Heaven Gained Josiah Elijah Heard
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Unfortunately one of my dear friends lost her son on November 7th 2018. Anything will help so her and her family get thru this difficult time. Here is her story.
I started contractions at 7am this morning, after a hot bath I realized today was the day. I called my sister into the bathroom to let her know it’s time and also tell her “is it odd I haven’t felt him kick yet or is the contractions foreshadowing it so I can’t tell?”Within an hour my contractions went from 5 minutes to 2 minutes. My ride gets to the house and during the ride I notice that not only did my contractions intensify but they were pushing my son down and I held my hand down there refusing to pop him out in the car but I was also leaking blood and I knew something was wrong. Traffic was horrible so my father pulled to the nearest cop and they quickly responded and escorted us to the nearest hospital. Upon arriving I was screaming in pain , couldn’t even open my eyes. Doctors check and I am 9 centimeters dilated and ready to push. I felt in my heart something was wrong while I was being pushed around I kept telling the doctor something is wrong, the pain was beyond what I could imagine . Before preparing to push doctors notice the blood , they also couldn’t find his heart beat. The room filled with silence and the doctors step out. I lay there numb and completely shut down I didn’t even acknowledge my contractions. A doctor held me , she literally held me in her arms crying (no matter how many cases they see it still haunts them) and I never felt so dead there was no thought in my mind , no feeling to explain , not even a facial expression or tear. I am ready to push, but the room was dead silent through it all and 15 minutes later my son 6 pounds and absolutely perfect laid lifeless in the doctors hands and my whole life flashed before my eyes. Gently he is placed in my arms and the doctor ask me the time she was holding me I was so quiet what was going through my mind and it was my son, 38 weeks of preparing to be the mom I always dreamed of and I never got the chance. He never got to have his first cry and see who carried him all this time. Moral is my placenta erupted suddenly leaving my son with no oxygen. I want this story to be awareness to soon to be mothers. I want you all to focus on how many kicks per hour, any pain GO TO THE HOSPITAL if they say everything is okay but you don’t feel like it is fight it and stay until you have closure everything is actually okay. I never knew this was a possibility so please I don’t wish this pain on anyone but to prevent anymore loss continue to be aware about your baby and hold on tight to them.
I WILL LIKE TIME TO COPE WITH MY HUSBAND AND FAMILY OR ASK QUESTIONS I TOLD MY STORY TO PREVENT FUTURE PARENTS FROM GOING THROUGH THE SAME. November 7th, 2018 Josiah Elijah Heard was brought into this world and taken suddenly but my precious boy you were everything I could imagine, you’re absolutely perfect ! I will see you again one day but in the mean time continue to watch over us and I will every day make you proud. I love you I just wish I was able to show you.
I started contractions at 7am this morning, after a hot bath I realized today was the day. I called my sister into the bathroom to let her know it’s time and also tell her “is it odd I haven’t felt him kick yet or is the contractions foreshadowing it so I can’t tell?”Within an hour my contractions went from 5 minutes to 2 minutes. My ride gets to the house and during the ride I notice that not only did my contractions intensify but they were pushing my son down and I held my hand down there refusing to pop him out in the car but I was also leaking blood and I knew something was wrong. Traffic was horrible so my father pulled to the nearest cop and they quickly responded and escorted us to the nearest hospital. Upon arriving I was screaming in pain , couldn’t even open my eyes. Doctors check and I am 9 centimeters dilated and ready to push. I felt in my heart something was wrong while I was being pushed around I kept telling the doctor something is wrong, the pain was beyond what I could imagine . Before preparing to push doctors notice the blood , they also couldn’t find his heart beat. The room filled with silence and the doctors step out. I lay there numb and completely shut down I didn’t even acknowledge my contractions. A doctor held me , she literally held me in her arms crying (no matter how many cases they see it still haunts them) and I never felt so dead there was no thought in my mind , no feeling to explain , not even a facial expression or tear. I am ready to push, but the room was dead silent through it all and 15 minutes later my son 6 pounds and absolutely perfect laid lifeless in the doctors hands and my whole life flashed before my eyes. Gently he is placed in my arms and the doctor ask me the time she was holding me I was so quiet what was going through my mind and it was my son, 38 weeks of preparing to be the mom I always dreamed of and I never got the chance. He never got to have his first cry and see who carried him all this time. Moral is my placenta erupted suddenly leaving my son with no oxygen. I want this story to be awareness to soon to be mothers. I want you all to focus on how many kicks per hour, any pain GO TO THE HOSPITAL if they say everything is okay but you don’t feel like it is fight it and stay until you have closure everything is actually okay. I never knew this was a possibility so please I don’t wish this pain on anyone but to prevent anymore loss continue to be aware about your baby and hold on tight to them.
I WILL LIKE TIME TO COPE WITH MY HUSBAND AND FAMILY OR ASK QUESTIONS I TOLD MY STORY TO PREVENT FUTURE PARENTS FROM GOING THROUGH THE SAME. November 7th, 2018 Josiah Elijah Heard was brought into this world and taken suddenly but my precious boy you were everything I could imagine, you’re absolutely perfect ! I will see you again one day but in the mean time continue to watch over us and I will every day make you proud. I love you I just wish I was able to show you.Organizer and beneficiary
Madelin Tavarez
Organizer
Hampton, VA
Daliyah Caban
Beneficiary