Patti's Gender Affirming Facial Surgery

Hello My name is Patti and I am a trans woman. Thank you so much for clicking on the link and considering helping me out. I’m presuming that you’ve read the title of my little Gofundme and have a little bit of an idea of what I am hoping to raise money for but I wanted to take this opportunity to tell you more about my journey, what’s lead me to this decision and what your contribution will be funding.

SO…this year I came out as a trans woman. Most of you will probably know what that means however if you are a little confused here is what that means to me (a lot of people have slightly different opinions or feelings about what it means for themselves so this is just my own personal opinion). I was born with a male body…testosterone has had its dirty little way with me…but between my ears is very much female. It’s taken me a blooming long time to come to terms with this. I have had years of doubt…questioning myself and not understanding why I felt such disconnect with the traditionally masculine attributes of my body. I spent a lot of time coming up with ways to suppress how I felt and kept it all to myself but after a year of being locked indoors and a hell of a lot of soul searching I had a lightbulb moment. I was able to accept that I am actually female which was an absolute revelation and finally everything made sense to me.

Since I can remember, I have had this dysphoria looking in the mirror not about how I looked as a man but why I looked like a man. I knew that I was an alright looking guy but it just didn’t fit with how I felt in my head. I have never felt comfortable with people seeing me as male but I was able to get little fixes that alleviated the dysphoria I feel about my body by doing “drag” and helping other people with their own issues relating to dysphoria.

Thankfully, now I’m on a path to correcting a lot of the things about my body that testosterone has had an effect on. I am being prescribed feminising hormone therapy to bring my body more inline with how it should be and bloody hell is this an exciting journey!! It has only been a few months but the euphoria I am getting from seeing tinyyy little changes already is incredible and I am SO happy

As part of my journey, I will be undergoing something know as Facial Feminisation Surgery (FFS). Not every trans person wants or needs to have any surgery however I know that this would alleviate a lot of my own personal dysphoria and allow me to live my life authentically as I should. Not only will this make me feel better about myself BUT most importantly it will increase the chances of me passing as a cis woman. I think its really important to mention here how incredibly proud I am of being trans and passing as cis isn’t something I want to do so that people think better of me…it’s to make my life easier!! It is bloody tough living as a trans woman and can be very unsafe. I can’t nip out the house without spending two hours in-front of the mirror…not because I want to feel beautiful or I’m vain but because I want to feel safe and know that my chances of being heckled, harassed or potentially something much worse are lessened. This isn’t just a cosmetic surgery it is something that can be life saving in many different ways. I want to be able to leave my home without wearing makeup and a wig every day!

What is FFS? It is a series of surgeries that are usually done at the same time which correct typically masculine attributes of your face. Plainly speaking, its facial surgery to make your face look more like how it should have if you were born with oestrogen naturally producing in your body. There isn’t a one size fits all approach to this surgery, so I have a tailored proposal of what will work on my face whilst making sure I stilll look like ME! I will be going to an incredible surgeon in Europe who has worked on many of my friends and works absolute magic. He is one of the best! I have already had my consultation with him that I am very excited about but as you can imagine…this comes with a hefty price tag!! Thats where you lovely people come in. I am saving relentlessly and hope to be able to raise some of the funds myself but I won’t be able to have this done without peoples help so I’m asking for a donation to this surgery to make my dream a reality….and make my life a lot easier!!

Any donations however big or small will mean the absolute world to me. Thank you so so SOOO much in advance. I love you all,

Patti Baston xxx