Help Needed After Tragic Loss;Give a family the gift of time

Friends, family, community, strangers, I need your help.

I have recently been put in touch with another grieving mama. And she needs our help and support. She will not ask for it but I will ask for her.

On June 13, 2024 Betsy gained her membership to a club no mother wants and a membership no one asks for.

On June 13, 2024 her beautiful 3 year old daughter Fancesca was ripped from us in a tragic accident.

Betsy is now living every mothers worse nightmare. Especially in the early stages of grief, it is difficult to just survive. It takes everything to pull yourself our of bed, dress yourself, feed yourself. And on top of that Betsy also has 4 other children that need her. This is exhausting for a bereaved mother.

I wish I could change this for her. But I cannot. The other thing I wish I could change for her is how our society handles grief. Do you know that IF you work for a good company.. IF.. they will give you 3 bereavement days when an immediate family member passes... THREE!!! And that is not even manditory.

This infuriated me when I lost my own son. How could I return to work when I couldn't even function. I didn't even know which way was up. Luckily for me I had amazing family and friends who made a gofund me for me. This small act spread across hundreds and hundreds of people gave me one of the most precious gifts on my grief journey. The gift of time. I had time to just be. To just survive. To relearn how to function in a world without my baby in it. To learn how to carry my other sons through their grief and navigate my own. Time to just be with my children.

So I am asking, please give Betsy that same gift. Any small about helps take the financial aspect away. The worry, stress and anxiety so that Betsy, her children and her husband can try to start to heal from this emence heart ache.

Here is something from Betsy about her beautiful daughter:

I love Cheka’s eyes Her eyes always made me smile. You seen so much beauty in life.. always such a happy girl - smiles and laughs… you’d get so excited to see all types of animals.. you would want to hold everything you can get your hands on.. with such excitement.. you’d pay attention to everyone around you and have the attention that all of us needed before going into your own world of fun and unicorn videos.

The way you would look at me if you were sad would kill me, I’d try everything to make you happy. I’d give anything in the world to see your smile again.

I miss everything about you my girl.. I can’t believe this is my life..

I know God has you in his arms and is taking amazing care of you. I know you have as much love up there spoiling you as you did down here.. but I wish it could still be me… life shouldn’t be like this..

I miss my baby

Cheka loved exploring - she wasn’t afraid of anything.. she was so vibrant and full of life— you couldn’t tell her no if you tried.. her energy was magnetic and she touched everyone she came in contact with. I love the little beautiful soul that she was and is

Cheka taught me so much about life in the short amount of time that I was blessed to have her . She had so much compassion for people- she would always showed love to everyone around her- she would randomly hug strangers- like she knew they needed that right than and there - she was so empathetic and loving- she loved life, nature and everything around her. She loved all animals- from dog to horses and everything in between. She seen beauty in everything.. snakes.. bugs .. lizards … she would make me catch frogs in my yard so she could hold them She is the only one of my kids that would play in the rain with me.. we’d all dance in my kitchen… she would laugh and be so happy.. she appreciated everything so much. She was one to stand her ground- her decisions were her decisions and she wouldn’t lie about them- she owned all of them . She was wild and rambunctious.. and I loved every moment of it.

I miss my little wild child so much.. life isn’t the same.. I’m not the same..