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I am writting this to express my thoughts on surviving DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. It hurts very much to tell people the pain I have inside and have a hard time relating to people when things get loud, people yelling or when things go wrong I just want to run and hide. Domestic Violence is not a joke and can end up deadly if you do not act and get out! I am a second time survivor and need your help.
The first time I was engaged to a man who I was with for 6 years and abused me. Bought me the world but in my heart I was broken. I was in Boston and moved to florida where my two older children were. I was mentally and physically drained, I worked two jobs and barely slept because I was ordered to pay child support. My younger daughter was living in NY going to school.
My children and I made our way back to N.C. where we had lived before. (We are from NY) I met someone who was military and was british and black. I am caucasian but I see no color as we had a lot of fun together. He was told his unit would go to afghanistan so we decided to get married after 6months of dating. Things were great and then I started getting hit, choked, bruised and I was beside myself. We had suffered through his heart attack, he lost his civilian job, I lost mine, I graduated from cosmetology school and was back a month later to finish my bachelors. We lost our car and then he was back in the hopsital have another stent put in. We then were being evicted from our apt. Thank God we had gotten another car spending all his money he got from the military to buy a car. For two months we slept in our car and I held down a job. Cleaning up in the mall bathroom every morning before work. Every year we were married something happened and last year was the year I decided to leave.
I made many phonecalls and finally had a military group pay for us to get an apt. We had a car and a roof over our heads now I just needed to set my plans into action. I didn't want to leave him living in the car because of his heart. I also got him to go to the VA and get back on his meds for his heart. I wanted to make sure he was all taking care of. I left Nov 15th 2014 I am at a disclosed location with only a po box for him, we are still legally married. Although he was hurt, in pain and is still begging me to come back I just can't. He was diagnosed with PTSD from war and has other issues but that doesn't justify him hurting me. I am glad he is getting the help he needs.
I lost my health insurance when I lost my job before and now I can't get insurance with my current job for a year. I believe I suffer from depression and maybe PTSD myself from the trauma of being abused for so many years. I am having a hard time staying at a job because people just make me mad. I can't sleep but still get up to go to work and maintain being an A student in school.
I currrently do not have my own place or a car muchless have money to buy work clothes. I came with a suitcase full of clothes as my other stuff is in storage in another state. I live with my son. My son and his fiance and my daughter paid for my plane ticket here and I am able to drive my sons one vehicle but it is not economical and three adults and two cars doesn't work sometimes. I am asking for some help to just buy the essentials that I would need in everyday life and a down payment for a car. I am thankful my family is helping but there is only so much they can do. I thank God that he helped me maintain my dignity and pride to know when it was time to leave a bad situation. Everyday I breath I am thankful that I wake up. If you could just help me get back on my feet I would be forever grateful.
The first time I was engaged to a man who I was with for 6 years and abused me. Bought me the world but in my heart I was broken. I was in Boston and moved to florida where my two older children were. I was mentally and physically drained, I worked two jobs and barely slept because I was ordered to pay child support. My younger daughter was living in NY going to school.
My children and I made our way back to N.C. where we had lived before. (We are from NY) I met someone who was military and was british and black. I am caucasian but I see no color as we had a lot of fun together. He was told his unit would go to afghanistan so we decided to get married after 6months of dating. Things were great and then I started getting hit, choked, bruised and I was beside myself. We had suffered through his heart attack, he lost his civilian job, I lost mine, I graduated from cosmetology school and was back a month later to finish my bachelors. We lost our car and then he was back in the hopsital have another stent put in. We then were being evicted from our apt. Thank God we had gotten another car spending all his money he got from the military to buy a car. For two months we slept in our car and I held down a job. Cleaning up in the mall bathroom every morning before work. Every year we were married something happened and last year was the year I decided to leave.
I made many phonecalls and finally had a military group pay for us to get an apt. We had a car and a roof over our heads now I just needed to set my plans into action. I didn't want to leave him living in the car because of his heart. I also got him to go to the VA and get back on his meds for his heart. I wanted to make sure he was all taking care of. I left Nov 15th 2014 I am at a disclosed location with only a po box for him, we are still legally married. Although he was hurt, in pain and is still begging me to come back I just can't. He was diagnosed with PTSD from war and has other issues but that doesn't justify him hurting me. I am glad he is getting the help he needs.
I lost my health insurance when I lost my job before and now I can't get insurance with my current job for a year. I believe I suffer from depression and maybe PTSD myself from the trauma of being abused for so many years. I am having a hard time staying at a job because people just make me mad. I can't sleep but still get up to go to work and maintain being an A student in school.
I currrently do not have my own place or a car muchless have money to buy work clothes. I came with a suitcase full of clothes as my other stuff is in storage in another state. I live with my son. My son and his fiance and my daughter paid for my plane ticket here and I am able to drive my sons one vehicle but it is not economical and three adults and two cars doesn't work sometimes. I am asking for some help to just buy the essentials that I would need in everyday life and a down payment for a car. I am thankful my family is helping but there is only so much they can do. I thank God that he helped me maintain my dignity and pride to know when it was time to leave a bad situation. Everyday I breath I am thankful that I wake up. If you could just help me get back on my feet I would be forever grateful.
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kathleen doss
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Angier, NC