Miller Adoption Fund
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If you know us you know that we have NEVER raised funds for ourselves. We have always been blessed to be givers towards these type of opportunities. Having always been fully funded to pursue our personal dreams and give into many other areas. With that said this has been a unique season for us and we feel compelled to ask our friends and community for support in our journey to find our little one.
Please take a minute and read through our story. Thank you for your consideration in supporting the next phase of our families story!
THE STORY:
Adoption has been a core desire since before we were married. With our work in Mexico combined with Micheal having been adopted himself we have always known that adoption was going to be a part of our families story.
If you have followed along for any length of time you probably know that our pursuit of building a family through adoption has been filled with challenges, road blocks and heart breaking dead ends. Some of this is in part due to the fact that we have never really taken the easy road. We often find ourselves unintentionally on the "road less traveled" taking on difficult situations fueled only by love, passion and the burning question "if not us then who?".
After pursuing an international adoption for nearly a decade only to find ourselves at a dead end over and over again we decided to pursue a more traditional route in domestic adoption. In April this year we hired a consultant, filled out the paperwork and went through the process of home study. Everything seemed to breeze by and in August we were matched with a baby girl due October 17. We were elated. Not only were we matched with our dream baby but the process for the first time in our lives felt like it was just simply running smoothly.
About 2 weeks before the baby was to arrive we packed up our things and went to await her birth in San Antonio, TX. We were so excited and nervous and hope-filled and terrified and and and... Just about a week before she was to be born however something changed. The mom stopped responding to our agency all together. She didn't answer or return calls, text messages (although we could she that she read them) and most oddly didn't show up to receive her regular weekly support for rent, utilities, groceries etc that were provided by us via the adoption agency. After many attempts to make contact the week went by, the due date came and went and nothing came from the birth mom. Now again after all we had done we found ourselves with an all too familiar sense of disappointment and ultimately a failed adoption.
Micheal wrote this a few days after our return home:
"The truth is that we are broken. We have way more questions than we have answers. All we can say is BUT GOD. When we don’t understand, BUT GOD. When we are filled with sorrow and anger, BUT GOD. When we feel like maybe the God that we trust isn’t so trustworthy after all, BUT GOD. We still believe in His goodness. We still believe in His kindness. And we still believe that His plans are better than ours and when there is nowhere left to lean we lean in further to Him. I don’t get it and maybe thats ok. Because what I do know is that the fruit of faithfulness is always greater than the pain of process."
This is where we are at today. Fueled by the belief that the fruit of faithfulness is our reward despite the pain of our process. So we move forward with hope, trust and anticipation that the best is yet to come and our promised child is still waiting for us to find them. But now this is where we need your help.
As I said in the beginning this is really foreign to us. Raising funds for ourselves is something that we have simply never done. The truth is that in this last season we have gotten beat up pretty good financially from many different angles including the loss of a good portion of funds from a failed adoption. We came into this match tight but fully self funded as the adoption was less expensive than most (about 30K plus travel and other consultancy fees). In a failed adoption there is often a large sum that is lost no matter the outcome. Thats right, if you didn't know already you can lose part or all of your funds in the event the birth mom simply changes her mind.
We were lucky as we have heard horror stories of families losing $50,000 plus in a failed adoption but none the less there was significant loss to us.
We are ok and we are gonna make it but we do not want to wait to recover financially or take on more debt to move our family planning forward. This is where we are asking that you would consider giving towards this so that we can quickly jump back into the ring and start fighting to find our promise child.
HERE IS THE NEED:
We have paid basically all the upfront costs of consultancy, home study, applications etc. So in order to begin seeing cases again we need to be prepared to put at least half up front at match and then the balance relatively soon thereafter.
In order for us to be comfortable committing to view and commit to cases again we need to raise about $20,000 immediately and then work towards the full amount thereafter.
Anything you can contribute we would be tremendously grateful for.
