IN LOVING MEMORY OF PAMELA “LALA” CASSANDRA DACQUEL DOMINGO

Dear Friends and Family.

It is with a HEAVY and BROKEN HEART that I must write this on behalf of my whole family for our Beloved daughter/sister/niece/cousin/granddaughter/friend/coworker/bestfriend

PAMELA CASSANDRA DACQUEL DOMINGO,

who fought a good fight until the time of her untimely passing March 10, 2025 at 2:51 pm.

At only 29 years old, my sister Pamela endured a massive stroke during the early hours of Tuesday March 4, 2025. She had visited the ER at Lions Gate Hospital the day prior and was released to go home in the evening, few hours later in her sleep she had suffered a massive stroke.

A blood clot had executed severe damage to her left Brain which had made her Right side permanently paralyzed.

The neurologist stated that she would never be able to speak, comprehend language/ sign language, walk and talk again. Multiple CT scans were performed every day. And in every test, the swelling in her brain had tremendously grew out of hand, and because of her young age her brain has not shrunk, and there was not enough space for her brain to swell in between her brain and skull.

On Wednesday evening, the neurosurgeon contacted my family and I after another CT scan and they informed us that we must make a decision immediately to undergo surgery to remove the left skull in order to allow the brain to swell, and for it to stop pushing into the right side of the brain, or we can choose to wait for my sister’s heart to stop.

And Because we love Pam so much, and knew how much she wanted to still be with us, we chose the surgery. Before they took her in to the OR, she looked straight into my parent’s eyes, especially into my mom’s eyes, and then she shed a heavy tear. And in that moment, we knew that despite the fact that we were told she cannot comprehend anything anymore, we knew that she understood what was going on and heard the painful cries from all of us.

On that Wednesday evening our family waited for approximately 4 hours for the surgery to be completed. Hoping and praying to God that my sister will survive this extensive surgery. Four hours later, the Dr told us the surgery was successful and everything went well. To their surprise, when they removed the oxygen all the nurses and Doctor’s mentioned how shocked they were to see that my sister was maintaining her airway open and already breathing on her own, and even using her left hand to remove her own mask.

The joy we felt at that moment was incomparable. Thanking God for a successful surgery.

The next morning, she opened her eyes and it was the most beautiful sunny day out. When She opened her eyes, I shouted to my mom and dad that she is awake. I had brought her stuffy that she slept with every night, and I showed it to her. She stared straight at my mother and father, and then she stared at her purple stuffy, and then she tried reaching for it with her left hand. And That was the last time I saw her open her eyes.

On that same day when all hope was restored, we were told that after undergoing another CT scan, my sister’s swelling did not stop and the bleeding has continued severely. We were given only hours by the Doctor. From then, we had to make a decision whether Pallative or ICU care. We chose ICU. And since that day, we never saw her open her eyes again, though she was breathing on her own. Until March 10 we did the very last test to see if she was able to breathe without the oxygen.. however Pam was no longer with us and she was declared a Brain Death at 2:51 pm.

My sister Pamela fought a good fight. Her whole life she only thought about caring for my parents and I and for those around her. She was the most kindest soul you would ever encounter. Her laugh was the most contagious, her aura and presence was always never a Dull moment.

All she ever cared about was the happiness, and good health of the family and her friends. She was so selfless, that she forgot about taking care of herself. She was what you can call a perfect daughter and sister. As cliche as it sounds, she really was. You will never hear her swear, or wish bad upon anyone. If she felt sad or offended, she would keep it to herself and pray on her own. She was every sister’s dream, and every parent’s dream.

