A single Dad journey to provide a safe space

Dear Family and Friends, and compassionate individuals,

I am a very prideful dad who really does not like asking for help. There comes a time when you have to put pride to the side and the time is now. Life can be full of changes that help you grow but it is for sure never easy. After being married for 15 years we just outgrew each other and separated.

I had the blessing of a friend taking me in as I had no place to go. Even though this was a blessing I knew that it was temporary. But it was a place where my kids could feel safe and relatively stable, but it put a strain on our friendship and I had to leave.

I reached out to my family members for a place to stay as I felt like this would be the safest space and most familiar space for my kids journey until I get back on my feet. In your darkest times, you can really see who is there for you and who is fair weather.

I hit my lowest point, received ridicule and condemnation, was heartbroken, fell into a terrible state of depression, and felt like a failure in life. This was the first time on this journey that I felt alone.

I admit the rejection and hurt I felt during this tribulation was almost more than my spirit could take but I persevered through that darkness.

With no options, I made a move to what I thought at the time was a safe peaceful place that my kids could come visit in Sacramento.

Little did I know that I was wrong and a month and a half in I found out my roommate was on prescription meds and a staunch alcoholic!

This is definitely not the environment where I want my boys to be. I do not even want to be here my privacy has got invaded numerous times I have been cussed out and threatened so I had to put in my 30-day notice, so my last day is July 31st.

I honestly don't know where I am going to stay I just want to be in a position to spend time with my kids. Unfortunately, as well my contract ended at my job in June so I have been without income for over a month and will receive my first unemployment check on July 23.

I have been interviewing and praying daily we need to pray just to make it today.

I choose not to play the victim and I know that this situation is the sum of my decisions that I have made in the past.

These funds will be used to expand my options to move closer to my kids or at least provide them with a place of peace until I start working again.

Will give me a lifeline for the deposit and first month so that they can stay in an inclusive living space where they can live in a comfortable sanctuary. Not a place full of restrictions trauma drama and chaos.

As a painter/artist, I want to continue to paint pleasant memories for them.

I Humbly ask for help in achieving this Dad's dream of creating a safe affirming space that my young men can call home.

All contributions will be appreciated.

Sincerely,

Dwayne Armando Anderson