Help raise funds after my sister passed away

This is a long read but very important that you understand the whole story, I will also be attaching a video explaining everything in case you don't want to read the long text thank you everyone.

Hello everyone as a lot of you may know (and some may not) that I lost my sister on March 16th 2024 very unexpectedly just a few hours before her birthday on March 17th I was waiting for the clock to strike midnight to call her like I usually do to sing her happy birthday when I got the unfortunate news a phone call of her passing, she was happily in Boston ready to celebrate her birthday weekend at the movies when she sat down slipped into a small coma and never woke up again if that's not tragic enough, this comes after almost three years exactly (February 21st 2021) since I have lost my brother also very suddenly, tragically and unexpectedly.

My two very best friends in this world. We grew up together I still remember the Saturday mornings as kids that we would all relax in the basement on a sofa and watch all the Disney movies together and had breakfast down there, I remember all the times that we would play outside together until the street lights came on and just our whole lives together and I thought we had the rest of our lives to go. I was right by her side when she had her first daughter that I am now taking care of. She was right by my side when I delivered my son Jeremiah, she would watch him for me when I went to school and got a certificate to be a CNA which started my career in the medical field. She watched him every single day for hours on end so I can pursue my license. Within the matter of three years, I have lost almost all of my family, my mother unfortunately abandoned me so it's just me taking care of two kids alone. So, it has been a very tough fight and I have an exceptionally long journey ahead of me. My sister has two beautiful girls a 13-year-old almost 14-year-old teenager who is now in my care, and I will be her permanent guardian and raise her like my own and she has an almost 3-year-old toddler named reign who will remain with her father.

Unfortunately, my sister did not have life insurance and we were able to raise her funds for her service through GoFundMe which was such a blessing because it happened extremely fast, and we were lucky enough to get that taken care of through fundraising. I unfortunately currently am not working and haven't been due to my son having some serious issues that I had to take care of so I haven't been working for a while to make sure that he was my number one priority and then this tragedy happened and now I basically am a mother of two with no income. About two weeks before this tragedy struck I actually was close to finishing my FASFA to sign up for ultrasound tech school at Community College because I LOVE the medical field and was a former employee at the medical center where I took care of postpartum moms and newborn babies it has been my favorite job so far but I had to leave abruptly to take care of my son and miss it every day. I love taking care of people but my life unfortunately had to be put on pause so I can get used to a new life being a mother of two, so having an income right now is very important so I'm asking everybody to donate or at least share this link so I can raise some kind of funds to raise my niece.

I know that I am a very strong-willed woman and a fighter, and I have a lot of drive in me so it's hard to even ask this. I thought I had the pleasure of getting to meet my sister's work community her “work family” is what she called them. We would spend many summer nights in my backyard by the fire pit on hammocks just talking about life, but she could not stop gushing about the love she had for her babies that she took care of. She loved being there, she loved taking care of the children that she was with day in and day out because she was a lead daycare teacher at her former job first step learning center The owner, my sister was looking for work at the time and it just so happened that her boyfriend actually worked with husband so her boyfriend recommended to that she would be a good fit because her background is in early childhood and that got her foot in the door with and she became a lead teacher. She fell absolutely in love with it and and the whole community.

The reason I'm putting them in the story is because Jennifer herself had personally reached out to me and invited me to a tree light vigil honoring my sister and how much the whole community loved her. I really was reluctant to go seeing as it was only a few days after my sisters passing making it very hard to even get out of bed but she was definitely adamant on my niece and I attending ( every time I look back on that I am now sure it was because she wanted to present me with the donation in front of everyone to keep a good reputation and get a good photo opp). I did up going and I was so happy that I attended because I got to meet all of her co- workers, personally(the owner) a lot of the kids my sister took care of, parents and husband, a lot of the parents and it was just overall very healing to see how much her workplace had loved her and was going to miss her just as much as me so it made me feel not alone in the pain that I was enduring at the time.