Pam was the one who pushed the family to pursue the recent Mexico trip we had as a family in January, and she covered all costs for the 4 of us. Who knew that it would have been our last and final trip as a complete family. Our Hearts are broken, as we will never be complete again for Sunday Mass, having lunch or dinner, or just even waking up together as a family as we sleep in the living room. We will never be complete again, and it breaks my heart and my parent’s hearts. Everyone knew how we did EVERYTHING as a FAMILY since we were children- church, breakfast, lunch, dinner, parties, vacations, road trips, boating. No one was ever missing wherever we went. We were always UNITED as a family because we were strongest as a family. She was the glue to our family. She was the leader because she always knew what’s best. I know how hard it is for my parents to have to see their child go through so much suffering. Everyone who knew my sister and I, all knew that we never really said I love you to each other, because bickering and arguing was our love language.. and now I am left with all regret and sadness.

Pam’s only dream was to be a mother and a wife, but it was taken too soon from her. She never had the chance to walk down the aisle, plan her own wedding, or have children of her own. And that pains me.

The greatest and happiest moment in my parents lives was here at Lions Gate Hospital September 21, 1995 one day before my mothers birthday- where their first born was born. And in the same hospital, March 10, 2025, 29 years later, is where they experienced their greatest heartbreak. We still cannot accept any of this. Our lives have changed forever. And we will never be ready to accept that our Lala is no longer with us, and that we will never be complete again.

I am making this go fund me to ask for support from the people whom my sister has touched, encountered and loved, her friends, classmates, acquaintances, coworkers, and family friends. Because of this untimely event, we were not prepared. My sister has no life insurance, nor benefits from her work. So we are left with the costs of the funeral, and all the remaining expenses she has left behind.

At most we will be spending way over to $50,000 for the funeral costs and other expenses. We kindly ask for support during this devastating and untimely unprepared event, from everyone whom my sister has touched their lives, if you are willing and able.

Godbless us all. Godbless my Our Lala’s soul. May she rest in paradise in the Kingdom of our Lord Jesus Christ, with our Lolo Pepe, Mamang and Papang.

To all reading this, do not forget to say I Love you to your loved ones, near or far. Close or not. We really will never know when our last breath will be here on Earth.

I will miss you my only sister. I am now alone and will grow old alone. You were my, daddy, and mommy’s best friend. You will be tattooed in our Heart’s forever

Im sorry you didn’t experience becoming a wife or have children. I wish this was all a dream. If only God can wake all us up from this nightmare. But we cannot question the Lord. God Have Mercy on us. And give us the wisdom and strength to accept what we cannot accept and keep the faith in this time of despair.

YOU WILL FOREVER REMAIN IN OUR HEARTS LALA

WE LOVE YOU PAMELA CASSANDRA DACQUEL DOMINGO

No words can express the heartbreak we have right now. You didn’t deserve this, you had so much life to live. My parents shouldn’t be burying their first born child…

Lala, Thank you for Fighting, until your very last breath. Just know mommy Dmgo Tess, daddy Noli Domingo and I love you so much, and we were there with you by your side the whole way through - especially Uncle Pambo Supremo, AuntieWhy Solivio, Micah Ortinero, your ninang Boots Cube, your childhood best friend Jenny Paredes, and the love of your life Walt Whittaker. Walt loved you so much lala. I’m glad you guys met and loved each other so deeply. Thank you for everything. For taking care of us. Stop worrying now about us.. I will take care of the Family and mommy and daddy. Rest now in paradise with our Lord Jesus Christ.

THANK YOU FOR ALL THE PRAYERS EVERYBODY. MY FAMILY IS GRATEFUL FOR THE LOVE AND SUPPORT WE HAVE BEEN GIVEN. PLEASE CONTINUE TO PRAY FOR HER SOUL AS SHE IS ON HER PATH TO THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN!

We love you so much

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Rest in Paradise in the Kingdom of Our Lord Jesus Christ.. my only ate Lala..

Fly High Our Guardian Angel ️

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VIEWING: BOAL CHAPEL NORTH VAN. MARCH 26, 2-4 PM

WAKE & VIGIL: SAINT PAULS SQUAMISH NATION PARISH MARCH 28, 2 PM ONWARDS

FUNERAL MASS & SERVICE: SAINT PAULS SQUAMISH NATION CHURCH MARCH 29, 10AM-12PM

RECEPTION TO FOLLOW @ PARISH BASEMENT

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