Mother of 2 beautiful kids needs help

Hi, my name is Matt and I started this go fund me page for the mother of my child and my ex wife [ who's name I will leave out for purposes of privacy. ] We have been separated for a while now but I still care for her and we have always been very civil and still close friends. I want to tell this whole story so that you know why I started this page, can hopefully empathize with our situation and I’ve never done this before.

For starters, she doesn’t know I’m even starting this page for her because she truly didn’t think anybody would care. I had someone tell me that this was " embarrasing " to post, that I should be ashamed and feel " Hobo-ish " for starting this fundraiser but I gracefully disregarded this judgemental opinion because I believe we are all human and at the end of the day we were put on this earth to help out one another to the best of our abilities - especially in times of dire need, and I truly believe in my heart of hearts that this was the right choice, and essentially started this fundraiser because I care deeply for the financial, mental, emotional, and overall spiritual well being of my ex wife, my son and her daughter. I always will.

Here is the story:

I get my son on the weekends, and she has him during the week. She is an AWESOME mom, she just recently graduated her nursing school and is getting ready to take her LPN / RN exams soon. She is currently a teachers assistant. She has come a long way in life And also has another 2 year old who is the sweetest little girl in the world.

My ex wife was living with a guy for roughly 2 years, and yesterday she informed me that he abused her right in front of my son and her daughter, made a whole scene … most of it was a highly intense verbal altercation but apparently there was some on and off abuse going on for the last few months which my 9 year old son himself told me all about. I was heart broken because when I found out he was abusive with MY son as well on a few occasions I was beyond frustrated and absolutely livid. My heart was honestly full of anger and great dissapointment because at the beggining I had much respect for this man for taking on 2 kids that werent even his own and doing what he had to do to give them a good life. I talked to him a few times too and thought he was geninue and that I could trust him to treat them well at the beggining. I wanted to pay him a personal visit myself after I found out about all this stuff going on for the past few months but I knew if I did I would have only made the situation worse and most likely would have escalated into a physical conflict.

So the cops were called, my ex wife filed a restraining order against him, he took all his stuff and went back to his moms house …. and the rent is $2,500.00. She was responsible for $1,000 and he stole the $1,000.00. She tried asking him for the money one more time but he refused, said he deserved it, and also took back all the kids Christmas gifts.

She will never have to worry about this idiot again but she relied on this man heavily to cover a lot of things while she was studying for school, working her part time job, cooking, cleaning and taking care of the kids while all he ever did was sit on the couch and do nothing. Even if we don’t raise the full $9K to cover her for a few months while she gets back on her feet, anything helps because I really don’t want to see her, my dearly beloved son or her beautiful little daughter go homeless and there rent for $2,550 was due yesterday and the landlord just threatened to evict her and get her son - who is allegedly an attorney, involved to speed up the process if she doesn’t pay the $2,550.00 immediately. I set up the goal for this fundraiser as $9,000.00 so she can at the very least have a decent saftey net for the next few months at least while I help her out, be able to show the landlord some good faith and keep her afloat while she gets everything in order and gets back on her feet. So that is what these donated funds will be used for.

Unfortunately I can’t help her in the way she needs because I just paid my rent along with electric and oil, went food shopping, bought Christmas gifts, paid bills, and I have an overall very tight debt to income ratio at this time. I don’t have much to contribute at the moment which is why I’m using this platform as a last resort. Her last govermental partial assitance expired 6 months ago, and she does't have anything else to lean on at the moment.

Her side of the family is being disturbingly unresponsive, nobody has offered to help her and I feel so TERRIBLE because she truly is a good person with a huge heart and didn’t deserve this. I have given her what I can give and it was all I could spare at the moment but she’s wondering how’s she’s going to make it over the next few months because of her limited part time time hours and with 2 kids. She is trying her absolute hardest to progress and elevate in life and can’t even pay to take her LPN & RN exams to be a nurse now because she’s only worried about scrounging up every penny possible to keep a roof over her and her kids head for the next few months. I wish her family cared. I’m even willing to give her my Christmas bonus to help.

I've never done this before, and please if anyone out there can chip in anything you would be saving my son, her daughter and an overall, wonderful kind caring woman from potentially being out on the streets or in a homeless shelter which would not be an ideal situation for her or my 9 year old son and his little 2 year old sister. She didn’t deserve this and its tragic that it happened right before Christmas. We hope to be able to at least raise the monthly rent [ $2,550.00 ] to support her. I will even be looking into getting a 2nd part time job on top of my full 60 hour position to contribute extra money and I am coming there every day to help out as much as I can after work. Her boss also said she might try to help her out as well. *** Update - I am giving her another $200.00 this Friday 12/08 to take her LPN Exam and I appreciate everybody who has donated thus far. *** 

*** Update # 2: Her boss donated a whole months rent to her in cash to cover her for this month but it was a one-time thing and now she is paying that back to her boss in increments for the next few weekly checks. She has her next month’s rent for $2,550.00 coming up in a few weeks and is due by the first week of January. She is already panicking again. I've given her all the $ we have raised so far but it is not nearly enough. Her family continues to remain surprisingly unresponsive and not helpful at all, it really is pitiful and sad to see the extreme lack of support from her family right now. For example, Her dad promised to pull out a few thousand out of his 401K to help her and she just recently found out through another family member that he took out the 401K funds to help his new wife with some house renovations instead. I was sick to my stomach when I heard that. He is now unresponsive to her texts and calls. I'm really hoping she can get even at least half this goal in an effort to give her a little safety net till she gets her taxes back in March - April. Please donate whatever you can and spread the word so she can have a worry free Christmas and be able to take her nurse RN exams with a clean head ***

If you took the time to read all this, thank you, I appreciate you and have a lovely and wonderful Christmas. God bless.