Please help our family after the loss of my mum
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This is a lot to ask of strangers and I'm very aware of it, but my family and I may be running out of options.
My name is Kerren, I'm 16 years old and currently doing my sixth form studies. After a four year long battle with cervical cancer, and as of last week lymphoma, my mum passed away suddenly yesterday afternoon. She was only 43.
When she was handed the cervical cancer diagnosis almost four years ago, she was told it was likely terminal. They put her on chemotherapy, radiotherapy and brachytherapy, giving her as much of each as her body would be able to take. We were told if it didn't work she would die.
This wasn't the case; the cancer was destroyed and she survived, to the great surprise of the doctors there. However, the intense treatment left her with long term kidney, bladder and bowel issues as well as near constant agony in her bones and muscles. She became a shell of who she was and most pain medication did nothing to ease it. After a long battle with various doctors arguing there was nothing wrong with her, they recently discovered that she had a bug that lots of patients get where the bacteria in the intestines find their way to other parts of the body like the stomach. She'd had this since 2016. They also diagnosed her with anemia, which they believed she developed in 2017. These diagnoses came less than a month ago.
And then, last week, they told us she lymphoma.
She was given 6 months if they couldn't proceed with chemotherapy, possibly a year if they could. On Monday 22nd, they decided chemo wasn't an option as she was too weak. On Tuesday 23rd, they decided they were going to move her to a local hospice. On Wednesday 24th, they told my family any attempts to move her would "finish her off" and they advised we keep her in the hospital.
20 minutes after this decision, she passed away. My brother and I didn't get the opportunity to say goodbye.
Our family is devastated. My brother is 15 and autistic and my mum was his rock. My nan and grandad, who have been caring for myself and my brother, are absolutely broken. They have to bury their daughter.
Due to the legality of the ownership of our home, my mum and dad had joint ownership. My mum and dad split up when my brother and I were young so they came to an agreement that my mum would pay the mortgage and that he wouldn't, and he would also never enforce anything to do with his claim over the house. However legally, as my mum couldn't work because of my brother's learning difficulties and later because of her illness, the mortgage company refused to take my dad's name off the house.
While we're all on good terms with him, the issue is that due to the sudden passing of my mum she had no time to make arrangements for the home, and he now has full ownership. He doesn't and never did want it, but now he's the sole name to the house and the mortgage company will demand he pay it.
No one in our family has the money to pay the full mortgage, which currently sits at around £100,000, and without drastic action they'll likely repossess goods or enforce legal action.
We're doing what we can to raise money but we're so scared about what the future holds. The likelihood is we try to raise some money and sell the house to make up the rest of the outstanding cost, but the house isn't worth as much as it used to be. We desperately need to raise funds wherever possible, on top of making arrangements for my mum's funeral.
All money donated here will solely go to pay off out mortgage, aside from the unlikely event that we raise more than we need. Any excess money will then be put towards my mum's funeral costs and/or cancer research UK and the local hospice that cared for my mum and helped her get her medication right during her long battle. Garden House not only helped her be pain free, the people there were kind and compassionate and made sure she was always comfortable and happy. On the various occasions she was there, she was more like my mum than she ever was since her illness started. Our family would love to give back to them if possible when our worries are behind us.
The last 4 years of my mum's life were hell, but she was the strongest and kindest woman I've ever known. She never wanted to leave our family in this position. Please, if you can, donate a small amount. Anything we raise will be more than we currently have. If you can't donate, please share and spread this.
I appreciate you taking the time to read this, and if you can make a donation, then I thank you beyond belief.
Kerren and Andrew x
My name is Kerren, I'm 16 years old and currently doing my sixth form studies. After a four year long battle with cervical cancer, and as of last week lymphoma, my mum passed away suddenly yesterday afternoon. She was only 43.
When she was handed the cervical cancer diagnosis almost four years ago, she was told it was likely terminal. They put her on chemotherapy, radiotherapy and brachytherapy, giving her as much of each as her body would be able to take. We were told if it didn't work she would die.
This wasn't the case; the cancer was destroyed and she survived, to the great surprise of the doctors there. However, the intense treatment left her with long term kidney, bladder and bowel issues as well as near constant agony in her bones and muscles. She became a shell of who she was and most pain medication did nothing to ease it. After a long battle with various doctors arguing there was nothing wrong with her, they recently discovered that she had a bug that lots of patients get where the bacteria in the intestines find their way to other parts of the body like the stomach. She'd had this since 2016. They also diagnosed her with anemia, which they believed she developed in 2017. These diagnoses came less than a month ago.
And then, last week, they told us she lymphoma.
She was given 6 months if they couldn't proceed with chemotherapy, possibly a year if they could. On Monday 22nd, they decided chemo wasn't an option as she was too weak. On Tuesday 23rd, they decided they were going to move her to a local hospice. On Wednesday 24th, they told my family any attempts to move her would "finish her off" and they advised we keep her in the hospital.
20 minutes after this decision, she passed away. My brother and I didn't get the opportunity to say goodbye.
Our family is devastated. My brother is 15 and autistic and my mum was his rock. My nan and grandad, who have been caring for myself and my brother, are absolutely broken. They have to bury their daughter.
Due to the legality of the ownership of our home, my mum and dad had joint ownership. My mum and dad split up when my brother and I were young so they came to an agreement that my mum would pay the mortgage and that he wouldn't, and he would also never enforce anything to do with his claim over the house. However legally, as my mum couldn't work because of my brother's learning difficulties and later because of her illness, the mortgage company refused to take my dad's name off the house.
While we're all on good terms with him, the issue is that due to the sudden passing of my mum she had no time to make arrangements for the home, and he now has full ownership. He doesn't and never did want it, but now he's the sole name to the house and the mortgage company will demand he pay it.
No one in our family has the money to pay the full mortgage, which currently sits at around £100,000, and without drastic action they'll likely repossess goods or enforce legal action.
We're doing what we can to raise money but we're so scared about what the future holds. The likelihood is we try to raise some money and sell the house to make up the rest of the outstanding cost, but the house isn't worth as much as it used to be. We desperately need to raise funds wherever possible, on top of making arrangements for my mum's funeral.
All money donated here will solely go to pay off out mortgage, aside from the unlikely event that we raise more than we need. Any excess money will then be put towards my mum's funeral costs and/or cancer research UK and the local hospice that cared for my mum and helped her get her medication right during her long battle. Garden House not only helped her be pain free, the people there were kind and compassionate and made sure she was always comfortable and happy. On the various occasions she was there, she was more like my mum than she ever was since her illness started. Our family would love to give back to them if possible when our worries are behind us.
The last 4 years of my mum's life were hell, but she was the strongest and kindest woman I've ever known. She never wanted to leave our family in this position. Please, if you can, donate a small amount. Anything we raise will be more than we currently have. If you can't donate, please share and spread this.
I appreciate you taking the time to read this, and if you can make a donation, then I thank you beyond belief.
Kerren and Andrew x
Organizer and beneficiary
Kerren Clark
Organizer
Chris Clark
Beneficiary
