Louis Labordeta
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My Brother Louis Labordeta died unexpectedly on October 17, 2018. I know were He is and know he is at peace. But I am selfish and still wish he was here, so I would not be telling this story.
Louis was Loving and Funny Person everyone who met him loved Him. He is a Great Man, Great husband, Great brother, Great uncle and one of the Bravest and strongest person's I will ever know he is my Rock and my Hero. Even in despite of his health issues he always was joking around trying to make everyone laugh. This way His way of showing everything was ok.
My brother endured a lot of pain with his health issues he lost his kidneys at a young age due to his aggressive diabetes and receive Dialysis 3 times a week, his wife Donated her kidney to him which he enjoyed for three years. Complications arose and he lost the kidney again having to return to Dialysis treatments. Louis new how to hide his pain and disappointment very well always smiling and always would say to me "IT IS WHAT IT IS CANT CHANGE IT".
Then there was new LIGHT....
My cousin came down from California couple months ago this year willing to donate her kidney to him, hopes were high...
Again with disappointment... Doctor's told my brother due to his prior kidney from his wife. His whole system had changed and his antibodies increased, and if this kidney was placed, his body would destroy it immediately. He still keeped the smile on his face hiding the pain. He was placed on a special waiting list with 4 patients before him still and always having HOPE AND FAITH.
To continue and some more issues came up. Louie was also told by his cardiologist that his heart was working 20% he was going to receive a pace maker and defibrillator on the 19 of October, 2018. Heart failure are side effects of the dialysis. That day never came also. It was too late he passed away before the procedure took place.
My brother did not pass away because of Heart failure, Diabetes or Dialysis or because he did not receive a New Kidney.
My brother passed away BECAUSE OF MERSA IN HIS BLOODSTREAM WHEN HE GOT HIS PORTS CLEANED (PORTS IS WERE HE RECEIVED DIALYSIS IN HIS ARM) IN A CLINIC WERE I GUESS HYGIENE WAS NOT IMPORTANT. THE MERSA WRAPPED AROUND THE VALVES OF HIS HEART AND TORE IT APART AND THE PIECES WENT TO HIS BLOODSTREAM WHICH CREATED NUMEROUS STROKES TO MANY TO COUNT SAID THE NEUROLOGIST. ON HIS WAY TO THE HOSPITAL IN THE AMBULANCE THEY TESTED HIS SUGAR LEVELS WHICH WERE IN THE 400 HUNDREDS WHICH LEAD THEM TO BELIEVE HE WAS IN SUGAR SHOCK DUE TO HIS INCOHERENCE WHEN THEY ASKED HIM QUESTIONS, IN THE MEAN TIME HE WAS HAVING HIS FIRST STROKE.
MY BROTHER ARRIVED TO EMERGENCY AND DETERIORATED SLOWLY LOSING HIS SITE, SPEECH, ABILITY TO COMPREHEND, SWALLOW, MOTOR SKILLS, BRAIN COMMANDS, ABILITY FOR THE BRAIN TO REGULATE HIS TEMPERATURE. THE WERE SO MANY DECISIONS TO MAKE BEFORE WE KNEW THE DAMAGE TO HIS BRAIN .
WE HAD HOPE AND FAITH. HE WAS GOING TO GET UP AND GO HOME LIKE HE USUAL DID.
HE TOOK A DETOUR THIS TIME. HE WENT HOME BUT THAT HOME WAS HEAVEN.
Our family was not prepared for this low blow. Neither mentally or spiritually or economically. We had no experience at all with any of the details and requirements for a wake or funeral.
" Life is strange and brings us challenges we are not prepared for or expect and then shows us our capability of how we were able to handle this challenge. WORD OF ADVICE DO NOT GO TO BED ANGRY AND ALWAYS FINISH YOUR CONVERSATIONS WITH A I LOVE YOU. YOU NEVER KNOW WHEN YOUR LAST TIME WILL BE.
I had never In My life felt so many FEELINGS in one day. Anxiety, Loss of control, Uncertainty, Doubt, Desperation, Pain, Anger, Rebellion, Guilt, Sorrow, Humility, Regret, SO much confusion, Shock...
MIXED with feelings of a whole lot of Love, Comfort, Happiness, Understanding , Compassion, Patience, Repentance, Forgivenes, Acceptance and Peace. Too much for the mind and body to handle in one day.
Then after all that you keep reliving that day and how you can have done things better, knowing you cannot change it, but you want to mentally continue to torture yourself.
I did not know about this website till now and the stories give me some comfort , when you realize other people are going to similar situations and other situations that are worse then ours and people out there are dealing with there situation just like We are. Trying to find comfort and some kind of CLOSURE trying to understand the Why's and the What If's.
Even though it so hard to wrap MY MIND around what happened and I know, HE IS NOT PHYSICALLY HERE anymore. I still CANNOT LET GO. It hurts to even think and people say think of the good memories. YES I DO BUT THOSE HURT ALSO CAUSE I WANTED TO MAKE MORE MEMORIES AND HE WILL NOT BE HERE TO MAKE THEM.....
Our next challenge is trying to get the tomb stone to complete this stage in his life and ours. I never thought in my life of dealing or looking for a tombstone for my brother. Again when the time comes to purchase it and see it, that is when it will dawn on me. "THIS IS REALLY IT ".
My Family and I appreciate anything we can receive and are grateful. Even if you just read this It's cool, I appreciate your time, and hope by reading it gives someone relief too. Your NOT Alone :)))
PLEASE BE AWARE OF MERSA.
God Bless You All and Thank You.
