A Mother's Plea: Reunite Her Family

Growing up all I did was play with my baby dolls and play Mommy. I was interested in a few future jobs when I was growing up, architect, fbi agent, nurse… but really my only dream that was deep in my heart was to be a Wife and Mom - and a great one. A woman who loved my husband and children so well! That’s what I wanted most out of life. I have spent countless hours studying this and reading books on this. I’m the type of mom that reads to my children every single night. I spend time on the ground playing with them. I teach them about their emotions, how to handle them, I encourage them and build them up.

I got married young at 19 to start that dream but my first husband was very physically abusive and I had to get divorced shortly after, then I left Larry after 4 years because he wouldn’t have more kids and I couldn’t give up that dream to have more than the on amazing kid I had, Brandon. I got married again, to Gregory, and had Calvin but then it became evident his father was a severe alcoholic and it would be irresponsible to have more children with him. Unfair to the potential children to put them through growing up with an unstable unhealthy father who may die at a young age due to his disease…we got divorced last year. I’ve been devastated knowing I won’t have more children and that I am about to turn 35 and single. Seems like my dreams are going down the tubes. Then in mid October Larry coerced Brandon to file an abuse report against me at school. DCF investigated and of course closed after 60 days with NO FINDINGS of abuse. (Brandon was with his father this whole time) Then, Larry decided he wasn’t going to give Brandon back. We currently have a 50/50 custody and time sharing order but he’s been in contempt this whole time. He is breaking the law with no regard, and he filed a petition for full custody. He is trying to convince the court that I am very mentally ill and physically abusive towards my boys.

Christmas went by and I wasn’t with my son, New Years went by and I wasn’t with my son, Larry hasn't even given me visits with him. I only got to hang out with him for a couple hours at the playground after his soccer game a few weeks ago. That was the only time longer than 5 mins with my son since October!

Spring break went by and I didn’t see my son…. In fact, Larry even blocks communication with him, I barely get to speak to him. I found out at that one playground visit that Larry has been telling Brandon all this time that I can come get him whenever I want, and I am choosing not too cause I don’t want him anymore. Now that he knows the truth, Larry intimidates him to say he doesn’t want to come spend time with me and his brother. Calvin asks for his brother everyday, some days he will stop in the middle of his play and just say “mommy, I miss my brother so bad” It is truly taking a toll on me to hear him ache for his Dad and now his brother too.

Larry stopped paying me child support in November, and Gregory’s owes me 14k because he has been unemployed since we got divorced. I am struggling to make it financially. I spent my entire savings on a lawyer in court fighting for my kids in 2022, close to 16k, and now I’m just scared to go into debt for a lawyer. It doesn’t seem wise due to my strained financial situation. But if you aren’t aware, magistrates/judges verbally abuse you if you don’t have a lawyer, and will often rule against you just for being self represented. I have experience with this magistrate previously and I definitely need representation. We already had a hear for Larrys petition requesting Brandon be able to testify against me in court. At 10! She hasn’t made a decision on it yet and I hope she doesn’t allow it. It’s so sad Larry is putting Brandon through this psychological abuse. He even told Brandon that I tried to kill him when he was young by smothering him with a pillow - Brandon's therapist told me that. The parent alienation and brainwashing going on is just horrible and I need help because I really need a lawyer to represent me. I don’t know why God is allowing this to happen but I am very discouraged and losing the will to fight.

But I love both of my boys so much, and I miss Brandon so much, miss him talking my ear off, miss his hugs, miss his smart mouth, miss his jokes, miss seeing him play with and teach his brother, miss laying in bed with him at night and talking about his day. I have never abused him. I have sacrificed for him and put him first since the day he was born. I have dealt with his challenging behavior and defiance with patience and thoughtfulness. These are lies Larry is saying and I hope the truth prevails. If you want to help it prevail, can you consider donating? Even $10, $20? Anything helps truly and I’d appreciate your support so much to reunite my boys and help me give my sons the best upbringing possible so they are healthy adult men. Thank you!!