I don’t like to ask, but I’m broken.
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I I know this is long, but please take the time to read it.
For those of you that know me, you know that I don’t air my dirty laundry on social media. I wouldn’t be doing it right now but for me, my situation has become desperate and heartbreaking. I don’t know where else to turn but my friends and family.
To give a little backstory in 1992 I married Alan Colwell. He was the father of my first child already and we had one more child. I also have two wonderful stepchildren because of him. In 1998 Alan had his first stroke, and between then and 2006 when he passed away, he had one more stroke and five heart attacks. ~ I was blessed at the time because my mother and father-in-law gave me two funeral plots one for Alan to be buried in and one for me to be buried in next to him. What I didn’t know (and I don’t think they did either)was there was paperwork that should’ve been done to legally give me the deeds for those plots.
Fast forward to October 2023, my fiancé Jim Kitts was diagnosed with stage four pancreatic cancer. He lost that battle on June 22 of this year. My plan had been to bury him with Alan so that I could be buried next to both of the men that I loved. I was notified that I had to get my brother-in-law‘s permission to do so because apparently he had become the sole heir of the entire cemetery plot.
I never in a million years meant to upset him, but apparently I did just that, because he felt that Jim did not deserve to be buried there. And then he said that I am no longer a Colwell so I cannot be buried next to Alan either! I explained to him that I had never gotten married to Jim, even though in the obituary said that we were… Because that’s how we lived and my kids felt he was their stepfather because he had been in their life for over 10 years. he told me I was a liar and that I absolutely could not be buried next to Alan even if I bought Jim his own burial plot (This conversation happened by text message, so if anyone needs to see it to believe it or if it’s denied, I have proof) I am devastated.
Not only is he denying me the right to be buried next to my husband, but I’ve called him my brother-in-law for 32 years. In those years we’ve had times that we have not been close, but there have been good times and times that we have used each other as sounding boards and Alan loved him to a fault!
So unfortunately, after many tears and a heaviness in my heart it leaves me with no choice except to buy three plots in the cemetery that Alan’s in and have him moved, so that I can be buried next to him . That’s where I need help. The cemetery plots are $900 a piece.
-to move Alan, including his new cemetery plot will be $5200 (there is a slight possibility of another $1500 if his vault has decompensated at all but Jon from the cemetery doesn’t think that it should be because it’s not that old) I’ve already paid for the vault for Jim, and all of his other funeral expenses, except the burial fee and now buying a plot. After paying the funeral home I will have a little bit left of the insurance money which I will be putting towards this.
I had been hoping on putting that on his truck that I am trying to keep as well, but that’s a whole different story (because we weren’t married ♀️)
So I’m asking my friends and family for a little financial help to get me through this and I’ll take ALL the love and prayers I can get, because I am just broken at this point.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read this.
Jessie Colwell
For those of you that know me, you know that I don’t air my dirty laundry on social media. I wouldn’t be doing it right now but for me, my situation has become desperate and heartbreaking. I don’t know where else to turn but my friends and family.
To give a little backstory in 1992 I married Alan Colwell. He was the father of my first child already and we had one more child. I also have two wonderful stepchildren because of him. In 1998 Alan had his first stroke, and between then and 2006 when he passed away, he had one more stroke and five heart attacks. ~ I was blessed at the time because my mother and father-in-law gave me two funeral plots one for Alan to be buried in and one for me to be buried in next to him. What I didn’t know (and I don’t think they did either)was there was paperwork that should’ve been done to legally give me the deeds for those plots.
Fast forward to October 2023, my fiancé Jim Kitts was diagnosed with stage four pancreatic cancer. He lost that battle on June 22 of this year. My plan had been to bury him with Alan so that I could be buried next to both of the men that I loved. I was notified that I had to get my brother-in-law‘s permission to do so because apparently he had become the sole heir of the entire cemetery plot.
I never in a million years meant to upset him, but apparently I did just that, because he felt that Jim did not deserve to be buried there. And then he said that I am no longer a Colwell so I cannot be buried next to Alan either! I explained to him that I had never gotten married to Jim, even though in the obituary said that we were… Because that’s how we lived and my kids felt he was their stepfather because he had been in their life for over 10 years. he told me I was a liar and that I absolutely could not be buried next to Alan even if I bought Jim his own burial plot (This conversation happened by text message, so if anyone needs to see it to believe it or if it’s denied, I have proof) I am devastated.
Not only is he denying me the right to be buried next to my husband, but I’ve called him my brother-in-law for 32 years. In those years we’ve had times that we have not been close, but there have been good times and times that we have used each other as sounding boards and Alan loved him to a fault!
So unfortunately, after many tears and a heaviness in my heart it leaves me with no choice except to buy three plots in the cemetery that Alan’s in and have him moved, so that I can be buried next to him . That’s where I need help. The cemetery plots are $900 a piece.
-to move Alan, including his new cemetery plot will be $5200 (there is a slight possibility of another $1500 if his vault has decompensated at all but Jon from the cemetery doesn’t think that it should be because it’s not that old) I’ve already paid for the vault for Jim, and all of his other funeral expenses, except the burial fee and now buying a plot. After paying the funeral home I will have a little bit left of the insurance money which I will be putting towards this.
I had been hoping on putting that on his truck that I am trying to keep as well, but that’s a whole different story (because we weren’t married ♀️)
So I’m asking my friends and family for a little financial help to get me through this and I’ll take ALL the love and prayers I can get, because I am just broken at this point.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read this.
Jessie Colwell
Co-organizers (2)
Jessie Colwell
Organizer
Rochester, NH
Sarah Colwell
Co-organizer