A Fresh Start for Brieanna After Trauma

TW: ABUSE AGAINST WOMEN!

Hello! my name is Brieanna. I am 28!

I’m asking for help right now because I am trying to rebuild my life after leaving my abusive “relationship”. I have worked hard to survive everything life has thrown at me, but right now, I can’t do it alone anymore. I’m scared and desperate, confused by his actions and lonely.

For almost two years, I experienced physical, emotional, sexual, and financial abuse. Every paycheck I earned was taken from me! I was coerced into handing over anything I made just to cover basic survival needs like food and medication. I felt like it was go hungry/eviction or pay my ticket, so I chose the obvious. He then ensured I would lose my jobs I had, through various means. This was to control me.

That’s why I wasn’t able to pay for my traffic ticket at the time. I was in survival mode, and now I’m left picking up the pieces. I missed two payments, and now it’s been turned into a warrant that’s requiring me to pay $1100.00 all at once. (See pics)

Despite all of that, I’m determined to move forward!! It is terrifying but I have been homeless for a few weeks now I’m really working towards building a life that no one else can control. I’ve lost weight and slept restlessly in uncomfortable places but I’m still fighting back!

I’m trying to secure a safe, stable place to live! somewhere no one can take from me, somewhere I won’t have to depend on anyone else’s opinion of me to survive. I want the freedom to stand on my own two feet. I’m so exhausted by begging for my basic needs to be met by someone who uses them against me, threatening to kick me out when he gave me a place to live and letting me quite literally starve at times… :/ it’s obvious he only cares for himself, and I feel completely less than a human.

I’m hoping for $5,000 total but anything would be more than I have now! Even if I don’t get moving costs, just being able to stop depending on anyone would bring me some independence.

Here’s where the money would go:

• $1,100 – Clear the traffic ticket and remove the warrant

• $2,000 – First month’s rent and security deposit for a stable, safe apartment on my OWN

• $1,500 – Living essentials (groceries, transportation, medications until Medicaid approved, basic needs for 2+ months)

• $400 – Emergency savings buffer (for unexpected moving or survival costs)

This isn’t just about survival for me, although that is a real concern: it’s about healing.

After surviving my first abusive relationship and attempted murder, I started working in behavioral health and addiction treatment. I’ve dedicated myself to helping people see their own inherent worth — because when you’re struggling with addiction, mental health, or abuse, it can feel like the whole world has forgotten you. How I ended up with another abuser? These patterns are cyclical and abusers don’t reveal themselves as such at first :(

All it takes is one person to look you in the eyes and tell you: You are worthy. You deserve love, respect, and kindness just as you are.

That’s what I want to continue doing with my life!

Right now, I just need a chance to stabilize and stand on my own.

If you’re able to help — with a donation or even by sharing this, you are giving me the chance to not just survive, but to continue spreading goodness into a world that desperately needs it. It’s not all dark and evil, no matter how badly abusive people want you to think that’s all there is.

Thank you for reading, sharing, and standing with me in this.

Even the smallest support means more than you can imagine!!

thank you so much!

FAQ:

why not women’s shelter?

I have reached out to local resources and they can only help so much, waitlist for women’s shelter is 4-6 months :(

have you called 211? Food stamps?

yes ! I have! waiting for a letter from the welfare office so I know what documents to submit to verify currently… Then I am sure I will be approved !!

family ?

I have reached out to my family for support and they have helped as much as they could with a little bit of money here and there, but they are in no position to support me more than a few dollars. Their current landlord will not allow any additional people to live at their house, they’re moving soon too.

where are you living now?

I was living at the Siegel suites for a couple of weeks on and off, but couldn’t afford the rent anymore, I’ve sold all of my valuables like my electronics and things trying to pay. Luckily a kind friend in Fernley has allowed me to stay with him for a little, but I am worried because I don’t trust any man despite how kind and generous my friend is! I am grateful and fortunate to have a place to rest my head and keep my things where I know they will not be stolen and I believe I am physically safe for now!

are you pressing charges?

I have considered pressing charges, and I did get an examination within 12 hours to collect DNA just in case I do want to go through with charges. I have filed a police report at the end of last year as well. I am scared of retaliation and also worried about the warrant if I were to interact with law-enforcement. Luckily, the examiner said there is no signs of injury in the “personal” area, that the bruising on my legs is likely from an attempt that was abandoned.

sorry if any of this is tough to read or hard to hear about. I do get it isnt a comfortable thing to face, but this is reality for me and for a lot of other women as well.

thank you all again <3