Hope for Sydney
Donation protected
There are no words to describe the gut-wrenching feeling in my stomach when I received that call hearing that my sweet 14 year old daughter Sydney jumped off a large bridge in an attempt to commit suicide about a week and a half ago on Christmas Day. It still seems unreal. It's a miracle she's alive.
My ex-husband and I have 3 beautiful girls and Sydney is our middle child. She is a sweet, caring girl that always wants to make sure everyone around her is happy. She even wishes for the bad guys in the movies that we watch to go unharmed. From the day she came into this world I knew she was very special. Her purpose here is great, but unfortunately being so young Sydney is not yet aware of the important spot she has in this world. Being extremely empathetic and absorbing the emotions of every sort can leave someone like her overwhelmed and feeling as if there is no purpose. Then of course to top it off, Covid-19 hits and no longer can she interact with others in a social environment outside of home. Instead, this distant learning requires that Sydney along with every child in America receives their education from behind the screen of a computer. This strips away any form of real life human interaction along with the normal everyday struggles that come with being a teenager, children including Sydney start feeling lonely and hopeless with no end in sight. She expressed this to me prior to the suicide attempt and I immediately set up an appointment with a therapist but the guy kept making appointments and breaking them. I had plans to reschedule for the third time when this horrible event happened. Around midnight on Christmas Sydney told her younger sister that she was gonna go get candy at the corner store. Instead she went to the nearby 50 ft. bridge and let herself fall backwards off it landing in half a foot of rocky water. After realizing she was gone too long her sisters went looking for her and noticed police and an ambulance near the bridge. A fisherman happened to be down there and heard her hit the water. This amazing man didn't ask any questions about why she was in the water but instead he kept her calm and called 911. We are still looking to find out this man's identity to thank him and let him know now how amazing he is.
Sydney was rushed to the ER. It was so hard to see her laying on that table not knowing how this would all turn out. After the X-ray we found out that she broke her lower back in two different spots. She had to have two 5 hour surgeries and a double fusion. She has a lot of nerve pain and a numb spot on her thigh where she cannot feel anything. Sydney has a very, very long road ahead of her. She is supposed to make a full recovery. God was with her when she fell because she escaped being paralyzed by millimeters. We are all so grateful.
I want to truly thank you for taking the time to read this and may God bless you and your families during these trying times due to Covid-19. I am not just asking for financial help, but I am also hoping that whoever reads this and has teenagers doing online school because of Covid, to be aware of ANY changes in behavior and constantly communicate with them. I am so thankful because it could have been way worse. Sydney has a special purpose on this Earth just like everybody does. I want parents to explain to their kids that this new way of living due to Covid is temporary and things will improve. They need to know that they have a long, purposeful life ahead of them.
Obviously, this has taken an emotional toll on everybody in the family. Sydney will need to have very good therapy which is what any donations we receive will first go to as well as much needed financial help with bills and other living expenses. Sydney will need someone with her constantly and any donations at all will take some of the financial stress away from the family to help focus on giving Sydney more positive attention so she can she understand her importance in the world. Also, I would love to find the man who saved her and give him a reward. I know he is homeless and we would like to pay it forward by helping him. So please if you can donate anything at all, even $1 would help. If you can't donate money we completely understand but ask if you can please pray for our family or even share this with someone else. Much love and thank you so much for helping us!!!
Organizer and beneficiary
Jill Stabler
Organizer
Huntington Beach, CA
Christian Ratsek
Beneficiary