeat, but this was after 50 minutes of oxygen deprivation to her brain. On March 21st, after reviewing the MRI that showed just how extensive and diffuse the brain damage was, the decision was made to remove the ventilator and let her body go where her brain had already gone.

My mom died this past March of cardiac arrest after experiencing a fatal dysrhythmia (ventricular fibrillation). She was literally here one minute and gone the next. Drinking tea and walking to her bedroom, then clutching her chest and unresponsive on the floor – it took just a moment, the spark left her eyes, and I lost my mother forever.

The Situation
Now I am left in a very difficult circumstance. My sisters would like to be bought out of the property immediately, but my husband and I cannot afford the down payment on a new loan – so I am hoping that the lovely people out there in internet wonderland, who can offer their assistance, will offer their assistance!

I've been thinking about it, and if 50,000 people (that's less than half of the population of Costa Mesa, and less than 2% of the entire population of Orange County) gave $1 each, I would reach my goal and could keep the house!

I’m not sure exactly what I am supposed to do here, or if this is going to even work (I sure hope it does!) – but I need to keep this house, I need to keep her trees in the backyard, I need to keep the memories of her in the kitchen alive since she isn’t, and I need your help to do it.

I will be doing side-work in addition to my regular, full time job to try to get as much cash as possible for the down payment, but I really do need help - I wish I didn't, but I do, and I wish I had more time, but I don't.

Oh! Please share, send this out far and wide, to the edges of the multiverse if you can. 

Thank you all, and if you have any questions, please feel free to contact me.

- you can read my blog entry  relating to the unexpected loss of my mom (3/21/2016) which followed, far too closely, the loss of my grandma (1/16/2016) -


[I love you mom - miss you to the moon and back]

[love that smile]

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