Amy's Emergency Moving Fund
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"I lived for almost 10 years with my
ex-husband. It was a whirlwind romance, we were married less than a
year after we started dating. The first year of our marriage was ok.
I was happy. We bought a home together and things were going well.
The second year, things started to change. He was aggressive and
controlling. He kept threatening to leave me. I think this was his
first affair. He came to me and told me he would give our marriage
another 6 months to see if it would last or not. Then we started
trying to have children. That was a long 4 ½ years of trying and
many fertility procedures. We sold our home and moved into another
home during that time. Our marriage was completely back and forth.
One minute he was ok, the next he was angry. This is when the verbal
abuse started. We were arguing a lot. After our first IVF, I became
pregnant:to twins. I had an extremely rough pregnancy, and during
this time our marriage blossomed. Things were going so well. Then I
had 6 weeks of bed rest. I wasn't working and he was doing
everything. Things started up again. He was always gone and when he
was home he was angry. Emotionally abusing me because we couldn't
have "relations". After the kids were born, things took a sharp
nose dive. The next three years were hell. He was gone even more than
before. All under the guise of having to work. I'm pretty sure it
was not all work. His drinking had spiraled out of control and he
officially became an alcoholic. All he drank was beer from the moment
he got up until the moment he went to bed. The emotional abuse got
worse, and he was bullying me and started pushing me around. After
our kids third birthday, things went crazy. He decided he didn't
want to be married anymore. He was always on the phone to a female
coworker (who was his supervisor for a short time). Would yell at me
while he was talking to her, tell me I was boring and fat. He told me
many times that he wished things were the way they were before the
kids were born. A few times he said he wished they had never been
born. I went through two months of hell, of him leaving and coming
back and leaving and coming back. He was drunk constantly. He was
going through a 30 pack sometimes in a day. The abuse was getting
worse, until I had a meltdown. He tried to have me committed and said
I was a danger to our children. He started threatening me. Then
threatened to kill me as I was holding our children, trying to
protect them from him. In a drunken stupor he jumped my friend and
she beat the crap out of him. Later after she left, he forced himself
on me. And the physical abuse was getting worse. Smacking me,
grabbing me and pushing me around. When he left the last time, it was
because I found out about the affair he was having with his coworker.
He and her both were threatening me. He was going to take my children
from me and give them to her because she can't have children. I
went straight to the court after he moved out and got a protective
order, and it was granted for one year. It took us two years before
the divorce was final. During that time, both he and his mistress
would ride past the house, park out front, send me nasty emails and
text messages. I found out later, he had talked to a friend's
brother and asked about making me "disappear". He has vowed to
make my life a living hell. I felt like I was a prisoner in my own
home. To this day, 3 years after our divorce was final. He still
tries to bully me; he still rides past my house and sends me nasty
text messages. He and his now wife, tell my children all kinds of bad
things about me to try to turn my kids against me.
When he left, I found out how bad our financial situation was. He had to have control of the finances and I had to ask to spend money. I couldn't go to the grocery store to buy things without asking first. I was never permitted to look at the bank account. But, when I did, I found out he had ran up $65k in credit card debt, AND, put me down as working with him for that year and embezzled money under my social that I had to pay the IRS for. Now, our home, the home where our children were born and have grown the last 7 years is being taken from us. My ex has taken me back to court repeatedly to have the child support lowered to the point I can barely survive and take care of our children. I'm having my wages deducted for a credit card he ran up under my name. I have no savings, and what little I did, I had to use to fix my car ($2,000). I have to move by November 1st and I have no money. Which my ex hopes happens so he can try to take my kids away from me fully. My kids don't want to go to him. They beg now to stay with me permanently. I'm beside myself and worried for my children and what will happen if we can't make this move."
PLEASE HELP AMY AND HER BABIES!
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When he left, I found out how bad our financial situation was. He had to have control of the finances and I had to ask to spend money. I couldn't go to the grocery store to buy things without asking first. I was never permitted to look at the bank account. But, when I did, I found out he had ran up $65k in credit card debt, AND, put me down as working with him for that year and embezzled money under my social that I had to pay the IRS for. Now, our home, the home where our children were born and have grown the last 7 years is being taken from us. My ex has taken me back to court repeatedly to have the child support lowered to the point I can barely survive and take care of our children. I'm having my wages deducted for a credit card he ran up under my name. I have no savings, and what little I did, I had to use to fix my car ($2,000). I have to move by November 1st and I have no money. Which my ex hopes happens so he can try to take my kids away from me fully. My kids don't want to go to him. They beg now to stay with me permanently. I'm beside myself and worried for my children and what will happen if we can't make this move."
PLEASE HELP AMY AND HER BABIES!
GoFundMe's fee is 5% from each donation you receive. WePay's fee is 2.9% + $0.30 per transaction.
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Rachel A Olson
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Hagerstown, MD