Help Tylar & Brianna Have a Baby with IVF
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Hello, friends and family. Most of you know of the devastating tragedies that my husband, Tylar, and I have endured since December 2018. Life has been hard for us, and it just became harder.
In December 2018, I found out I was pregnant. My husband and I were so overjoyed! But my pregnancy was cut short. We experienced our first pregnancy loss on December 31st, 2018 -- miscarriage. We were absolutely devastated. The doctor said it was most likely a “chromosomal abnormality” within the pregnancy that caused it to fail, and she said it was very common. So, my husband and I picked ourselves up and kept on living.
In March 2019, we found out we were pregnant again! But this pregnancy carried more hurt than the last. I was roughly 6 weeks pregnant and started having major abdominal cramps and heavy bleeding while at work one day. I went to the OB ER and they did an ultrasound. An hour later, the doctor came back in and told us the embryo was in my left fallopian tube (ectopic pregnancy), and that I would need surgery to remove it along with the tube. I was admitted to the hospital, had surgery on March 27th, 2019, and the team removed our heart-beating embryo and left tube. After surgery, my husband and I were left with scars and devastating news. My OBGYN found that I have a severe case of endometriosis, which caused my reproductive organs to have scarring. This scarring is what prevented the fertilized egg from traveling into my uterus; therefore, it got stuck in my left tube, implanted itself there and started growing. She also informed us that the right tube is scarred up bad, and another ectopic pregnancy is extremely likely in that remaining tube, and we should see a fertility doctor while we are young. What?! At 23 years old, we have to see a fertility doctor?!
From that point, we immediately started trying to get pregnant on our own, with the knowledge in the back of our heads that it could end in another ectopic pregnancy. But we hoped that there still might be a chance for a healthy pregnancy. After all, I still had one tube, even though it was in bad shape…anything we could do to get pregnant on our own, we tried it.
After a year of trying, we decided it was time to see a fertility specialist. We had a consultation with a fertility doctor in the summer of 2020 to discuss our options, and he agreed that the right tube is in terrible shape. He said our best option is IVF (in-vitro fertilization) where they retrieve my eggs and Tylar’s sperm, fertilize them in a lab, and insert them into my uterus, completely by-passing the fallopian tube. My husband and I were so excited to get answers, but we also got a pricey quote -- $18,000. We immediately came home that day and started looking at our finances and ways that we could save up for this. Since then, we have been saving, saving, saving.
In the meantime, we were still trying to get pregnant on our own. January 2021 comes around, and I was FINALLY pregnant again! We were so excited, but very cautious because we knew there was a huge chance for another ectopic pregnancy. But we held on to hope, and we just hoped and prayed that it would be in the correct place this time, not in the right tube! We had an ultrasound on January 21st (my birthday), and we received terrible news, yet again. The 6-week-old heart-beating embryo (same age as last time) was in my right fallopian tube. Devastated is an understatement!! I went into the hospital that afternoon, already knowing the process, because we had been through it before. I had surgery on my birthday to remove our little nugget along with my right tube… We went to our OB ultrasound that day happy and nervous at the same time and came back home that night with bigger scars and no baby in my belly or in my arms. Just in the blink of an eye, everything was taken from us again, and our world crumbled…
Now, I am officially without tubes and infertile, at only 25 years old. My husband and I want a take-home baby so bad we cannot stand it. We are now the mommy and daddy of 3 beautiful angel babies, and we want more than anything to get a chance at having an earthly baby. I know that God would not put this desire in our hearts to become parents if we were not meant to be parents. The IVF procedure is our only chance at getting our earthly baby, but it is just really expensive.
Our fertility doctor said the younger we are while doing IVF, the better our chances will be for a successful pregnancy. So, we want to start as soon as possible.
Please don’t feel obligated to donate anything, but anything donated would be extremely appreciated and we would be so grateful for any help we receive.
Thank you to everyone who has been supportive thus far. Please continue to bear with us as we travel this long, difficult road of mourning, healing, and preparing for IVF.