Maria V. Lisanti (Labordeta)
Louis was Loving and Funny Person everyone who met him loved Him. He is a Great Man, Great husband, Great brother, Great uncle and one of the Bravest and strongest person's I will ever know he is my Rock and my Hero. Even in despite of his health issues he always was joking around trying to make everyone laugh. This way His way of showing everything was ok.
My brother endured a lot of pain with his health issues he lost his kidneys at a young age due to his aggressive diabetes and receive Dialysis 3 times a week, his wife Donated her kidney to him which he enjoyed for three years. Complications arose and he lost the kidney again having to return to Dialysis treatments. Louis new how to hide his pain and disappointment very well always smiling and always would say to me "IT IS WHAT IT IS CANT CHANGE IT".
Then there was new LIGHT....
My cousin came down from California couple months ago this year willing to donate her kidney to him, hopes were high...
Again with disappointment... Doctor's told my brother due to his prior kidney from his wife. His whole system had changed and his antibodies increased, and if this kidney was placed, his body would destroy it immediately. He still keeped the smile on his face hiding the pain. He was placed on a special waiting list with 4 patients before him still and always having HOPE AND FAITH.
To continue and some more issues came up. Louie was also told by his cardiologist that his heart was working 20% he was going to receive a pace maker and defibrillator on the 19 of October, 2018. Heart failure are side effects of the dialysis. That day never came also. It was too late he passed away before the procedure took place.
My brother did not pass away because of Heart failure, Diabetes or Dialysis or because he did not receive a New Kidney.
My brother passed away BECAUSE OF MERSA IN HIS BLOODSTREAM WHEN HE GOT HIS PORTS CLEANED (PORTS IS WERE HE RECEIVED DIALYSIS IN HIS ARM) IN A CLINIC WERE I GUESS HYGIENE WAS NOT IMPORTANT. THE MERSA WRAPPED AROUND THE VALVES OF HIS HEART AND TORE IT APART AND THE PIECES WENT TO HIS BLOODSTREAM WHICH CREATED NUMEROUS STROKES TO MANY TO COUNT SAID THE NEUROLOGIST. ON HIS WAY TO THE HOSPITAL IN THE AMBULANCE THEY TESTED HIS SUGAR LEVELS WHICH WERE IN THE 400 HUNDREDS WHICH LEAD THEM TO BELIEVE HE WAS IN SUGAR SHOCK DUE TO HIS INCOHERENCE WHEN THEY ASKED HIM QUESTIONS, IN THE MEAN TIME HE WAS HAVING HIS FIRST STROKE.
MY BROTHER ARRIVED TO EMERGENCY AND DETERIORATED SLOWLY LOSING HIS SITE, SPEECH, ABILITY TO COMPREHEND, SWALLOW, MOTOR SKILLS, BRAIN COMMANDS, ABILITY FOR THE BRAIN TO REGULATE HIS TEMPERATURE. THE WERE SO MANY DECISIONS TO MAKE BEFORE WE KNEW THE DAMAGE TO HIS BRAIN .
WE HAD HOPE AND FAITH. HE WAS GOING TO GET UP AND GO HOME LIKE HE USUAL DID.
HE TOOK A DETOUR THIS TIME. HE WENT HOME BUT THAT HOME WAS HEAVEN.Our family was not prepared for this low blow. Neither mentally or spiritually or economically. We had no experience at all with any of the details and requirements for a wake or funeral.
" Life is strange and brings us challenges we are not prepared for or expect and then shows us our capability of how we were able to handle this challenge. WORD OF ADVICE DO NOT GO TO BED ANGRY AND ALWAYS FINISH YOUR CONVERSATIONS WITH A I LOVE YOU. YOU NEVER KNOW WHEN YOUR LAST TIME WILL BE.
I had never In My life felt so many FEELINGS in one day. Anxiety, Loss of control, Uncertainty, Doubt, Desperation, Pain, Anger, Rebellion, Guilt, Sorrow, Humility, Regret, SO much confusion, Shock...
MIXED with feelings of a whole lot of Love, Comfort, Happiness, Understanding , Compassion, Patience, Repentance, Forgivenes, Acceptance and Peace. Too much for the mind and body to handle in one day.
Then after all that you keep reliving that day and how you can have done things better, knowing you cannot change it, but you want to mentally continue to torture yourself.
I did not know about this website till now and the stories give me some comfort , when you realize other people are going to similar situations and other situations that are worse then ours and people out there are dealing with there situation just like We are. Trying to find comfort and some kind of CLOSURE trying to understand the Why's and the What If's.
Even though it so hard to wrap MY MIND around what happened and I know, HE IS NOT PHYSICALLY HERE anymore. I still CANNOT LET GO. It hurts to even think and people say think of the good memories. YES I DO BUT THOSE HURT ALSO CAUSE I WANTED TO MAKE MORE MEMORIES AND HE WILL NOT BE HERE TO MAKE THEM.....
Our next challenge is trying to get the tomb stone to complete this stage in his life and ours. I never thought in my life of dealing or looking for a tombstone for my brother. Again when the time comes to purchase it and see it, that is when it will dawn on me. "THIS IS REALLY IT ".
My Family and I appreciate anything we can receive and are grateful. Even if you just read this It's cool, I appreciate your time, and hope by reading it gives someone relief too. Your NOT Alone :)))
PLEASE BE AWARE OF MERSA.
God Bless You All and Thank You.
Maria V. Lisanti (Labordeta)
Organizer
Maria Victoria Labordeta
Organizer
Elmwood Park, NJ