Thank You and Many Blessings,
The Millers
If you know us you know that we have NEVER raised funds for ourselves. We have always been blessed to be givers towards these type of opportunities. Having always been fully funded to pursue our personal dreams and give into many other areas. With that said this has been a unique season for us and we feel compelled to ask our friends and community for support in our journey to find our little one.
Please take a minute and read through our story. Thank you for your consideration in supporting the next phase of our families story!
THE STORY:
Adoption has been a core desire since before we were married. With our work in Mexico combined with Micheal having been adopted himself we have always known that adoption was going to be a part of our families story.
If you have followed along for any length of time you probably know that our pursuit of building a family through adoption has been filled with challenges, road blocks and heart breaking dead ends. Some of this is in part due to the fact that we have never really taken the easy road. We often find ourselves unintentionally on the "road less traveled" taking on difficult situations fueled only by love, passion and the burning question "if not us then who?".
After pursuing an international adoption for nearly a decade only to find ourselves at a dead end over and over again we decided to pursue a more traditional route in domestic adoption. In April this year we hired a consultant, filled out the paperwork and went through the process of home study. Everything seemed to breeze by and in August we were matched with a baby girl due October 17. We were elated. Not only were we matched with our dream baby but the process for the first time in our lives felt like it was just simply running smoothly.
About 2 weeks before the baby was to arrive we packed up our things and went to await her birth in San Antonio, TX. We were so excited and nervous and hope-filled and terrified and and and... Just about a week before she was to be born however something changed. The mom stopped responding to our agency all together. She didn't answer or return calls, text messages (although we could she that she read them) and most oddly didn't show up to receive her regular weekly support for rent, utilities, groceries etc that were provided by us via the adoption agency. After many attempts to make contact the week went by, the due date came and went and nothing came from the birth mom. Now again after all we had done we found ourselves with an all too familiar sense of disappointment and ultimately a failed adoption.
Micheal wrote this a few days after our return home:
"The truth is that we are broken. We have way more questions than we have answers. All we can say is BUT GOD. When we don’t understand, BUT GOD. When we are filled with sorrow and anger, BUT GOD. When we feel like maybe the God that we trust isn’t so trustworthy after all, BUT GOD. We still believe in His goodness. We still believe in His kindness. And we still believe that His plans are better than ours and when there is nowhere left to lean we lean in further to Him. I don’t get it and maybe thats ok. Because what I do know is that the fruit of faithfulness is always greater than the pain of process."
This is where we are at today. Fueled by the belief that the fruit of faithfulness is our reward despite the pain of our process. So we move forward with hope, trust and anticipation that the best is yet to come and our promised child is still waiting for us to find them. But now this is where we need your help.
As I said in the beginning this is really foreign to us. Raising funds for ourselves is something that we have simply never done. The truth is that in this last season we have gotten beat up pretty good financially from many different angles including the loss of a good portion of funds from a failed adoption. We came into this match tight but fully self funded as the adoption was less expensive than most (about 30K plus travel and other consultancy fees). In a failed adoption there is often a large sum that is lost no matter the outcome. Thats right, if you didn't know already you can lose part or all of your funds in the event the birth mom simply changes her mind.
We were lucky as we have heard horror stories of families losing $50,000 plus in a failed adoption but none the less there was significant loss to us.
We are ok and we are gonna make it but we do not want to wait to recover financially or take on more debt to move our family planning forward. This is where we are asking that you would consider giving towards this so that we can quickly jump back into the ring and start fighting to find our promise child.
HERE IS THE NEED:
We have paid basically all the upfront costs of consultancy, home study, applications etc. So in order to begin seeing cases again we need to be prepared to put at least half up front at match and then the balance relatively soon thereafter.
In order for us to be comfortable committing to view and commit to cases again we need to raise about $20,000 immediately and then work towards the full amount thereafter.
Anything you can contribute we would be tremendously grateful for.
Thank You and Many Blessings,
The Millers
Organizer
Micheal Miller
Organizer
Redding, CA