Memorial & Loss Expenses for Jorge D. & Family
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I hesitated in making this fundraiser for some time because I honestly felt I should be able to handle this on my own. Alas, I’m admitting defeat and asking for help. On January 20th, my dad passed away from prostate cancer. He sadly let things get worse, but I want to make it clear that during this time he let his health remain unchecked, he was caring for my mother and trying his best not to worry us. My mother passed away in 2019 and that very same week, my dad was sent to the E.R. He lived his life helping others and never once complained or asked for help.
When my mom passed, we were all hit with tremendous financial burdens and we didn’t ask for help. I wish so badly I had made better decisions in life so that I could help completely remove all his financial worries. He spent his last weeks of life answering the landlord’s phone calls and harassments from bill collectors, literally trembling from financial stress. I had to take the phone from him several times telling him not to worry about these things and saying I’d handle it, but this wouldn't calm him. I can’t express the immense heartache this caused me. He didn’t deserve to live like this. He was educated and had a degree in Chemistry. A degree that was worthless here because he didn’t master English and continue with grad school here. He dedicated the rest of his life to my mother and me and for most of my life, we barely made ends meet due to multiple misfortunes and losses.
Despite all of that, he loved his job and he was incredibly proud of it, making it a pleasant place for everyone. He worked at the Anaheim Convention Center for over 15 years and I’ve heard so many stories of how loved he was. He spoke well of everyone and never engaged in any office politics or gossip. When he got out of the hospital in 2019, he rushed back to work, ignoring his doctor’s advice. He actually got better for a while because of it. His work gave him life. He saw his friends, he got exercise, and he just felt like he was contributing to society. When the pandemic hit, his health declined rapidly. He missed his friends and he worried about them every day as we continued to learn about rising cases and heard of the passings of people close to us.
I rented us a cabin in Big Bear and we spent a weekend moseying around the lake, searching for Comet Neowise, and playing video games and chess like old times. This last trip with him will always be special to me. Shortly after, he began losing his ability to walk and eventually became bedridden, needing care at the level of an infant. He was a shy and dignified man and this made things extremely difficult for both of us. The pandemic made it so hard for me to get the additional help we needed and the last months were excruciating.
He deserved SO much more and I can’t help but feel I failed him. I now have numerous expenses to handle and I just want to be able to have the luxury to just grieve and plan a beautiful memorial where he and my mother can be together. Any donation or share is greatly appreciated. Thank you.
When my mom passed, we were all hit with tremendous financial burdens and we didn’t ask for help. I wish so badly I had made better decisions in life so that I could help completely remove all his financial worries. He spent his last weeks of life answering the landlord’s phone calls and harassments from bill collectors, literally trembling from financial stress. I had to take the phone from him several times telling him not to worry about these things and saying I’d handle it, but this wouldn't calm him. I can’t express the immense heartache this caused me. He didn’t deserve to live like this. He was educated and had a degree in Chemistry. A degree that was worthless here because he didn’t master English and continue with grad school here. He dedicated the rest of his life to my mother and me and for most of my life, we barely made ends meet due to multiple misfortunes and losses.
Despite all of that, he loved his job and he was incredibly proud of it, making it a pleasant place for everyone. He worked at the Anaheim Convention Center for over 15 years and I’ve heard so many stories of how loved he was. He spoke well of everyone and never engaged in any office politics or gossip. When he got out of the hospital in 2019, he rushed back to work, ignoring his doctor’s advice. He actually got better for a while because of it. His work gave him life. He saw his friends, he got exercise, and he just felt like he was contributing to society. When the pandemic hit, his health declined rapidly. He missed his friends and he worried about them every day as we continued to learn about rising cases and heard of the passings of people close to us.
I rented us a cabin in Big Bear and we spent a weekend moseying around the lake, searching for Comet Neowise, and playing video games and chess like old times. This last trip with him will always be special to me. Shortly after, he began losing his ability to walk and eventually became bedridden, needing care at the level of an infant. He was a shy and dignified man and this made things extremely difficult for both of us. The pandemic made it so hard for me to get the additional help we needed and the last months were excruciating.
He deserved SO much more and I can’t help but feel I failed him. I now have numerous expenses to handle and I just want to be able to have the luxury to just grieve and plan a beautiful memorial where he and my mother can be together. Any donation or share is greatly appreciated. Thank you.
Organizer
Keira Susan Dazi
Organizer
Anaheim, CA