A former Caregiver for his parents needs help
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Hello, my name is James Hensel, and I need your help. For the past decade, my parents. Lloyd and Emily Hensel, have been ill And they have needed around the clock care. Several years ago, I quit my job, and moved home full time to take care of them. Earlier in January, I lost my father to I believe to dementia, and it was just my mom and I against the world. We picked up the pieces after he died, and tried to get on with our lives. But on November 14th, I suddenly and unexpectedly lost my mother to complications from her cancer.
I'm still brokenhearted, but I don't have time to cry right now. I need to act. We were living on my mother's widow's benefits for railroad retirement, which we not be coming next month as mom has passed. Now, even as I mourn my mother, I am quickly turning in applications to jobs so I can get back into the workforce. However, it is unlikely I can earn enough for next months bills, which are only 15 days away, especially with thanksgiving just around the corner. Until I can secure another job and work it, which will take a little time, I have no income or assets besides the mortgaged house I now live in.
My mother-Emily Hensel -formerly Emily Street-, spent her whole life taking care of those in need, acting as the interpreter for the deaf, and fighting for the rights of the disabled a a member of the Ohio's governor council for people with disabilities. Now, the little bit of legacy my father have left me is in danger, as I need some time to get myself fully back into the workforce, and try to piece the shattered fragments of my life back together. The medical bills and other expenses have left us with no savings or financial assets of any kind.
I hate asking for handouts and charity, when there are so many others who actually need it more than I. But real life doesn't go on time-out while I mourn the loss of dearest person in the world to me. But the outlook for saving everything I have is bleak. Our disposable culture offers no respect for those who practice familial piety, and there is no mercy or compassion for taking care of your parents in their old age, so I must seek help from elsewhere to save what little my family has.
The amount I am asking for here may seem like a lot, but I plan to use it strictly for utilities, mortgage, food, and my mom's medical bills. This will give me a month or two to search for a job, and take over paying the bills myself. i hate asking for money from friends, family, and complete strangers- But I cannot lose what my family struggled so hard for. This house has been in my family for generations- and, god willing, I'd like to see it passed on to the next generation if I someday am able to start a family of my own. Any money that goes over that will strictly be used for paying forward on bills and expenses my mother's passing left behind.
Please, if you can help out, even just a dollar- it would be appreciated. From her work with the disabled, my mom taught me the one person's acts of kindness can inspire others, and many acts of kindness by many people can change lives for the better. I don't want any reward or glory for caring for mom and dad- for bathing, feeding, sorting their pills, and getting their doctors appointments- taking care of them in their old age, and preventing them from having to go into a nursing home, was reward enough. But I am desperate to save the little bit of legacy they have left me behind. I will probably spend christmas and thanksgiving alone, but I would at least be able to spend it without fear of losing my home or the utilities being shut off. And someday, when I am financially stable again, I will pay this kindness forward, and help others who are in need.
Anyway, I have made my plea, thank you for your time. Happy Thanksgiving, Merry Christmas, and god bless.
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James Hensel
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Navarre, OH