To help my family pay for my baby girl's Funeral

Hi, my name is Shayne and I'm having to do something a parent should never have to do, that is lay my first and eldest child to rest. Emmajane has been fighting cancer since 2008 when the first pains started, she was 24 years of age. She would be on the phone screaming & crying in agony day & night, she tried everything to ease the pain to the point she burnt all her skin with hot water bottles, I kept telling her to go to the doctors which see did hundreds of times and they kept telling her its sciatica, its a slipped disc, it's a urine infection,it's kidney stones, it's nerves in the spine and just kept telling her to take pain relief. This went on for 5 years, the suffering and pain she was in was unbearable for me to hear and see because as a dad you don't want to see your child in such pain and knowing I could not do anything to ease it for her hurt beyond belief. So in 2013 she had to see the gynaecologist for women's check ups and just by chance they said " Emma I'm going to do a scan just to check nothing sinister is going on" . Well needless to say the scan showed a tumour, and we were told that by the size it could of been growing for 10 years, how they know that I didn't know but she knew all along there was something seriously wrong happening in her body and kept telling us , her mum , sisters and her family. It was confirmed it was bladder cancer, high grade urethral cancer. It was very aggressive and she had to go in for major surgery ,10 hours in fact , she had an hysterectomy and removed most of her insides. The surgery was a success and they removed the cancer but Emma was left with 2 stomer bags and weighed just 6 stone. After some time Emma came out of hospital with the all clear and went to stay with her mum to recuperate and get strong. Emma was always the strongest, always there for her 2 younger sisters, more so the youngest and for her brothers, well for everyone really. Emma always sat on the fence, never took sides unless she felt she had to say something, then she would, but no matter what she was going through herself she would put her feelings and emotions to one side and make time for whoever needed her time, she was so laid back. Anyway after she came out and was with her mum I received a text from my middle daughter saying " Emma wants to see you she needs you shes asking for you dad "it was an emotional text . So I drove down straightaway and went in and it was the first time I'd seen her since she came out of hospital after the op, as soon as I saw her I knew why she wanted to see me, she began to cry and sob so I held her in my arms and there was nothing of her, and she said " dad I don't want to die " and to hear your child say that is horrible beyond comprehension, so I said you're not baby that's not going to happen, she said but I'm not eating and I don't want to eat, so I said baby you will eat, you might not feel like it now but you will, I promise you , I said i wouldnt promise you anything unless I knew it wouldn't be broken, she said I know dad but I'm 6 stone and I know what will happen , I said baby that won't happen , you wait in 6 weeks time you'll be filling your face with a big mac and chips and youll call me and say dad you were right and that's exactly what happened.

So Emma began to get better from 2015 onwards , she got the all clear not long after and she was safely in remission. My relationship became very close after that, she was my eldest child so I confided in her and she knew everything I was thinking and doing, we would speak sometimes 6 to 7 times a day most days. Emma was so special and although she was in remission she was still suffering, now mentally not physically. Emma would call me when she was on a bus or in a shop when she was out in public, she had become very paranoid over her 2 stomer bags , she would call and say " dad I think people can smell the bags" I used to reassure her that no they couldn't and I know you think they can but honestly baby they can't. She had become depressed and paranoid over the bags she had and she hated the thought of anyone smelling them even when she was in her own house with her 2 sons , she'd spray the bathroom and the whole flat with freshener or deodorant when disposing of them. She visited the doctor and they prescribed her anti depressants and some sleeping tablets to help, which they did for a while. She also struggled with them sticking to her body and then she would get a reaction to some, so we spent hours on the Internet searching different clinics and companies to try different kinds to help her. Then once she started to get some that were good she then had problems leaking in her bed . Anyway the point is she didn't just have the physical pain to deal with but also the mental pain of what she was left with after the surgery. She even said " why would they save my life dad if this how I would have to live " all I could say is well you still have your life baby.

Emma was in remission until we got the news it had returned in July 2022, ahe knewnit had come back i kept saying no it's not mate it's scar tissue you're feeling pain from, but she knew and so it was confirmed October 2022. That was heartbreaking and Emma was a fighter and fought all the way but this time she knew she wouldn't be strong enough, and so it proved. For the last 7 months it's been soul destroying for our family to witness what this disease done to our beautiful daughter, sister and friend to many.

On the 15th of May at 2.05am Emmajane lost her fight and even though we never ever wanted her to go ,she got her wish to go and now finally she is pain free and not suffering anymore. Emmajane was 39 years old and for 15 of those 39 years she was fighting this disease and pain. Emmajane has 2 sons she is so so proud of and they have their mums strength and character, and they are and have been so so brave, we are all so proud of them.

We are not a rich family by any means but someone suggested doing this to help give her the send off she deserves.

Thank you to anyone who decides to donate from all of our family .