Justice for Kaia

My name is Kay. I am a Veteran & single mother to 4 children - ages 7, 6, 3, & 1.

Now that we're further in on legal processes, I can NOW disclose the specifics of this situation. This is for the SAFETY of my now three-year-old daughter, as well as my one-year-old baby girl. It came to my attention in December 2022 that their safety was at risk amidst a custody battle. A temporary restraining order was approved by the judge at the time, but CPS determined no evidence or cause to stop visitation or do anything further. Since then, things have drastically changed & progressed.

We are currently (November 2023) in the middle of CPS investigation number THREE. Police are now more involved this time, & I can't emphasize enough, how I am doing everything I possibly can for the safety & wellbeing of my children. I have followed legal processes & procedures, reported every single outcry, documented everything, with zero success in getting the system to rightfully protect my daughter.

As of this week, I was served a notice that their father filed a motion for CRIMINAL CONTEMPT, against ME, for withholding visitation during this period of a new outcry & new investigation opened up - his request for the judge, is that I be sentenced to 6 MONTHS in jail, along with a plethora of fines.

I have watched this man groom my 3yo for months; shower her with gifts & extravagant weekends & outings. She has told me repeatedly that "daddy says I'm 'supposed' to get hurt at mama's house, not daddy's house." I've witnessed him gaslight her, a 3-year-old, after she's told me something, & he's told her, "you misunderstood daddy; we're having a misunderstanding," as if she's crazy, to try to play off his antics by manipulating her. He withheld MY Summer 2023 visitation weekend during his Summer 2023 visitation time; refused to let me see her, & REFUSED phone calls. I didn't get a weekend with her for 7 WEEKS. & not ONE phone call. She returned home in August MUTE. My lively, outgoing, social butterfly of a little girl, came home & barely spoke to myself or her siblings for weeks. & just started sleeping in her own bed again, after completely clinging to & not leaving my side since returning from that Summer visit.

Fast forward to now, November 2023, she has finally started to talk to me again about her visits at daddy's house, & has made a new outcry, telling me new & explicit, heartbreaking details. Of COURSE I am withholding visitation. To PROTECT her.

I am awaiting an official court hearing notice, but it appears I should be receiving notice soon of a court hearing scheduled for November 27th. In order to move forward, I need to pay EXTENSIVE attorney fees, so that I have the legal backing necessary for our upcoming court date. There are so many other things that I could write a book on, regarding things that have happened over the course of the past two years, but this court hearing, where this man is trying to put ME in jail, (& is excited & boasting about it, at that, & has ZERO regard for the 4 children involved, that I am the primary caregiver & provider for), is a CRUCIAL time & opportunity to properly present the issues & evidence of the last 6 months, since our final custody hearing. & I NEED my attorney's expertise to handle this & make SURE everything necessary is presented & clear to the judge, so that WE can get a protective order & rightfully put a STOP to any visitations.

As someone who was sexually abused as a child, by my own family members, up until I was 15 or 16, & then sexually assaulted 4 times as an adult, I do not & WILL NOT take any of this lightly. I didn't have anyone fighting for ME. I didn't have advocates. My people did NOT protect me. Before becoming a mother, I swore to myself that I would do everything in my power to not have my own children go through anything similar, & that God forbid they did, I would go through hell or high water to protect them. A 3-YEAR-OLD, does not make these things up. A 3-YEAR-OLD, does not come up with these things at random, or on their own. My 7- & 6-year olds have NEVER made any statements as such, or EVER had any of their own outcries (note that they have a different father, thank God).

ANYONE who ignores this, or dismisses a 3-YEAR-OLD with such claims, is COMPLICIT & GUILTY by association.

We were told after the last two CPS investigations, that "until she's older, & can really testify to what is happening to her," there's NOTHING they can do. Private parts heal too quickly at this age, & it's extremely difficult to get physical evidence of what she's claiming. The word of a 3-year-old, can only be merely documented; & after "enough documented incidents/reports," only then, can something be done - in the FUTURE; after she's endured MORE of this abuse & trauma.

What began as just a custody battle, is now a matter of my 3yo daughter's IMMEDIATE safety, who has consistently said for 11 MONTHS, that her father touches her inappropriately (think.. outcrying since she was 2.5yo & she just started to fully communicate/speak). God only knows what's happening with my 1yo daughter, since she cannot speak. As a disabled vet, I have limited income. I have done all I can to pay the thousands I have paid previously on the custody battle that concluded in May, set a payment plan, etc., but unfortunately, I am beyond tapped out. I HAVE to protect my daughters & ensure their safety, so I am asking for help. I would do anything in the world to protect all of my children. & this is where we are at.

ANYTHING helps, so that I can retain my attorney for the urgent filings needed for this hearing, physical representation AT the hearing, & future filings/hearings regarding this case & investigation, pending their results & what happens from here. If you cannot help monetarily - we will take all the prayers, support, & sharing of our story, that we can get.

Help the system to finally HEAR my child. Help us get JUSTICE for KAIA.