Help Reunite a Son with His Biological Mother

Born in the 1960s, I was adopted. I was raised by a great family. We are still a good family, but my wish to find my biological mother grew. Through the unexpected legal release of my birth certificate, I found her. She left Massachusetts at an early age and moved to Florida. She also had a change of name, but still, making contact was an emotional struggle for me. I was thinking about her rights to privacy, and back in those days, things were very conservative. Thankfully, I was born. Now, we wrote a letter to her, and she got it. I was very nervous, as after it was mailed, there was no response for over 2 months. I was beginning to believe that she had decided not to respond, and I would have to accept that. But then it happened. My brother called me with a letter in his hand. I was stunned! I read that letter many times. So, then direct contact was made. The bottom line, we both want to meet, but she is very limited in where she can go. I am not limited, except for money. So, I am asking for help.

A bit more about me:

Unfortunately, I was never strong in my ability to learn. I tried college, but I didn't do well. The highest level of education I got was an Associate's degree in a small town in New Hampshire. The college is now defunct. In fact, it was sold and repurposed. Living in Massachusetts was not easy. I went through more jobs than I can remember. After each job, I would take a week or two to try and figure it all out. After a bit, somehow I recovered and found the power to start again. I had no idea for 40 years of my life that I had Asperger's. Back in my 20s and earlier, this was a brand new subject. Now I am 57. I now live in Germany and have a 12-year-old son. He is my life! Even though I am divorced, his mom and I still show him that he is unconditionally loved. I stay in the same town that they live in. Due to my severe learning curve and odd social skills, I now live on help from the state. If I was not in Germany, and if it were not for the love of my family from the States, I would not have survived this long. Now, through some research, I have found my biological mother with the help of my brother (he is a lawyer and very smart). But my biological mother is not in the best of health. Recently, things have gotten worse due to falls. I want to meet her before things get worse. Apparently, I even have extended family. But there is no way for me to pay for a trip to Florida from Frankfurt and back without asking my adopted family, and even then I know that it is very expensive for them. I also would like to bring them a couple of gifts from Germany, including a professional picture of myself, and a small souvenir of sorts. So, I am reaching out to those that might be interested in helping to make this happen.

At the same time, I am starting to advocate for younger folks who might also have Asperger's syndrome. At my age, I am living proof that you can survive with love and help. I actually want to create a foundation for folks in Germany, and perhaps the USA as well. In the last few months, I was able to talk to a younger person who has Asperger's, and our long talk seemed to give her a sense of hope. But for now, my focus is to meet my biological mother (77) for the first time this June 2025. I fear that it needs to be this fast for both of us. I will even try to set up a video so that our first meeting can be witnessed by those who help to make this possible. Thank you.

PS, please keep in mind that the "location" for this page is located in San Francisco. So my brother (the lawyer) can manage the money properly.