Help Heather's Homegoing to Heaven.
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I’m going to ask of you something that people these days have neither the heart nor desire to do. I’d like you to actually imagine yourself in someone else’s shoes.
Imagine yourself in a position most find unthinkable. It’s bad enough to be rendered clinically disabled. You can’t work but you’re now physically incapable because of a condition you never asked for. Now imagine you had developed many conditions sparked by involuntary medical issues. One day you’re surviving being placed in a medically induced coma during systemic organ failure and now it’s 10 years later and things are even worse. You can’t drive anymore so you feel like a prisoner in your own home and you’ve been bedridden almost the past 4 years or so. You’ve lost count. You just want to die to end the suffering yet you keep fighting if not for anything or anyone but your mom and your cats. Everyday you feel worse and worse and you’re afraid to go to the hospital because you don’t want even more detrimental news than you think you have already. You don’t want to be a burden on anyone and you believe that hospitals are for people sicker than you because you always think of the welfare of others before your own. You don’t realize exactly just how sick you are even though it’s a fact that you have :
- Gastroparesis
- Malignant Hypertension
- COPD
- Stage 5 kidney failure
- Half of a collapsed lung
- Muscular atrophy
- Constant neural, gastrointestinal and muscular pain
Now imagine it’s June 21st. It’s your mothers birthday. You’ve not been feeling well. You are short of breath and can’t breathe. It’s been about 4 hours of this and you can’t figure out why. Your chest is pained, your arms begin to feel numb, your jaw hurts oddly and nothing seems to be alleviating this condition. "Happy birthday mommy. I love you but we need to call an ambulance. I think it’s really bad this time." is a gurgled gasp from your lips.
On the way to the hospital they tell you you're so bad off you can’t go to the local hospital as you’re having a heart attack and must travel even further at breakneck speed.
In the hospital, you find your kidneys are failing, you’re in cardiac crisis with possible need for bypass surgery, and you have pneumonia to the point your left lung is full of murky brown black mucus, and you’re practically drowning in it.
Two times during the first few nights after visiting hours, you saw that light peaking through the darkness of a long tunnel. You think your time is coming and as memories flash and regrets rear their wicked heads, you wish you could at least say goodbye to your mom and your best friend, but if this truly is your time to go, you won’t get that chance. That in mind, you fight your way back to the cruel darkness of this Earth.
A week goes by, you’re still alive but barely, and it’s now your best friend's birthday, and you’re in the hospital finding out you have to go back on dialysis, so a port must be surgically reinstalled, you’ll need either a stent or bypass surgery, and you have to get intubated and drained of the swamp in your lung. You can barely function without the help of the nursing staff, even to relieve or bathe yourself and you don’t know when you’ll even have the strength to gp your own again.
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Above was where we started. Unfortunately, at nearly a month later the battle for recovery is being lost.
This journey has been long. It required multiple procedures and dialysis and it looks like what was originally a recovery fund will now be for handling her homegoing. It’s to the point that tears cannot be fought back anymore.
If you’re reading this, you may or may not have been a friend of Heather’s but she needs your help in her imminent passing. Some of you that know her, knows she has helped out many of you in the past, whether it was fundraising, contributions to others causes or those meaningful private conversations that got you through some rough patches of your own life. For those of you who experienced this, I’m hoping you can help return the favors somehow and for those of you who’ve read this story and it broke your heart, even the smallest of donations , even if it’s 50 cents , to the cause and please, join our team and reshare of this link would help.
Her journey on this Earth is ending and I just want to see her go with dignity. We may not raise enough for a burial, but a cremation will have to suffice with your help.
Thank you in advance.
Organizer
Dale Wilson
Organizer
Red Hook, NY