Honor Myrtle Nabors with a Dignified Farewell

Hello everyone, my name is Cynthia and for the past four years I have lived with Mr. James Suttles and his mother, Ms. Myrtle Nabors, whom he closed his heating and air business to take care of after she had a stroke. I've known and worked for Mr. Suttles for a number of years and know the family well.

As time progressed, Ms. Nabors' health was failing and James needed my help, so I moved in with my dog Katie, and well, here we are. For the last year, her health really went down. As you might be able to tell, she was bedridden and could no longer walk. Having early-stage dementia didn't ease the job any either. I watched this wonderful woman go from a full-figured lady wearing clothes to a shell of just skin and bones. She developed bed sores, and please don't misunderstand the circumstances. James and I gave her round-the-clock care, but neither of us were trained for this. We gave her over 100% of love, care, and attention.

Then he had to sign up for home health care, but he was the one taking care of her. Nurses came and went to help relieve us somewhat by bathing her and cleaning and changing her wounds, which by this time had gotten larger and developed a foul odor. Everyone who came and went, I felt, were excellent in their care and attention. But sad to say, all this love, care, and energy that we all put into trying to make her life just a little bit more comfortable just wasn't enough.

Yesterday, September 10, 2024, James had to make the sad decision to call an ambulance to take his mother to the hospital as she was unresponsive to our attempts to get her to try to take some fluids in, which we eventually had to give her from a syringe. It was almost like she had forgotten to open her mouth to drink. As of last evening, she was sent to Hospice from the hospital, and I don't need to tell you what we are expecting. She is still here with us, thank God, but as to how long, only He knows. But we know there is no turning back. The family is abiding by her wishes to not be resuscitated, and I wouldn't want to either. This poor woman has suffered enough, and I told her myself how proud of her I was that she was taking all this in like a true warrior. Very seldom did she cry out in pain, even though if it was anyone else, we'd most likely be screaming and crying our eyes out, but Ms. Myrtle just lay there.

I don't think anyone realizes how costly the funeral and memorial is, at least I didn't, but there are so many little things that go along with the planning that I'm not quite sure anyone knew, which brings me to where we are now, asking for any type of help anyone can give. I know times are hard for most everybody, but this family didn't have much. Ms. Myrtle just turned 83 years old this past July, and she was your average country wife, mother, and homemaker in her days. Money was tight then, just as it is now. May I step ahead of myself and thank all of you who will give, no matter the amount, from .50¢ to whatever amount God lays upon your heart. Thank you now in advance, and just know that whatever you can give will be greatly appreciated and used appropriately to give her a nice and respectable burial. The family has no money, and you know how the insurance is and what it pays. So Mr. Suttles is having to start straight from the bottom. So please help this family and help to ease Mr. Suttles' heart and mind. He is 62 years old, and his health is not that great either. He is aging way before his time, but yet he still stood by his mom and completely changed his way of life and the loss of his income for his mom. He needs a thank you as well because I know for the most part, no one would have done the things he did just to be with his mom and give her some of the time she spent raising him, giving back so much more just so she would not be alone or put somewhere in a nursing facility to be soon forgotten like so many of the elderly are.

Once again, thank you for your time in reading our situation, and I pray that God lays it on your hearts today to give whatever you can to help this family in what is to be a most difficult time in their lives. Thank you.