Helping bring Nellie-May home

*update, Thankyou all so much for your donations and shares we appreciate every single one, I’ve had a phone call from the council and they have managed to get the funds down for me which I’m soo grateful for! So now it’s not that much to go until we get our baby girl Nellie-May back in our arms! Thankyou all soo much

Hi my name is Ellie, I’m doing this fundraiser for my baby girl Nellie-May.

Most people don’t know what went wrong so I’m here to explain, I got told I’d never have any children and was blessed with a beautiful baby girl which we found out on December 8th 2021! All seemed ok at first, I was so poorly - had my 12 week scan and they noticed straight away that my little baby had thickness on the back of her neck, so we did the blood test for her and next day I had to undergo a CVS which is a sample taken from my placenta.

Two weeks went by and they called me with the results saying everything come back clear and that we was blessed with a beautiful baby girl, from this time I was so poorly being sick all the time and knowing something was wrong deep down. I constantly went to DVH (Darrenth Valley Hospital) and Medway Maritime Hospital but no one would scan me, they’d only use heart beat monitor. Then on the 6th April 2021 I had my 20 week scan and I was 20 weeks and 5 days by this point. Within not even 5 minutes of being scanned, they told me our little girl would not survive due to having Bilateral multicystic dyplastic kidneys, Anhydramnios, Microcephaly and Pericardial effusion. As anyone can imagine it broke my heart and the consultants offered me a termination but I couldn’t go through with it, our little girl had the strongest heart rate so I decided to carry on and let her enter the world in her own time. We was suppose to make a plan at 32 weeks on the 24th June, to see if they were going to help or if they’d let her pass in her own time with pain relief.

From April to June I was in agony - from her diagnosis, it meant that Nellie-May‘s bladder were not visible and her kidneys were not working as there no fluid producing around her.

She felt squashed on the 19th June and I started to get pains so went to Medway Martime again and on the 20th but we got told it was practice contractions.

The pain was so unbearable, for over 15 hours I went back to the hospital - on the 21st at 9am and I was already 4cm and she was definitely making her way (8 weeks 2 days early)

I was just screaming for someone to help me as we hadn’t made her plan and I was so scared for what was happening; then at 12:28pm our beautiful daughter Nellie-May was born alive screaming and crying for the first 5/10 minutes, she was just breathing slowly until not long after our baby girl fell asleep forever with the angels at 1:20pm, our beautiful tiny 3pound 3 princess gone forever, our hearts are so broken And lost. 

We spent 7 days with her from birth at Demelza Hospice Care for Children which was absolutely amazing. We was able to spend time with our baby as she wasn’t coming home. When she went into the funeral home I was there all day, everyday holding her and making sure she knew she wasn’t on her own, I was in such a bad place mentally and physically I did all her funeral plans and thought a burial was for the best. But as times going on, I just want my little girl back home in my arms so I can wrap her in her blankets

The reason for this gofundme page is not for sympathy or anything else, if anyone could help towards bringing our little baby Nellie-May back home into our arms, then all help would be greatly appreciated and so heartwarming. I have spoken to the council already about getting Nellie-may cremated all nearly ready in-place, but it’s going to cost quite a bit.

I’m not in employment at the moment as I’m so poorly mentally and just miss my baby girl so much, my body is craving for her! I know a lot of people will not understand and I wouldn’t ever want them too but I just want to hold her again, we have tried to do her grave nicely but foxes keep destroying a lot of stuff and it’s making me feel worse and worse.

I would really appreciate everyone’s help even if it’s just £1 to help bring our beautiful daughter Nellie-may home

Thankyou all so much for taking the time to read, I wasn’t going to do this but family suggested to ask for help which I don’t like to do

Lots of Love from

Ellie & Joe & Nellie-may️ xxxxxx