Memorial Dinner for Michael J Serino

My father was never one to ask for much. Even when he had little to give he always seemed to make the impossible happen. As a kid, my mom would occasionally tell me that dad would be home a little later. I realize now that it wasn't because his hours were changing but instead because he was putting in overtime to make sure the bills were paid and that my sister and I would still have presents under the tree that year. As I got older, I began to realize all of the times my dad would give even when he couldn't. To be honest, it frustrated me. Why is someone struggling always the one to give so much? Why didn't he ever ask for help when we were struggling financially? I will never know for sure, but what I do know was that this was just his character. When there was a family dispute his siblings knew they could rely on him. He was never one to take a side. He always wanted to be the mediator, and that's what he was. Through all his faults, his desires were simple. He wanted his family to be happy, to be safe, and to have someone they could turn to in a time of need. All he sought in return was a six-pack of Bud and some peace and quiet when the Patriots game was on.

He did have a final wish, however, and so far, we've been able to honor most of it. He didn't want a funeral or any sort of service, partially because he knew how difficult they were to endure. He had lost enough of his siblings in the last few years to put that burden on even one more person. Instead, he told us he wanted a party. A celebration of his life. He wanted tears replaced with laughter, and most importantly, family and friends surrounded by good food. As I write this, it's difficult to give him laughter when there's still a hole in my heart from his passing. I can't promise him I will be able to give him everything, but I know he would have done everything he could if the situation was reversed.

My ask of you is simple. Please help me and my family fulfill my father's final wish. We are planning a large dinner at one of his favorite restaurants near the end of July, when his first batch of tomatoes would be ready to be picked from his garden. The total amount of the party will be covered regardless of the donations this receives, even if right now that seems difficult. It's because of my dad that I know this can be done. But what I also know from him is that people will give even when they can't. I am asking you as the son of a man that gave when he couldn't to please put yourself and your family first, even if that can only come in the form of a hug. Take care of your loved ones and those close to you, and if you still wish to honor my father's legacy, do your best to enjoy a Bud, or go the easy route and enjoy a cannoli. Just don't get chocolate chips on them or he might have a word with you.