Final court for my kids protection.

Hello and thanks for taking the time to read our story. Many friends and family know briefly about our story, but most do not know the details and though I do not wish to dive back into the terrible memories and details, I am afraid we must. Almost 2 years ago to date, my two babies and I escaped a very abusive and dangerous living situation with their father. I do not wish to relive those details, but you can imagine how awful the circumstances were for a 24 year old to run away with a 1 and 2 year old alone in a new state with very few acquaintances to turn to for help. As a mother, I knew the risks and how hard it would be but I also knew that our future would have been terrifying had we stayed. Over what would be the next two years I had worked full time as well as ran my own side photography job to make ends meet and pay for lawyers. It did not take long for the judges to see exactly who the father really was as a person and I was granted full custody of my precious babies. Because there was a severe addiction problem on the other end, the father was only granted 8 hours of supervised visitation per month with the kids. This just proves how bad of a situation we were in. Over the course of those 2 years we have been taken to court roughly 10 times by their father- with the main purpose of lowering his child support. (Which he has never paid a dime of anyway).  Never once has he tried to go to court to prove he would be a good father figure or ask for more time with the kids- in fact, his supervisor cancelled her supervision in February of 2018 due to his noncompliance, so he hasn’t even seen the kids in almost one year. My children are now 4 and 3 years old. My daughter doesn’t even know who he is as she has only seen him a handful of times since her first birthday. About one year ago my then 2 year old daughter was diagnosed with severe, nonverbal autism. She is an absolute joy but she also attends 40+ hours per week of therapy that will hopefully get her talking and acting socially age appropriate by the time kindergarten rolls around. My son is also receiving roughly 20 hours per week of ABA therapy to help him manage his behavior as he has ADHD and can be aggressive in overstimulated situations- because of this he has been removed from the normal daycare environment. My now fiancé and I have completely accepted these diagnoses and are doing absolutely everything in our power to help them succeed and grow and we will continue to do so always. Their father is now claiming that he has been falsely attacked and is insisting that the kids do not have any such diagnosis, that they are fine, and that I have made the entire thing up. He blamed me for “messing up” our children. If you’re a parent with a child who has a disadvantage, this is the absolute last thing you need to hear from the other “parent” especially when you are the only one helping them and doing everything in your power to make sure they have the tools they need to be successful. With this backstory being said, after 10 plus times of him taking me to court and losing nonsense battles about child support and costing me godly amounts of money for lawyers, we need to go back one final time. We have a new judge and the hope is that upon showing the judge our entire history and case, that he will no longer be able to open random court cases against us unless he has completed a reintegration program, completed an addiction course, as well as anger management for hopefully what will be a year. We have been working tirelessly to make ends meet financially as we haven’t had a dime of child support paid to us so I am asking for public help for the first time. As much as I want to hang my head and hide instead of being vulnerable and asking for assistance, I am a momma bear and we do what we have to do for our children. We must pay the lawyer a little over $6,000 dollars before our court date the beginning of December. After paying our cost of living this month we will only be able to come up with a little over  half on such a short timeline. I am hoping that we can be fortunate enough to raise the rest through our “village” of friends, family, and people who can relate and understand the hardship of domestic violence even after you have escaped. Please share and get the word out to help us, I can’t imagine what would happen to these poor children if they were thrown back into seeing that kind of an influence at such a critical developmental age. My hope is that this will force him to get the help that he needs so that he can actually be a dependable person in their life or retreat and go away until he does. I just want my kids to grow up in a happy, healthy, violence free zone where they can prosper and grow into proud, kind, caring, loving, and smart little people. Thank you all for reading this long post and please pass it on. Even $1 helps the overall cause.