Stacey's funeral funds - for when the time comes

Thank you all for the kind donations so far. I can not express how much this means to us all.

Hi I’m stacey’s dad David.

I am looking to raise funds to help pay towards my daughters Stacey Jervis funeral.

Recently we were given the heart breaking news that Stacey is terminally ill, with a prognosis of 2 months to live.

Stacey is 33 years old and is a very loving mum too 3 beautiful children aged 9, 14 & 16, sadly she wasn't given the easiest life as she has had to fight hard over the past 8-9 years with many different illnesses and her strength has overwhelmed us all.

Any money I am able to raise will go towards giving her the best send off we can, house clearance and if anything is spare it will be split between stacey 3 children.

In 2014 she was diagnosed with fibromyalgia, but her mobility decreased so quickly, any illness such as a common cold her body was struggling to fight off.

She ended up with what we thought was a chest infection, which quickly turned into phenomena, she was admitted to ashford hospital who put her into an induced coma, as all antibiotics they tired wasn't working. They told us all to prepare for the worse, as a family we all thought that was the end then.

Ashford hospital was communicating with London hospital, who then gave us hope, they wanted stacey there as they had an idea what was happening to her. This was when we all found out that Stacey has lupus, but thankful London managed to get her pneumonia under control. They saved her life, they gave our family more time with her.

It has been so hard as a family as Stacey was healthy and absolutely full of life before she was struck with this illness, it’s been an extremely difficult journey not only for her but all of us, especially her children to go from a mum who could run around and play to a mum who is very poorly constantly in and out of hospital sometime for weeks/months.

The hospital took a simple biopsy of her lymphoma in her armpit, that wouldn't heal which left her with massive hole in her armpit. The hospital really didn't understand why something that should heal wasn't, even with lupus she shouldn't be reacting this bad. After many test and different medications they found she had the rarest, most difficult case of lupus they had ever seen! And she would never go into remission. So the lupus team had a very difficult case on their hands.

They asked Stacey if they could use trial drugs and use her case to teach and train doctors / nurses, as she is so giving she agreed and her case will now help others.

No matter what pain she is in she always smiles and says "I'm okay dont worry about me". I am so proud of how she has dealt with her diagnosis, just took it on the chin, never stopped laughing or making jokes. The strength she has shown is so overwhelming, my girl is a fighter , we all know she will fight until the end and always have a smile on her face.

Stacey has so many other conditions due to her lupus, kidney failure since 2016 resulting in dialysis 3 times a week.

Along with shrinking lung disease, bone disease, tacky heart, enlarged spleen. She has been admitted to hospital with sepsis so many times almost double figures!!!.

Over the past few years she has suffered with ascites, where her tummy is full of fluid pushing on her organs which resulted in her having her stomach drained almost every week, she can no long have this as she has no haemoglobin so is at risk of bleeding out, so she has to live with an enlarged stomach full of fluid, she calls it her twins lol.

Gosh I can not even remember everything she has wrong with her as the list is so long, thyroid disease and other life threatening issues that She has bravely managed to fight... but my point is she has NEVER stopped fighting.

My daughter Stacey has now been diagnosed with myelofibrosis, a rare cancer of the bone. after a bone marrow biopsy they discovered this and that she has no bone marrow at all, due to this they can not get her platelets up, she has no haemoglobin so her blood isn’t clotting. Even having dialysis is very dangerous, She is at risk of stroke or heart attack while on the machine. Stacey’s blood group keeps changing due to infection and no bone marrow at the moment her blood group is so rare the hospitals are struggling to get the blood She needs to help keep her alive.

So the hospital can do no more, Stacey will have to make the heart breaking decision to stop dialysis very soon, and when she does she will pass within 1 to 2 weeks.

We are now sorting hospice care for when dialysis is stopped to start palliative care, so Stacey can be kept as comfortable as possible.

Thank you for reading my daughters story. We are so grateful of any donations no matter how small.