Michelle Abbott

I’m not really sure how to ask for help or basically tell anyone anything that’s been going on lately. My mom was missing from a lot of you know about a year and a half ago and everyone thought she went crazy. They prescribed her schizophrenia meds all year they assumed she was schizophrenic even though she had only freaked out one time. I find out about in November she’s being transferred to Mass General because she seized and they were under the impression that she had some type of cancer. The neurologist found a huge mass in her brain which was causing her to seize over and over so they could only remove part of it. They sent her back to Cooley Dickinson and tried to find out what cancer it was and every time they tried to test it. It was stage 4 breast cancer it was too late. I was told she had a year to a year and a half left so I wasn’t expecting it this early. It was everywhere in her body. My mom was staying at Highview and leads in nursing home because I cannot offer the proper care where I live. My mother is the strongest woman I know she kept fighting she went to radiation and she started chemo and about three weeks to four weeks ago she stopped the chemo because it was making her deathly ill. My mother told her chaplain  and hospice not to contact me because she did not want me to see her that way. I found out basically 24 hours before she passed away and that was the last time I ever spent with her. I never in my life thought I would have to bury someone or make these decisions and I’m doing it all alone and I feel like my family is not doing anything to help. All I can do is try to do is the best I can for my mom because that’s what I think she truly deserves. Everyone is telling me to take the cheap way out of it and I think she deserves a proper burial and a stone with her name on it because that’s what she deserves. So far I have covered cremation and I now find out I have to cover a stone a digger an urn a plot flowers even more things I can’t event explain. I don’t think I’m supposed to but I don’t really know what she wanted. As a Catholic we bury you in the ground and I don’t care what anyone tells me I think that’s what my mother would want. I can’t realistically afford all these things upfront right now and I want to get it done right away because she deserves a upmost respect. I guess I’m really asking if anyone or any of my friends could donate to help me make this possible to do what’s right by her because I wasn’t there for her when she needed me the most. I hate asking for help it hurts my pride but I want to do right for my mother. I want to cover the expenses I need and then donate the rest to the funeral home that helped me get all this done. She passed March 15 at 2:51 AM.