Memorial for my father Troy Brookman

I never thought I would have to do this, especially so young. The loss of my dad has been extremely difficult and many of you who know me know that I also lost my sister at a very young age. This process of losing loved ones is one I’m very familiar with at this point and it truly never gets easier. I am beyond shocked and sick to my stomach and left with some incredible guilt after losing my dad.

After only having two days to process this I am setting up a go fund me to help with any and all expenses to be able to get things in order and create a beautiful service he deserves! With all of my family back in California it will be a lot on my plate trying to organize everything for family and his friends and I am already feeling very overwhelmed. Anything helps and I am truly grateful to have a loving support system.

My dad Troy was loved by everyone. He was a loving and caring man and always did the best he could for my sister and I growing up. Some of my favorite memories were when we would visit him every summer and play tennis and swim all day long. My dad was an avid tennis player and loved the game and I’m so grateful he shared that with me and Erin. He also loved fishing, skiing, riding his electric bikes and racing his bmw! Growing up I remember he was the fun dad and would play with all the cousins and friends in the neighborhood. Everyone loved “T Roy”, except when he made us do push ups for bad behavior. Although it made my sister and I stronger than most boys at school and that was something he was very proud of. Summertime at my dads place was some of my best childhood memories figuring I don’t remember a lot of my childhood. Family knows the story.

My dad was the type of person to help everyone and anyone and I’m so happy I have that trait! He was also a Leo like myself, HUGE HEART, giving and ALL THE LOVE. He was happy go lucky, fun of the party and very active. He dealt with a lot ( my sisters passing) but still managed to get out there and enjoy life. He was loved by so many people and had strong bonds with his friends and family.

I still can’t believe I’m writing this out for him. I’ve dealt with a lot of loss in my short 32 years here but this one is the most painful. He was always there for me no matter what and always made me feel loved, safe and protected. I am grateful for everything but really wish I had the opportunity to have told him one last time I loved him. Dealing with my own trauma and having to take time to heal myself I had lost contact with my dad last year (my choice) and have extreme guilt for not returning his calls. This haunts me and hurts the most. After losing my sister I thought nothing would even compare but I was wrong. I’m just grateful they are now together once again ❤️

I am so overwhelmed with all of this and especially the finances it takes to make everything happen.

I am not usually one to ask for help but I really do need some help and it makes me sad even asking. When my Grammy passed away we never set up a memorial service for her due to it being so close to my sisters funeral and I would like to combine him and his moms together ❤️

Thank you in advance for helping me out during this time and want to everyone to know I am truly grateful for anything and everything.

If you’re not able to donate, do something kind for someone instead! Call your family members and tell them you love them. Life is too short not to! Don’t allow yourself to have this pain and regret I’m feeling.

Love

Lauren