Connor’s dad passed away help us pay rent & bills

Hello, so even though several people suggested I start a go fund me account and wanted to donate and help me, I didn’t feel right about asking for money. But now I don’t know what else to do.

So our story, if you don’t know it revolves around Connor’s (my son who is 15) father passing away on 9/30. Here are the details…

On 8/17 my son Connor’s dad Joe, brought him back to my house after his parenting time and gave us the heartbreaking news that he had cancer in his liver and colon. After a week and some more testing, he told me the drs said it is treatable and he should live for many more years. Such wonderful happy news!!!! My son and his dad are best buds, best friends, extremely close.

The plan was to do 3 different kinds of chemo every other week for approx 6 months.

He only made it through one week of chemo treatment. He was in the hospital for 9-10 days with some complications. They were going to try to continue the following week with chemo.

Thursday sept 16, I was able to take him to Connor’s first hockey game of the season. He was so so tired and needed an oxygen tank already at this point. It made my heart so sad to see him this way, I sat and cried through the entire game. But I was trying to remain positive and strong for my son, in front of him. But I have shed so so many tears.

The following Sunday night after the game (9/19), Connor and I went in for a few minutes to his dads place to drop something off and he looked so much more sick than he did on Thursday (which already was concerning) just 3 short days later. It was hard to see and process how bad he looked, most especially for Connor but also for me as a mom knowing my son is seeing this and how hard it must be for Connor. (My son clams up and doesn’t talk about his feelings at all )

That night Joe’s sister took him back to the hospital. Joe spoke with me a couple days later (I checked in daily) and told me he had pneumonia and they drained fluid from his lungs and he sounded so so much better. This was last Thursday (9/23). The following day joe informed me that the cancer was also in his lungs.

Saturday morning (9/25) I was told by Joe’s sister that the situation was dire and I needed to bring Connor in to see his dad. I spoke with the nurse at the hospital. She told me he is on a bi-pap machine and his kidneys are failing. She told me that “it’s not completely hopeless and miracles can happen, but it would be very very hard for him to recover from the point he’s at”. A couple hours later he was moved to ICU.

I took Connor back every day to see his dad. My child was in complete denial. His dad woke up a few minutes here and there and spoke but was asleep the majority of the time we were there visiting. Thursday 9/30 (exactly 2 weeks from him attending that one and only game this season) I got the call that he had hours left. I picked up my son from school and took him to the hospital a little before 3. His dad passed shortly before midnight. He was unconscious all day and only words he spoke was to call out Connor’s name a couple times.

My heart has been absolutely broken for my child. I have cried so many tears. I have felt pain so deep my chest actually physically hurts. I feel like the weight of the world is on my shoulders and I’m all alone, just me trying to figure out something I have no idea how to figure out.

To make matters worse I broke my ankle a few months back and had to have surgery and lost my job as a result of not being able to pass a yearly required physical needed to do my job (school bus driver for 203). My dr said no way. I was denied unemployment being told my work reported I was being obstinate- as if I didn’t have a valid reason. I can’t currently get another job, as my son is having trouble adapting to returning to school, and I need to be here to try every morning to get him to go and drive him when he feels ready for the day.

I applied for social security benefits for Connor under his father, and was told it would take about 60 days. Joe also has a life insurance policy, but I am at the mercy of Joe’s family as to when I get this, even though I’m the beneficiary. So eventually we will be fine. But in the meantime I have no money coming in and rent to pay and other bills. I am working with some agencies but everything takes so long and not having rent paid is just adding to my worries. I did apply for snap (food stamps) and received the card so we are covered for food.

Thank you all who took the time to read this. If you go on the tribute section of Joe’s obit I wrote a tribute to what an incredible father and person Joe was. I appreciate any and all help given. And can even pay it back eventually. I am trying to raise enough for 2-3 months of expenses. But no matter how much I receive it will be a great help.

here is the link to his obit: https://www.knollcrest.net/obituaries/Joseph--R-Wynne?obId=22547287#/obituaryInfo