Remembering our babies:
12/31/2018
03/27/2019
01/21/2021
In December 2018, I found out I was pregnant. My husband and I were so overjoyed! But my pregnancy was cut short. We experienced our first pregnancy loss on December 31st, 2018 -- miscarriage. We were absolutely devastated. The doctor said it was most likely a “chromosomal abnormality” within the pregnancy that caused it to fail, and she said it was very common. So, my husband and I picked ourselves up and kept on living.
In March 2019, we found out we were pregnant again! But this pregnancy carried more hurt than the last. I was roughly 6 weeks pregnant and started having major abdominal cramps and heavy bleeding while at work one day. I went to the OB ER and they did an ultrasound. An hour later, the doctor came back in and told us the embryo was in my left fallopian tube (ectopic pregnancy), and that I would need surgery to remove it along with the tube. I was admitted to the hospital, had surgery on March 27th, 2019, and the team removed our heart-beating embryo and left tube. After surgery, my husband and I were left with scars and devastating news. My OBGYN found that I have a severe case of endometriosis, which caused my reproductive organs to have scarring. This scarring is what prevented the fertilized egg from traveling into my uterus; therefore, it got stuck in my left tube, implanted itself there and started growing. She also informed us that the right tube is scarred up bad, and another ectopic pregnancy is extremely likely in that remaining tube, and we should see a fertility doctor while we are young. What?! At 23 years old, we have to see a fertility doctor?!
From that point, we immediately started trying to get pregnant on our own, with the knowledge in the back of our heads that it could end in another ectopic pregnancy. But we hoped that there still might be a chance for a healthy pregnancy. After all, I still had one tube, even though it was in bad shape…anything we could do to get pregnant on our own, we tried it.
After a year of trying, we decided it was time to see a fertility specialist. We had a consultation with a fertility doctor in the summer of 2020 to discuss our options, and he agreed that the right tube is in terrible shape. He said our best option is IVF (in-vitro fertilization) where they retrieve my eggs and Tylar’s sperm, fertilize them in a lab, and insert them into my uterus, completely by-passing the fallopian tube. My husband and I were so excited to get answers, but we also got a pricey quote -- $18,000. We immediately came home that day and started looking at our finances and ways that we could save up for this. Since then, we have been saving, saving, saving.
In the meantime, we were still trying to get pregnant on our own. January 2021 comes around, and I was FINALLY pregnant again! We were so excited, but very cautious because we knew there was a huge chance for another ectopic pregnancy. But we held on to hope, and we just hoped and prayed that it would be in the correct place this time, not in the right tube! We had an ultrasound on January 21st (my birthday), and we received terrible news, yet again. The 6-week-old heart-beating embryo (same age as last time) was in my right fallopian tube. Devastated is an understatement!! I went into the hospital that afternoon, already knowing the process, because we had been through it before. I had surgery on my birthday to remove our little nugget along with my right tube… We went to our OB ultrasound that day happy and nervous at the same time and came back home that night with bigger scars and no baby in my belly or in my arms. Just in the blink of an eye, everything was taken from us again, and our world crumbled…
Now, I am officially without tubes and infertile, at only 25 years old. My husband and I want a take-home baby so bad we cannot stand it. We are now the mommy and daddy of 3 beautiful angel babies, and we want more than anything to get a chance at having an earthly baby. I know that God would not put this desire in our hearts to become parents if we were not meant to be parents. The IVF procedure is our only chance at getting our earthly baby, but it is just really expensive.
Our fertility doctor said the younger we are while doing IVF, the better our chances will be for a successful pregnancy. So, we want to start as soon as possible.
Please don’t feel obligated to donate anything, but anything donated would be extremely appreciated and we would be so grateful for any help we receive.
Thank you to everyone who has been supportive thus far. Please continue to bear with us as we travel this long, difficult road of mourning, healing, and preparing for IVF.
Remembering our babies:
12/31/2018
03/27/2019
01/21/2021
Organizer
Brianna Cole
Organizer
Arab, AL