Help Amber and Her Daughters Start Anew

This is my story and why I'm here on GoFundMe today,

My name is Amber, I'm from a town called Antioch in sunny California.

I am currently in a bad way as I left my husband of 17 years and have my 3 daughters with me.

No, I didn't find prince charming and run away into the sunset and abandon my marriage.

I left because I had to, the abuse was getting worse and I feared I would either take my own life or he would have killed me.

He wasn't physically abusive that much, he was worse, he was a master manipulator, a true narcissist and gaslighter. He used tactics to keep me weak. He'd put down anytime I'd try to move up my life, ie. schooling, vocational training, etc.. I finally realized it was an attempt to keep me weak and dependent on him.

I always had my suspicions about him cheating, ever since the very first week we started dating back in high school. But manipulation tactics used somehow had me feeling as if I did something wrong when I questioned his actions.

So I'm going into this world fresh with my 3 daughters. I have a plan, a goal, and a lot of faith. Family does what they can for me but they're almost underwater themselves. I don't have a vehicle, and that's the reason for this fundraiser.

Through my local county office, I can get daycare for my youngest (4). The other two girls are in middle school and can attend after school activities while I attend school for medical billing and coding.

My ex-husband uses our children as a weapon against me saying he's taking them by using the court system since I'm having a hard time getting them to school and back. I couldn't bear to lose my daughters, they're my WHOLE LIFE!

I know I probably don't know you, and you don't know me. You don't owe me anything and I don't expect something. But I would be overjoyed and eternally grateful for anything you can help towards my goal. You really would be sending a miracle my way, and would be keeping my girls home with their mother where they belong.

Thank you for taking your time to read this! God Bless

Here's some facts about "Gaslighting" if you've never heard the term:

Gaslighting is an insidious form of manipulation and psychological control. Victims of gaslighting are deliberately and systematically fed false information that leads them to question what they know to be true, often about themselves. They may end up doubting their memory, their perception, and even their sanity. Over time, a gaslighter’s manipulations can grow more complex and potent, making it increasingly difficult for the victim to see the truth.

The term gaslighting comes from a 1938 play, Gas Light, and its film adaptation. Gaslighting can occur in personal or professional relationships, and victims are targeted at the core of their being: their sense of identity and self-worth. Manipulative people who engage in gaslighting do so to attain power over their victims, either because they simply derive warped enjoyment from the act or because they wish to emotionally, physically or financially control their victim.

How does gaslighting begin?

A relationship with a gaslighter may seem to start out quite well. They may praise the victim on a first date and immediately confide in them. Such disclosure, before any intimacy has been established, establishes trust quickly; it’s part of a tactic known as love bombing. The more quickly a victim becomes enamored, the more quickly the next phase of manipulation can begin.

What are a gaslighter’s tactics?

A gaslighter will initially lie about simple things, but the volume of misinformation soon grows, and the gaslighter may accuse the victim of lying if he or she questions the narrative. They typically deploy occasional positive reinforcement to confuse the victim, but at the same time, they may attempt to turns others against the victim, even their own friends and family, by telling them that the victim is lying or delusional.

I fell for these tactics and it has destroyed my life and left me desperate enough to turn to a public fundraiser.

Please share this information and run away from toxic abusive relationships! Your worth it, your special, and you can do it!