Help Support the Abel Family

I'd like to first ask anyone who has opened this page to please take the few minutes to please read my family’s story. I also want to thank anyone who is willing to help, any amount is beyond gratefully appreciated. I am starting this gofundme mainly for my mother Tara who has always been the most hard working, strongest, and bravest woman I have ever met.



This past year has been by far the hardest and most challenging one yet and probably ever for our family. Last June we lost my father who took his own life. This is something I wish for no child, wife, husband, mother, father, or anyone to ever have to go through. Losing my father the way that we did will forever leave us heartbroken. I can't imagine what my mother goes through everyday to have lost her soulmate. This is why I say she is the strongest, bravest, most hard working woman I know. As broken as we all were and will always be she still continued to keep a brave face, comfort us to help us begin to heal, and continued to work to support not only herself, my sister, myself, but also my 3 year old son Sterling, and at the time my soon to be new baby on the way. 

We then had to find a new home to rent because being in the house where my dad had died in was just too much for us to handle. So after a long process of looking at house after house that was affordable and comfortable enough to fit our family of 4 but soon to be 5. In April, after months of looking we finally found somewhere that we were able to secure and move into. Then on May 18th we welcomed my baby girl Nova to the world who added more joy to our recently shattered world. 

Little did we know a few days later we would have yet another traumatic event occur. On May 23rd, I used my moms car to drive myself to the hospital to see my baby girl Nova, but I never made it to the hospital. I literally never drive so deciding to use my moms car to then drive on major roads and highways was definitely one of the worst decisions I have ever made. For not driving in almost 3 years I was doing pretty well up until when I was behind a tractor trailer. Anyone who drives knows when you are right behind a tractor trailer you can't see anything in front of you, especially the stop lights. I was driving at a decent speed, but only to keep up with all the other drivers around me. I glanced down to the gps, then looked back up, and in the matter of a second..... BAM!!!! The tractor trailer must have came to a red light that he slammed on his breaks which happened at the same time between me looking down at the gps to back up right into the end of the tractor trailor. I really don't remember much only a minute or so right before they cut the car apart to get me out from where my legs were pinned, but the pain was so bad that I blacked out again. I woke up in the hospital where I was told the left side of my pelvis was shattered. So, a ton of bruises covering my body, cuts, stitches, blood transfusion, a 1 1/2 FT long insision, 4 plates, and a ton of screws to rebuild my pelvis and 56 staples later. It’s honestly amazing and miracle that I made it through that accident alive. All I know is that I did not do that on my own, and that my dad was right by my side to make sure I stayed here on earth with my family and to watch my children grow. 


While I was in the hospital for my 2 week stay I was shocked when I was told it would be at the very least 3 months till I could even think about trying to walk again. Or at that even putting any little type of weight on my left leg at all. I immediately wanted to be sick from the wave of anxiety, worry, and sadness that I felt come over me. Not only do I have a 3 year old son but now also a newborn baby that I am supposed to take care of. Meanwhile, at that time I can hardly even sit up out of bed without becoming ready to faint. All that was going through my head was how impossible everything seemed to suddenly be. With the father of my kids not around at all and with no way of getting financial help from him. Then, with me not being able to start working again for a very, very, very long time when I had originally planned to work 6 weeks after Nova was born. I now have absolutely no way to financially support my own children, and I have no way of financially helping my mom with rent and bills, as we had originally planned.  At this point there was not much left of my moms savings due to paying off recent debt, funeral expenses, our deposit and new monthly rent, and not to mention just normal every day living expenses. 

Here is another reason why I say that my mom is the strongest, bravest, and hardest working woman I’ve ever known. Even though she knew just how much we would struggle financially, my mom didn't give it a  second thought to not go back to work. Instead she decided to stay at home to take care of her family. She used the couple weeks of vacation time she had left and once that was used up she was then granted a 12 week unpaid leave.

When I first came home she had to help me with literally everything from the smallest most  simple things to very difficult. Things like getting a drink, food, sitting up, sitting down, using a walker, giving my shots, getting me to the bathroom, showering, you name it and I needed her help with it. Not only do I rely on her and need her, but also my 3 year old son and my new born baby girl too. In her head She has no choice but to continue using her unpaid leave from work, but now it is really truly effecting her financially. After her having to get a new car, paying rent, bills, food, basic things for the home...the savings is withering away and soon we'll be left with nothing. 

This is where I broke down and realized I need to do something about this and ask for help. So here I am asking anyone who can give anything towards our family to help us catch up on bills, rent, and paying for diapers, wipes, household items. My mom has lost 3 months worth of pay. My mom does not deserve to struggle anymore and for how hard she has worked her whole life she should not have to now worry about this on top of everything else she’s gone through this year.

We are hoping to reach the goal of $8,000 because each month we spend a little over $3,000 on the rent, bills, food, diapers/wipes, other household items. So I took the $3,000 a month and times that by 3 for those 3 months unpaid leave time she took off from work, which comes to $9,000. The money will be going straight to my mothers bank card to go straight  towards all the things we have listed to be paid for. We are not the type of people that like to burden others with our struggles, to admit we need help, because we know life can always be worse and there are others are struggling much worse. At this moment though this is our worse and I know we need help, and that we can’t do this alone. My main goal is to try to get my mom the money she has lost out on from not working the 3 months (possibly more), and also the money she will need to get a new car because at this point she can’t even afford that.

Please, anything will help. I don't want my mom to have to go through anymore heartache, stress, and worry. She deserves to let people help her so I'm asking for her, to please help my mom, help my son, help my baby girl, and help me get through this once again difficult time we are going through. At this point we are left with just about nothing. 

THANK YOU TO EVERYONE who has read and an even bigger THANK YOU TO EVERYONE who will contribute to this campaign.