Help A Disabled Trans Man Move Out

Hello, my name is Endo (it/its), and I am a chronically ill, disabled trans man living in a very small conservative rural town in the middle of nowhere in the midwest away from my family and friends. I'm fundraising to help get me out of this town, away from the abuse I'm regularly subjected to here, back to where I grew up in a much more populated area so I can move in with my partner and childhood best friend.

Some context as to how I got here and why I'm trying to leave:

Not long after Christmas of 2022, I was kicked out of my father's home- one that had been very emotionally abusive and neglectful. I was unable to hold a job due to being disabled, knew nothing about how to care for myself. Living with my Mom was not an option because she was just as bad if not worse than my father due to being physically abusive. I reached out to my grandparents as a last resort to avoid being homeless and they agreed to take me in.

Since then, I have been living with my grandparents, in a very small conservative town multiple states away from where I grew up. Unfortunately, my grandparents are also abusive towards me, and they have grown increasingly so over the past few years. I have very limited access to decent medical care here, or any kind of social outlet due to most places being well over an hours drive away. I'm also frequently left to deal with my grandparents emotional abuse and gaslighting. Because of my disabilities and illnesses (which include a dissociative disorder, chronic fatigue & nausea, POTs and C-PTSD)- I am unable to drive and unable to hold a job, and I need accomodations for my disabilities that my grandparents are completely unwilling to give me. I have been fighting to get SSI for over a year, and have had 0 luck. I am still actively fighting their denials with little assistance legally and emotionally.

My grandparents are both still in contact with my mother, and they actively deny any abuse she put me through and I am continually forced to be around her. I'm frequently degraded and gaslit about my health. I've now had violence threatened towards me on multiple occasions.

My friends and partner are occasionally able to travel enough to keep me with them for a few days out of the year when they have the finances to do so. I believe that being there long term would improve my mental health enough to be able to try and get a part time job that is safe, or support myself through my freelance work.

I am constantly simply surviving between visits. I am tired of being isolated and abused by my relatives. I am at a point of desperation where sometimes I feel that being homeless in my hometown would be better than living in my small conservative town that I am in.

For this purpose I am fundraising to get out. I feel staying here long term has had more negative consequences than positive outside of having a roof over my head. My mental and physical health are continually getting worse the longer I am here.

I am fundraising for $15k. I want to be able to support myself for at least a year in order to help my physical and mental health without worrying about needing to force myself to work. I will continue to work towards getting SSI and saving money where I can, but I want to give myself a sort of cushion in case it falls through again. Regardless however I will be trying to leave by the end of 2025/beginning of 2026.

With $15k I will be able to:

I believe that this is fully necessary in order to give myself the best possible chance at surviving on my own. In that time it takes, I will continue to save on my own with my freelance work and continue to fight for SSI so I don't have to work a physical job I'm unable to keep.

Any support is greatly appreciated, and everything I get will count towards helping me live a better life. If you are unable to donate I would appreciate if this fundraiser was shared around. Thank you!

Edit: 1/12/2025

This fundraiser description has been edited to more accurately reflect the current severity of my living conditions as they've grown increasingly worse since this fundraiser was created. Again, any support helps even if it's just a tiny amount.

Edit: 1/29/2025

This fundraiser description has been updated again because I'm getting the fuck out. Circumstances have changed and my partner has the potential ability to take me in end of the year/beginning of 2026. I am now completely paying for everything on my own and there is 0 point in staying here since I am getting absolutely no help. I'm getting out, with or without help.