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Baby Heaberlin: We know you're out there we just haven't met you yet!
I have always wanted to be a mother. Even as a child when we'd play house I always wanted to be the mom. As I grew up over the years I maintained that dream. I always thought by the age 25 I'd be married and have at least one child. All that changed when I was 16. When I went to the doctor my world was flipped upside down with just a few words... "You have PCOS and there is a 75% chance you will never have children." I can't even begin to tell you how devastating that was.
At 25 I met my best friend and love of my life Ryan! Ryan was a divorced father of 2 beautiful kids. I have to be honest, seeing Ryan as a father was one of the reasons I fell in love with him. He is a great father! We married September 20th, 2008. Not only did I get the most amazing man to share my life with, but I also got 2 amazing step kids that I love with all my heart.
We knew we wanted to start trying to add to our family right away. With our love and faith I thought we could overcome my PCOS. But after trying for a year we decided we needed to go to a fertility doctor. I can't tell you how happy I was that finally was going to be a mom. I just knew it!! Well fast forward 4 years and several fertility treatments later and my arms are still empty. Some of you may understand when I say this. We're told in life that we can do anything or be anything if you just work hard and try...But the one thing every women was born to do, I can't! No matter how much I've prayed, wished, believed, and tried.
After 4 years of the highs and lows, ups and downs. We decided to take some time and focus on what we have instead of what we want. We have a great marriage, and a wonderful family with Ryan, Chandler, Lynzi, and I.
Within a couple of months of deciding to take a break we got the most amazing news. A friend of the family introduced us to a birthmother. It was exactly what we'd been waiting for. We started the adoption process immediately. Getting a home study, background checks, retaining a lawyer. It was a lot to do, but we were so excited it didn't seem like much. All of this went on for about 5 months when we got a call from the birth mothers grandmother. When the number popped up on my phone I was expecting her to say she was in labor. I said "Hello" she said "is this Connie," I said "Yes." And the next words that came out of her mouth destroyed me. "She's keeping the baby." There was about 20 seconds of conversation after that but, I couldn't tell you what was said. It was such a blow. The only way I could describe or compare how we felt that day was maybe like having a miscarriage or stillborn baby.
So that's where we stand. Unless another birth mother happens to land in our lap again we can't afford to adopt through an agency on our own. That's why we started this GoFundMe page. If you took the time to read this, thanks for hearing us out. And if you find it in your heart to help us out with anything, we would greatly appreciate it. If not, that's okay too. Please just repost this link to all your friends, to help us get the word out, and encourage your friends to do the same.
With the power of the internet, Facebook, and Twitter, there's power in numbers. Repost, Retweet, and Share this with everyone. Feel free to call me about this at [phone redacted]
Thank you for your time,
Ryan and Connie Heaberlin
I have always wanted to be a mother. Even as a child when we'd play house I always wanted to be the mom. As I grew up over the years I maintained that dream. I always thought by the age 25 I'd be married and have at least one child. All that changed when I was 16. When I went to the doctor my world was flipped upside down with just a few words... "You have PCOS and there is a 75% chance you will never have children." I can't even begin to tell you how devastating that was.
At 25 I met my best friend and love of my life Ryan! Ryan was a divorced father of 2 beautiful kids. I have to be honest, seeing Ryan as a father was one of the reasons I fell in love with him. He is a great father! We married September 20th, 2008. Not only did I get the most amazing man to share my life with, but I also got 2 amazing step kids that I love with all my heart.
We knew we wanted to start trying to add to our family right away. With our love and faith I thought we could overcome my PCOS. But after trying for a year we decided we needed to go to a fertility doctor. I can't tell you how happy I was that finally was going to be a mom. I just knew it!! Well fast forward 4 years and several fertility treatments later and my arms are still empty. Some of you may understand when I say this. We're told in life that we can do anything or be anything if you just work hard and try...But the one thing every women was born to do, I can't! No matter how much I've prayed, wished, believed, and tried.
After 4 years of the highs and lows, ups and downs. We decided to take some time and focus on what we have instead of what we want. We have a great marriage, and a wonderful family with Ryan, Chandler, Lynzi, and I.
Within a couple of months of deciding to take a break we got the most amazing news. A friend of the family introduced us to a birthmother. It was exactly what we'd been waiting for. We started the adoption process immediately. Getting a home study, background checks, retaining a lawyer. It was a lot to do, but we were so excited it didn't seem like much. All of this went on for about 5 months when we got a call from the birth mothers grandmother. When the number popped up on my phone I was expecting her to say she was in labor. I said "Hello" she said "is this Connie," I said "Yes." And the next words that came out of her mouth destroyed me. "She's keeping the baby." There was about 20 seconds of conversation after that but, I couldn't tell you what was said. It was such a blow. The only way I could describe or compare how we felt that day was maybe like having a miscarriage or stillborn baby.
So that's where we stand. Unless another birth mother happens to land in our lap again we can't afford to adopt through an agency on our own. That's why we started this GoFundMe page. If you took the time to read this, thanks for hearing us out. And if you find it in your heart to help us out with anything, we would greatly appreciate it. If not, that's okay too. Please just repost this link to all your friends, to help us get the word out, and encourage your friends to do the same.
With the power of the internet, Facebook, and Twitter, there's power in numbers. Repost, Retweet, and Share this with everyone. Feel free to call me about this at [phone redacted]
Thank you for your time,
Ryan and Connie Heaberlin
Organizer
Connie Ramsey Heaberlin
Organizer
Greenwood, IN