
Help me to leave a toxic family environment
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Hi there, you can call me Rain (he/they). I am fundraising so that I can leave a toxic family environment. Don't get me wrong, I care about my family, but we've all been through many things and it ends up with us in conflict. It's a difficult topic to talk about so I won't go into too many details, but there has been emotional neglect, name-calling, and physical abuse. Social services has been called on this household twice in my lifetime. It makes it more difficult that I am doubly neurodivergent, queer, and have suffered with mental health issues, which my parents don't understand or know how to deal with.
It's difficult for me now that I am at university. I am forced to return to my parents' house for summer holidays as we are kicked out of our accommodation and I cannot afford to stay for the whole summer. Having to return to my parents' house makes me feel like I am backsliding, as now that I've experienced a taste of freedom in adulthood, it's all I want. When I'm at my parents' house, I display worse symptoms of PTSD like nightmares, anxiety, and hypervigilance. It makes it difficult to study or to engage in any hobbies, as there is a lot of judgement around video games in my house. I cannot relax, especially when my mother is around. I do not feel safe or comfortable in this environment and I cannot stomach living here for another summer. This is why I am making plans to leave my parents' house and remain in low-contact with my family, which a mentor has suggested is better for my relationship with my parents.
My initial goal is £7000. My rent for university term times is already covered, but rent for the winter, spring, and summer holidays is a different story, and will require about £3800. I am also planning on renting a storage unit and removal service - I am not sure how much a removal service costs but I am allocating about £1500 for storage costs for a year. Another £1000 will be used for therapy costs. The remaining £700 will be used for extra costs that pop up (though if anything is too massive I'll adjust the fundraiser goal) and to account for GoFundMe's site fees. This is just for the insane amount I will have to spend to get out of here - I am enquiring about part-time jobs in my area and am hopeful as I have good experience.
If I am able to get out, it would greatly improve my mental health. I could strive for dreams that have been looked down upon by my family for so long. I could achieve a good mark in university, spend next summer learning to drive, maybe even purchase a car once I have a good job. It will also improve my relationship with my entire family, as I could have contact with them on my terms. The possibilities are endless once I get out - but for now I am severely limited by my circumstances.
Every single donation or share is an amazing help. Thank you so much for letting me leave this place and letting me achieve my dreams. I am so thankful to you all for taking the time to read this.
Organizer
Rain Hazael
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England