did tell me that she had a check to donate towards which was amazing, and I wasn't expecting too much because I know times are very hard it was also amazing because she told me that she had shut down her center so they can mourn for two days and the parents still paid the tuition and that was the donation that I received. The check was $4000, which to me was amazing and it was going to go towards my sister's services. Amazingly the GoFundMe had reached the goal of what my sister services would be so I let know that and I asked her with her well wishes and her blessing if I could take the $4000 and get my niece a bedroom set, some new clothes, school supplies, help father(my sisters younger daughter) and then put the rest in a savings account for them. I reassured her the money was going to be exclusively for the girls since my sisters’ goal was met, plus the money was already donated and in check form. Jennifer ( the owner, who invited me personally and told me there would be a donation) said as long as my sister's services were taking care of she wouldn't see a problem with that and the community would actually like that because its helping girls (both of my nieces have attend the daycare center before, my youngest niece was actively attending the care center at the time of my sisters passing, most of the time she was in my sisters classroom being cared for by her own mother and still charged my sister a discounted tuition for basically caring for her own daughter all day, so Jen knew my nieces personally)

reassured me that I had the greenlight to use the donation for the girls settled my heart and my mind in knowing that I could do the right thing with the money and getting my nieces a good head start after losing their mother. Well unfortunately the next day, just as I was depositing the check into my bank account via the app, I had taken the pictures needed and hit deposit I had received a text message from stating that they were stopping the check and not letting me keep the money because the GoFundMe me had reached the goal needed to put my sister to rest. That was heartbreaking because my niece knew about the money, I told her that we were given the blessing to use it toward her and her sister, she was right next to me when we were handed the donation. We had planned to go bedroom set shopping that weekend and get décor for her room but all those plans came crashing down in that moment, I tried to reason with and ask her if she could just put it towards the GoFundMe and once the services were completed then the rest of the money would go towards her kids which is what I was planning to do with their donation money anyway but after that she had blocked me on all platforms and never reached out to me again and still to this day I have not talked to her. She also shared my sister's obituary before I even realized it was published, she showed up to the services knowing what she did and had no remorse at all for giving me something so meaningful, giving me the approval to use it towards my nieces and their future and then turn around and take it away, block me and not help in any way further, but kept continuing to live her life like a good person. (I’m sure that until this day the parents don’t know that the money, they donated was never actually given to the family but they also never got it back either).

So, after that I had no choice but to use the savings that I had to decorate her room, so she had a safe comfortable place to come home to. I did what I could with what I had in my savings. I got her some new clothes; some bare essentials and hygiene products and I got her hair done for her mothers service just to try and make her feel better but that took everything I had. My savings were a cushion for emergencies and right now I'm experiencing car issues which makes life even harder so I'm trying to raise the money to fix that also. I just want the kids to have a meaningful summer so we can take trips to the beach, lake and just spend the necessary time needed together to heal and try to move forward in the grieving process together.

Again I have no help, no support, no family and I'm all alone just trying to make this work. Unfortunately, my mother has not seen them all but once and she doesn't really reach out and she has completely abandoned me, so I have no help on her side. I was just trying to keep cordial communication with the father of my youngest niece so we can still see her often and make sure the girls stay close but because I kept in contact with him, I was called a trader and completely abandoned because I wanted to keep what little family we have left together and that completely failed. She belittled me, berated me and spat in my face in front of the kids and that has scarred them also so I'm their only safe space right now. I just want to give them the best life that they possibly can have under these devastating circumstances. I just want to give my son, my nieces, and I the family that I never did and honestly continue school and go back to work as soon as my body feels able to but right now with everything going, I haven't even had time to grieve my sister. I'm just too stressed on trying to make sure that we can stay above water and I want them to have as regular life as possible. We all will be going into therapy for the trauma we have endured that our insurance will cover but at this time I’m asking for the communities’ help, and anyones’ help who hears my story. Please donate! Please share! I'm trying to get this as big as possible to raise as much funds as necessary to give my little family the best life possible. If you have any more questions or know how to get this on any new stations just so I can get the link of this GoFundMe out there, please anybody let me know thank you again for listening to my story!