Help Dorian E. Hatchett be the man of his Dreams

  Today I am here to support my best friend in his journey to be comfortable as his truest self. I have known Dorian for over a decade, and I have seen him rise above over and over trying to find his true self. I have never seen Dorian as comfortable and as naturally happy as I have since he has recognized that he is a trans man. I have watched a confidence and a relaxation take place that has been truly amazing to see in someone whom I love so much.

   Dorian’s story hasn't been easy. He spent many years ashamed of his body and developed a very unhealthy relationship with it early on with eating disorders and self harm.  All of the therapy focused on the eating disorder and the self esteem issues, without ever directly asking the important whys and whats.  

   Life being what life is, Dorian learned to cut out every Masculine part of himself and took on a hyper feminine mask. He learned to shrink and dismiss any and all parts of himself that represented masculine features due to years of off and on trauma by masculine hands.

  During the beginning of the Covid lockdown, Dorian had time to reflect and to be alone in ways that were never really possible before.  In that place of isolation, Dorian was able to recognize the truth.  Everything he had spent years shielding himself from came crashing down.  He realized those whats and whys in a profound manner.  What did he hate about his body? Why did he hate it about his body? He hated everything feminine about  it. He didn’t want breast or feminine curves. He didn't want to be made up in basically what he felt was drag day in and day out.  None of this was who Dorian was. Dorian realized how a transphobic medical world had never asked the most important questions, and by not doing so had failed him.

   Dorian began taking hormones in December, and an instant wave of relief washed over him.  Very quickly his body began to transform in ways that made him feel his real self.  Broad shoulders, a huskier voice, and a masculine stance were empowering for him.  For the first time in a long time, he started wearing pants and other clothing that represented a more traditionally masculine ideal, where previously it had been over a decade since he had done such. 

   There is now just one issue that I am here to get support with.  Dorian has very large breast that will continuously cause him to be misgendered and not allow him to feel his genuine self.  His insurance does not cover top surgery. He has gone through multiple avenues trying to figure out a way to make this happen, and the answer is money.  As a single parent in a pandemic world, he knows that the likelihood of him ever being able to raise enough money for top surgery will be next to impossible. So I am asking that our community pulls together to make this happen for one of the most amazing souls I have ever had the pleasure of knowing.

 

Thank you,


   D McAcy