Help Wes Move Out of Toxic Home

Hello, I'm Wes, a 25 year old transmasc nonbinary Cantonese-American that needs to move out my very toxic and abusive household. 

This is very difficult of me to ask for since I generally am very private about my life, but I desperately need to get out. I don't think I can survive much longer in this house.

This fundraiser is to help me move out before the end of this year. I hope I can move out sooner so I can find a home and prepare myself for the future.

This will help me find my actual home, and to heal from years and years of abuse and toxicity.

I cannot be who I am in this house. My family, especially my dad, is incredibly transphobic, sexist, and ableist. I am misgendered every day, told my existence does not matter.

I have to hide from him sometimes when his anger really flares up and I no longer feel safe in my own home. When I get into an extremely depressive episode he ignores me or tells me he's worse off. Lately he's been a lot more aggressive (throwing things and slamming doors/objects which is a huge trigger of mine) and in general has constantly set off my triggers and I shut down a lot when he does.

I am unable to find more work due to my rapidly declining mental and physical health. I forced myself to take a break from school this semester to help heal after dealing with the loss of my grandparent last year due to Covid and the constant abuse from my family. Unfortunately, that did not help me heal and I have been getting worse. 

There are days or weeks where I cannot speak to anyone and shut down because of my extremely toxic family. I've been ridiculed and belittled about my issues and they will never recognize me or my worth, and I've steadily been having incredibly concerning thoughts about myself that are happening more frequently now.

These funds are not completely for myself. I have a little sister, 2 years younger than me, that I will take with me because I refuse to leave them in this horrible household. I am still in college as well, so these funds will also help me support myself and my sister until I find a solid job in the future.

Here's a general overview of the things I'll be using with these funds:

- Rent 

- Food/Monthly Bills

- Therapy/Medical Fees

- Insurance for both my sister and I

- College Fees

- Any necessary equipment for my work and schoolwork (I'm a freelance writer and artist, so a new computer + tablet) 

- My eventual transition or a binder to help with my dysphoria-- possibly savings for top surgery in the future

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It is also incredibly unsafe for my sister and I, both Asian American, to be out looking for physical jobs. These funds will help keep us in our new home for a while. I do not want my sister out when there have been rapidly increasing news of AAPI being targeted for hate crimes-- especially right in my neighborhood or near my city. So I am trapped at home with my abusive family due to the pandemic and fear of being attacked/killed for who I am. 

Please help in anyway you can, and if you cannot donate via this gofundme I also have a kofi and a redbubble store. 

https://ko-fi.com/westhebi

https://www.redbubble.com/people/wes-shop/shop 

And if you cannot donate, please share this around. I can no longer stay here and feel safe or happy. I appreciate you reading this until the end.