Kendall's Top Surgery!
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Hello friends, family, and everyone who has found their way here!
*****UPDATE!*****
Surgery date is booked, for December 6th, 2018 in London, U.K. ! Thank you to everyone so far for helping to make this possible!
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Quick storytime. About ten years ago, shortly after my sixteenth birthday, I went in for a breast reduction surgery in Denver Colorado. Sixteen was the soonest the doctors and insurance company would allow me to get the surgery done, so we had the date scheduled right after I reached sixteen. Had I known I was non-binary trans masculine then, or had any clue about the spectrum of gender identity at the time, perhaps my urgency around making my breasts as small as possible would have made a lot more sense to me. Looking back, I have so much compassion and love for that 16 year old Kendall, who had all kinds of complicated feelings which didn’t seem to make sense at the time. That was ten years ago.
Here we are now. This past year of my 25th cycle around the sun, you could say “transition” has been the main theme of my life. I have moved to London U.K., started a graduate degree at the Guildhall School, been surrounded by incredible & supportive friends, made lots of music, and have been able to share this love for music with several community groups in London. I have also come into a gender identity that feels more and more aligned with who I am. Last summer I nervously tried on they/them pronouns with a few friends, discovered how amazing I felt when I let myself put a binder on for the first time, stepped into the unknown and kept allowing myself to unravel and put the pieces together in my own time.
"Do you know the feeling of falling in love?
Where suddenly your world is bigger, brighter, beautiful in a way that it never was before?
Transition has been a slow, steady fall. Every day I see myself more clearly and I feel love in ways I haven’t loved before; I find flowers growing where they never grew before." - Sam Dylan Finch
I have grown so much, and there are moments when I feel more complete than ever before. I look in the mirror and I am beginning to see ME, more and more. I’ve had many downs, many ups, many messy breakdowns, many moments of blissful ecstasy, and am now ready for the next step in my transition. That step, is top surgery.
The total cost for the surgery itself is £5975. (This is not including consultation fees, aftercare products, and a plane ticket for Mom to come out to be here with me).
I will be getting the surgery done in London with Dr. Miles Berry, and am aiming for a time this fall. I’ve been able to raise some of this myself, and am asking for community support to help me cover the rest of this cost as it is too great of a cost to take on alone. I am grateful for any and all donations! From £5-£1000 every pound(£) is a huge gift. I understand not every person is in a position to donate, and if you still want to help me, you can do so by sharing this page! Once I reach a bit over half of my goal here (about £2900), I can start planning an actual date for surgery.
Some things I look forward to after top surgery?
Learning how to surf, and being shirtless on the beach.
Feeling the fresh air and sunshine on my chest. Or soft fabric against my skin without a binder. ( Along with that one, being able to breathe a lot easier! :) )
Seeing my flat chest silhouetted in the mirror.
More confidence in my body, mind and gender identity.
...and just generally FEELING AWESOME!
This gender-affirming surgery is a life-long investment into my happiness and wellbeing. Thank you all SO very much for reading and supporting me.
Love,
Kendall
P.s. check out my exciting "perks" for donating. Your generosity means so much and I'd love to give back in my own creative way! You can get a digital album of mine, some crafty postcards/cards, conversations about gender, and/or a personalized song. And of course, unlimited hugs/high-fives/winks!
*****UPDATE!*****
Surgery date is booked, for December 6th, 2018 in London, U.K. ! Thank you to everyone so far for helping to make this possible!
*********************
Quick storytime. About ten years ago, shortly after my sixteenth birthday, I went in for a breast reduction surgery in Denver Colorado. Sixteen was the soonest the doctors and insurance company would allow me to get the surgery done, so we had the date scheduled right after I reached sixteen. Had I known I was non-binary trans masculine then, or had any clue about the spectrum of gender identity at the time, perhaps my urgency around making my breasts as small as possible would have made a lot more sense to me. Looking back, I have so much compassion and love for that 16 year old Kendall, who had all kinds of complicated feelings which didn’t seem to make sense at the time. That was ten years ago.
Here we are now. This past year of my 25th cycle around the sun, you could say “transition” has been the main theme of my life. I have moved to London U.K., started a graduate degree at the Guildhall School, been surrounded by incredible & supportive friends, made lots of music, and have been able to share this love for music with several community groups in London. I have also come into a gender identity that feels more and more aligned with who I am. Last summer I nervously tried on they/them pronouns with a few friends, discovered how amazing I felt when I let myself put a binder on for the first time, stepped into the unknown and kept allowing myself to unravel and put the pieces together in my own time.
"Do you know the feeling of falling in love?
Where suddenly your world is bigger, brighter, beautiful in a way that it never was before?
Transition has been a slow, steady fall. Every day I see myself more clearly and I feel love in ways I haven’t loved before; I find flowers growing where they never grew before." - Sam Dylan Finch
I have grown so much, and there are moments when I feel more complete than ever before. I look in the mirror and I am beginning to see ME, more and more. I’ve had many downs, many ups, many messy breakdowns, many moments of blissful ecstasy, and am now ready for the next step in my transition. That step, is top surgery.
The total cost for the surgery itself is £5975. (This is not including consultation fees, aftercare products, and a plane ticket for Mom to come out to be here with me).
I will be getting the surgery done in London with Dr. Miles Berry, and am aiming for a time this fall. I’ve been able to raise some of this myself, and am asking for community support to help me cover the rest of this cost as it is too great of a cost to take on alone. I am grateful for any and all donations! From £5-£1000 every pound(£) is a huge gift. I understand not every person is in a position to donate, and if you still want to help me, you can do so by sharing this page! Once I reach a bit over half of my goal here (about £2900), I can start planning an actual date for surgery.
Some things I look forward to after top surgery?
Learning how to surf, and being shirtless on the beach.
Feeling the fresh air and sunshine on my chest. Or soft fabric against my skin without a binder. ( Along with that one, being able to breathe a lot easier! :) )
Seeing my flat chest silhouetted in the mirror.
More confidence in my body, mind and gender identity.
...and just generally FEELING AWESOME!
This gender-affirming surgery is a life-long investment into my happiness and wellbeing. Thank you all SO very much for reading and supporting me.
Love,
Kendall
P.s. check out my exciting "perks" for donating. Your generosity means so much and I'd love to give back in my own creative way! You can get a digital album of mine, some crafty postcards/cards, conversations about gender, and/or a personalized song. And of course, unlimited hugs/high-fives/winks!
Organizer
Kendall Perry
Organizer
England