All she knows is family violence
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Jane and Ava NEED YOUR HELP.
Jane left her an unfulfilling and damaging relationship when Ava was just a baby. Years on, she, and young Ava pay for that decision, every day. "I came to a point of sadness and packed my car, strapped my baby in and drove away, that was 8 years ago". Since then, the harrasment, the manipulation, the court cases, the abuse - psychological, financial, emotional and physical has been endless.
Jane has had family law orders, intervention orders, locks changed, worked with psychologists, counsellers, family therapists and is currently seeking help through a womens and childrens family violence service.
It doeant stop.
"If I ignore the endless controlling text messages and calls , he will 'send' those messages to me through Ava. The trauma his game of conquer and divide causes is immeasureable and brings many tears and heartache". Young Ava socially isolates herself, often expresses self hatred and has huge difficulty expressing emotions appropriately. Her high levels of anxiety make it hard for her to focus, relate to other children and to get to sleep each night.
Jane is never free from her controlling ex partner.
He has called her workplace to check her work hours, reported her centrelink and the child support agency, resulting in both payments being suspended, more than once. So they could "investigate currents claims", during these times, Jane and Ava had a part time minimum wage to survive off. This was not enough to cover their rent, let alone food.
"In desperation, the last time, I asked him for financial support. He offered a single mandarin, laughing".
Jane has also been reported to the federal police by her abusive ex. "Both Ava and I were investigated by the federal police". Afterwards he admitted to her "I knew you didnt do anything, I just thought you'd lose your job".
Jane went to court, several times and stood up for herself and young Ava. Now, with a $ 20,000 debt to her name, the abuse continues.
Her ex says things to Ava like, "Mum took me to court so that I couldnt see you, she hates me and she is making me sad by keeping you away", aswell as this, he shows her articles online about fathers commiting suicide when they are denied access to their children. "Mum will make this happen to me" he tells her.
Ava loves and worries greatly for her Dad. She too has fallen victim to his endless games and believes all will be ok if she goes to live with him.
"He does all of this, fighting for custody, making our lives so miserable with the open intention to move interstate and neglect all parenting responsibility anyway". "He often tells me, 'you left me, you asked for this' ".
He has attempted to keep Ava with him beyond the court allocated time, even physically hurting Jane when she tried to intervene and make a quick exit. The police were contacted. Jane was told, if this happens again, we cant do anything unless he takes her out of the state or country.
"I live in fear that every time she goes, she may not return".
Jane's ex made a plan to move interstate. They agreed that Jane and Ava would move into and live in the house they purchased together, during their relationship. It had been neglected and was in a poor state. Jane and her ex have an agreement , through the court to sell the property and split the money. We also made a verbal agreement to renovate the house. When Jane and Ava moved back in, there were rooms without floors, no hot water , faulty wiring and no stove. He left the property. "He gave me the keys, went away, left all his things in the home, bills overdue, rates unpaid and has not contributed a cent". Jane worked and saved to slowly get each one repaired. The abuse continues, the pain mounting.
Jane has gotten so far, but is feeling the weight of the damage done to both her and young Ava. With several appointments each week with different therapists on top of sole parenting, work, renovations and at times, life itself seem impossibly hard.
This is where we come in!
Jane has had a real estate appraisal and with only a small amount of work to be done to get the property on the market, we can help raise some much needed funds to cover trades people to complete the remaining work and cut another damaging chord to free both Jane and Ava. So far, all Ava knows in her short life is family violence, lets show her a new reality.
I want to help my dear friend Jane, Will you help too?
Many thanks, Sarah xx
Jane left her an unfulfilling and damaging relationship when Ava was just a baby. Years on, she, and young Ava pay for that decision, every day. "I came to a point of sadness and packed my car, strapped my baby in and drove away, that was 8 years ago". Since then, the harrasment, the manipulation, the court cases, the abuse - psychological, financial, emotional and physical has been endless.
Jane has had family law orders, intervention orders, locks changed, worked with psychologists, counsellers, family therapists and is currently seeking help through a womens and childrens family violence service.
It doeant stop.
"If I ignore the endless controlling text messages and calls , he will 'send' those messages to me through Ava. The trauma his game of conquer and divide causes is immeasureable and brings many tears and heartache". Young Ava socially isolates herself, often expresses self hatred and has huge difficulty expressing emotions appropriately. Her high levels of anxiety make it hard for her to focus, relate to other children and to get to sleep each night.
Jane is never free from her controlling ex partner.
He has called her workplace to check her work hours, reported her centrelink and the child support agency, resulting in both payments being suspended, more than once. So they could "investigate currents claims", during these times, Jane and Ava had a part time minimum wage to survive off. This was not enough to cover their rent, let alone food.
"In desperation, the last time, I asked him for financial support. He offered a single mandarin, laughing".
Jane has also been reported to the federal police by her abusive ex. "Both Ava and I were investigated by the federal police". Afterwards he admitted to her "I knew you didnt do anything, I just thought you'd lose your job".
Jane went to court, several times and stood up for herself and young Ava. Now, with a $ 20,000 debt to her name, the abuse continues.
Her ex says things to Ava like, "Mum took me to court so that I couldnt see you, she hates me and she is making me sad by keeping you away", aswell as this, he shows her articles online about fathers commiting suicide when they are denied access to their children. "Mum will make this happen to me" he tells her.
Ava loves and worries greatly for her Dad. She too has fallen victim to his endless games and believes all will be ok if she goes to live with him.
"He does all of this, fighting for custody, making our lives so miserable with the open intention to move interstate and neglect all parenting responsibility anyway". "He often tells me, 'you left me, you asked for this' ".
He has attempted to keep Ava with him beyond the court allocated time, even physically hurting Jane when she tried to intervene and make a quick exit. The police were contacted. Jane was told, if this happens again, we cant do anything unless he takes her out of the state or country.
"I live in fear that every time she goes, she may not return".
Jane's ex made a plan to move interstate. They agreed that Jane and Ava would move into and live in the house they purchased together, during their relationship. It had been neglected and was in a poor state. Jane and her ex have an agreement , through the court to sell the property and split the money. We also made a verbal agreement to renovate the house. When Jane and Ava moved back in, there were rooms without floors, no hot water , faulty wiring and no stove. He left the property. "He gave me the keys, went away, left all his things in the home, bills overdue, rates unpaid and has not contributed a cent". Jane worked and saved to slowly get each one repaired. The abuse continues, the pain mounting.
Jane has gotten so far, but is feeling the weight of the damage done to both her and young Ava. With several appointments each week with different therapists on top of sole parenting, work, renovations and at times, life itself seem impossibly hard.
This is where we come in!
Jane has had a real estate appraisal and with only a small amount of work to be done to get the property on the market, we can help raise some much needed funds to cover trades people to complete the remaining work and cut another damaging chord to free both Jane and Ava. So far, all Ava knows in her short life is family violence, lets show her a new reality.
I want to help my dear friend Jane, Will you help too?
Many thanks, Sarah xx
Organizer
Sarah Yates
Organizer
Melbourne, VIC