Funeral expenses for Brenda Ramirez

Brenda was born on 02/12/1985 in El Paso, TX. She LOVED her 4 kids more than anything. She had a huge interest in Music which is what connected us in the first place and ever since then we always talked about music together. She had a beautiful voice and loved to sing, I always heard her singing at random times and I always loved to hear her voice no matter what mood I was in it would put me in a great mood. 

Here is a long detailed story of her 7 month journey. Please read to get a full understanding of everything that went on. She put up a fight and didn't want to give up. 


The mother of my kids and the love of my life Brenda Ramirez passed away at 2:50 pm at Baylor hospital in Irving, TX on 01/19/2022.

My kids and I are devastated by the loss.

 

In late June of 2021 we called 911 because she was not feeling good. They brought her to Baylor hospital in Irving where we learned her liver and kidneys were failing pretty quickly. Brenda was so scared she wanted me there to comfort her and I was, I hardly ever left her side. The doctors and hospital admins brought me into a private room and explained to me her situation and informed me she had days to live, maybe weeks but depended on her. The hospital staff had urged her to sign power of attorney paperwork within those first few days of being there just in case anything were to go wrong. She was frightened and asked me while crying if i would be there when she passed away. I told Brenda not worry because God is amazing and he will be there protecting her and comforting her and he will heal you. She listened to me and we began praying together regularly, everyday we prayed and we asked God to heal her. Maybe a week or two later after many days of the doctors telling us she wasn't getting any better we finally received some good news, her liver was stable and her kidneys were getting a lot better. They were amazed by her progress and said that God is giving her another chance it seemed like. We were filled with joy and excitement and praised God for his miracle. They released her in late July and we arrived at our place and she was so excited to be there. We ordered some food and watched The George Lopez show.

 

That same night she noticed she started to feel a bit off but didn't think anything of it. We went to sleep and we started to work on physical therapy at home because she was having issues walking at the time. She was determined to get back to her normal self, she was a fighter.

 

Later that week, about 2 days after she was discharged she ended up having a seizure at home, 911 was called and she was back in the hospital. She was admitted and continued to have seizures regularly. It took the doctors a while to control them. Day after day I watched her work with physical therapy at the hospital, fighting and struggling to get back to how she once was. She ended up having multiple strokes during this trip to the hospital, she was declining slowly.

 

After a few weeks they released her again and she went home for a day and then ended up back in the hospital due to chest pains, they admitted her once again. She ended up staying for a month or so and while I was in the room with her one evening I noticed she was having trouble breathing so I called the nurses and they said she was fine but I knew she wasn't. I had them call a doctor as she started to lose consciousness, the doctor runs into the room and tells me "I'm so sorry, she's very sick I wish there was more I could do".

 

They took her down to ICU where she stayed for a month and ended up having a trach put in her due to her airway closing up. She was struggling to breathe before they put the trach and she had told me she doesn't care if she can't talk for a while she just wants to be alive to see her kids. She said "ill write to my kids on text messages, I just want to be able to see them".

 

October 8th (My birthday) they put the trach in and we never heard her beautiful voice after that. She was just happy to be alive and stayed positive. They trained me on how to take care of her at home, I would do her trach care for her at the hospital infront of the respiratory therapists so they could tell me if I was doing anything wrong, I learned pretty quickly and she was so happy that I learned how to do that because she couldn't do much for herself at this point so it comforted her knowing that I knew what i was doing.

 

So they discharged her in mid November. Everything was going fine it seemed like, I was taking care of her and she was doing really well according to the home health care nurses that would stop by to check on her.

 

December 3rd she ended up going into cardiac arrest. She was gone for a while before they brought her back. She was admitted again but they were worried she wouldn't wake up. The icu told me that they didn't think she would wakeup after they did a procedure they do for cardiac arrest patients but if she does wakeup, that's awesome they said.

 

She ended up waking up but with little to no mobility, she was never the same since. I spent pretty much everyday with her at the hospital and made sure she was being taken care of properly. She was always scared but remained hopeful until the very end.

 

Brenda passed away at 2:50 pm at baylor hospital on 01/19/2022

 

Definitely the hardest thing I've ever had to go through.

 

30/40 minutes before she passed I was in the room with her and my kids as she struggled to breathe. We played a few of her favorite songs and I told her its ok to go with God, I told her hes waiting for you. We left the room and about 30 minutes later the nurse came and let us know she passed away.

 

She fought hard and long and definitely surprised all of the doctors.

 

Unfortunately we did not have life insurance for her so I'm asking anyone if they could donate to her funeral services.

 

Any help would be appreciated.

 

Thank you for reading this, I know it was long and if you did make it to the end thank you and I appreciate your time. Keep us all in your prayers.