Please help Caroline and family with surgery

Hello, my name is Jeff and I am Caroline’s husband. Caroline has been debilitated with a failing back and requires disc replacement surgery. She also suffers from rheumatoid arthritis and was determined disabled as of last year. She cannot walk without assistance . In addition she and I have been caring for her mother who is bed bound with fractured spine and also just had pacemaker implanted. We have been living with her mother while also living and taking care of our home. This creates quite a strain on us to be in two places, work, and pay the bills. Bills have fallen behind due to lack of available time to work, and when I do gas prices are really cutting into any profit. I drive for Doordash and grub hub every day. I left my full time job as I could not be away for 10 hours or more a day and needed the flexibility to work and be home at moments notice. Caroline sets up her moms appointments and facilitates her care, while I am the one who does the leg work, meal prep and serveshopping, cleaning, laundry as well as any special needs such as cleaning wounds, massage.

Her recovery time is expected to be anywhere from 4-6 months.

On top of all that, our HOA is suing us to paint our house! Really?

Any help is appreciated,