Our IVF Journey

My Name is Danica and there is not a lot of things in this world I know for sure. I do know love, I do know life and I do know what a body struggling with Lupus goes through everyday. I imagined that the breath taking pain would be the extent of my suffering in this life and I was always prepared to handle the struggle of Lupus with my chin held high with an immense amount of grace and dignity. I wear my struggles as a badge of honor and I am proud of my inner soul than continues to fight on. Everyday my toes touch the cool ground beneath and I make a promise to myself and the ones I love the most to never give up hope and fight with my very own super power.........courage, love and laughter.


Greg and I entered each others life at perfect time, like a fast car. He blew my hair out of my face and opened up my eyes to the world and self love. He taught me what it means to believe in yourself and what it means to believe in the one you love. He shrugged off Lupus with the spring breeze and took my hand and my heart for the ride of a lifetime. He sees the world through eyes filled with adventure, wonder and amazement. Greg has allowed me to believe in miracles and that through daily pain there is still so much joy to be seen and laughter to be heard. I am the lucky one.


If I was not playing school as a child I was playing house with my babies. The love of children followed me through the years and I went to school to be a teacher. As I was beginning my student teaching Lupus decided to join my life. Lupus did not casually show up here and there. It was more of an in your face TA DA kind of entrance. It derailed everything I had known in the past and wanted in the future. My doctors told me teaching would not be possible due to the autoimmune issues I would have to learn to live with. At the crossroads of my education I chose accounting and went full force into it. It took me some time and a few set backs but I graduated with honors.........ten years after I started!

You will not find me in the middle of a balance sheet or preparing financial statements. My body would not allow me to work in an office without monthly trips to the hospital. Finally giving in to what the doctors had begged me for I sadly walked away from an amazing career in order to attend to my body and allow it to become as healthy as it possibly could. I knew in the end what my dream ultimately was going to, I was going to prepare myself to be a mama.


The time of healing was much needed and when I closed those doors so many more opened. I met my beautifully, amazing husband. I followed my love of children and nanny for a tiny tot who is truly the most amazing pea in the pod. My support system has cemented itself and I am never left feeling alone. Greg and I have come into our own and are ready to celebrate our life with a little bean of our own.

This journey has not been easy. It has had unimaginable lows of hearing that we are not going to be able to do this on our own. My body is to fragile and if we want a family of our own we must go down a road I had never wanted to turn down. However, the desire of becoming parents have left us shrugging our shoulders, looking at the doctor and with begging eyes asked, "What's next?"


As the doctor explained to us we do not have the luxury of time because of my body. I have been off all medications treating my Lupus for a year and a half in the hopes of becoming pregnant with no luck. As time goes on we must move forward towards our dream of being a mom and dad. Based on the doctor's recommendations and what my body is internally saying, our only hope at this point in time is IVF, In Vitro Fertilization.

IVF is an arduous process for both Greg and I. Along with the process itself being very difficult physically the financial ramification is beyond our grasp. However, we do not wan this to take away our hope of becoming parents. We are in the middle of the process to nurture and grow our little snow babies!!!!!

Greg and I are doing the best we can but we are reaching out for a little bit of help at this point. We are looking for donations, words of encouragement and prayers. If you can offer any of those we would be forever in your debt in aiding in our quest to be the best parents we could possibly be to our future little one.

Thank you so much for your love, compassion and courage on our journey to parenthood!!!!


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