Help Corey Poindexter

For those who don't know me, my name is Corey. I'm a freelance audio engineer. 2023 was one of the worst years of my career because of the strikes in the media industry. Then, on November 10th, my wife of 12 years and partner for almost 15 left me extremely abruptly.

Everything seemed fine and ordinary in the preceeding days and weeks. She woke up that morning, told me that she had secretly quit her job in the preceding weeks (she was the breadwinner, especially this past year with the SAG/WGA strikes), had planned moving away without me, and then, after I'd left for work, she packed suitcases and flew to Ohio that same morning. It all fell apart in one morning for me.

This ambush left me scrambling immediately. At first the issues were my lack of medications since I am a type 2 diabetic and was on her insurance. I've now secured new insurance on my own, but that insurance will cost me nearly a grand out of pocket. I will have to pay for some kind of divorce (though I'm hopeful it won't need court, I have no idea), among the many other bills I'm left with. And also being freelance means sometimes I have to fight to get paid, and the work has been slow to return in 2024, so I'm trying to survive until work comes back.

Now, heartbroken and facing an uphill battle to rebuild my life and stay in the only place that has truly felt like my home, I'm trying to figure out the logistics of whittling down bills and paying what I can. We had a 2 income life that she abandoned me to figure out at the end of my worst year of work. I've always prided myself on being the friend who is there for all my friends to lean on, and some people were kind enough to help me before with some of the immediate emergencies. But the hits keep on coming, and I'm trying to survive while grieving and figuring out what to do next.

So I'm writing asking that if anyone has anything they can spare right now, it would be greatly appreciated. It's still embarrassing for me to have to ask for help, feeling like I'm begging, but I'm hoping the kindness I've tried to put out into the world can keep helping me, at least until my career's industry is back up and running.

If you know other friends from the friend sphere that aren't on social media, feel free to share the info with them. I'm also asking please don't harass her over this, I'm trying to focus on me surviving, not negativity towards her. Even if you can't spare anything, I totally understand times are tight, and I love you all just for taking the time to read this, or sharing this, and for those who've checked in on me. Much love to you all.

- Corey