Family of 4 Kicked Out By Abusive Dad
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hi guys, i hate to ask for any help (seriously, im so embarrassed i hate this) but i need to set my ego aside at the moment and ask for it because i drastically need it. my dad is kicking my mom, sisters, and i out. he is ruining our lives and mental health. we need to seek somewhere safe immediately.
this doesn’t surprise me considering he has always been emotionally abusive towards us and occasion physically when he would drink. which was always, he’s an extreme alcoholic. this time though, he has decided to stop financially supporting me and my mom, making us pay rent ($400 each) and other bills in the house while still expecting me to pay for everything i’ve been saving up for and gather enough money for a small apartment my mom, my sisters, and i can get.
★ if any of you who know my father come across this, please do not share this with him. do not ask him anything or provoke him. i am begging. i do not want this to escalate any further. we just want to be left alone. we just want peace. we just want to be left alone. we just want peace.
i work a part time job as a cashier at a fast food place and get minimum wage so i already don’t get much money. im starting to get my hours cut because of the holiday season so i get around $200 biweekly which clearly is nothing at the moment. i’ll have to start working full time from now on to try and have enough money for everything i need but the only downside is a full time job spot doesn’t open until february at my place of work and with the incoming covid lockdown that may come soon our hours will be cut even more and we will be closing earlier so it’ll make it even harder to get to the goal i need to be at to move out asap. when i’m not working i have to take care of/cook for my little sisters, alexa (6) and naomi (10) from 7am-3pm while they’re doing their online schooling because my mom has gotten a job to help me out. my father was supposed to leave the house after we had found out he has been cheating on my mom but he refuses to leave on good conditions. he’s threatened me and my mom, refused to give us financial help, taunts my mom on taking her to court over custody of my sisters which puts my mom in a dangerous situation, and more fucked up shit. so instead, he’s making our lives miserable because he won’t admit to the fact that he’s a horrible father and a horrible human being.
next year, i am supposed to enter into my college studies as i was meant to go last year but my dad didn’t want to help pay my tuition and he’s once again refusing to help me out for next year. i’m not so sure what might happen now but i might have to push the idea of college a bit later once again which i really would hate to do unless i can find some good scholarships to help out with that considering my tuition is 7x the amount regular college students would pay meaning i’d be paying $13,000 a yr (around $6,500 a semester) just for attending community college. i can’t get student loans because of my status therefore i’d have to pay in full. (regardless, if you can’t help with money i understand and thank you for wanting to find a way to help!! it means a lot :D so another way you could help me besides sharing this around if you’d like is if you know of any scholarships for undocumented students or any scholarships that aren’t exclusively for citizens/any of that fafsa stuff for fall 2021. i will hopefully be studying + living in fullerton, california if they’re location based scholarships thank you!)
which leads me to a subject i should bring up: i’m undocumented so this only makes my new position i’ve been given as essentially a second parent to my sisters, the money provider in the household, and my mom’s support system at barely the age of 18 way harder as if it wasn’t already. i am soon to have my application sent for daca and hopefully obtain it which would make my life so much easier, the only thing is i have to pay $500 for the dhs fee and another $500 for my lawyer firm to do the work, both which i don’t have but i’ll do my best to make sure it happens. i have applied to several places providing aid to help cover the costs but to no avail, i can’t seem to find anywhere where i can get the help. this would mean the world to me, i need this daca application to be accepted more than anything. my entire future quite literally relies on it. so i will be trying to use whatever fraction of the money i get from here towards that as well!
on top of that i’ll need to buy my own proper car due to the fact that my dad is taking the one he gave me to get around/go to work. i was originally going to sell this car for at least $800-$900 on craigslist because its not the best car but it still works; just to somewhat help me get my new car a little faster but now my father has also told me that he won’t be letting me sell it and he’ll be selling it himself to pocket the cash. he won’t even let me use it to go to work anymore so i’ll have to start ubering to and from work every other day which is a $25 round trip — i only get paid $12 an hour so i’m basically busting my ass for nothing. our rent for our house currently is $1,500 monthly + water/electricity/groceries/etc. i’ll have to try and pay for our house wifi so my sisters can continue to be in school and service for me and my mom’s phone as well. i’ll be looking for cheaper apartments near us so we can start renting there and get out of this hellhole because anything is better than this. everything is too much. i cry myself to sleep almost every other night and i just can’t go on any longer without admitting that i need the help.
i don’t want to come across as begging for money with no work put in, i just need a boost or some help with this if any of you can. please. another way to help as well if donating isn’t really your thing: i have a depop, you can ask me for the link or you can look the username up on the depop app! it’s @/bryanvilla. i’ll be putting a lot of my clothes and other things on there to try and earn some money that way as well. i’m sorry once again for asking at all, but i hope this can somehow help out for at least a little and raise some money. thank you all so much for reading and if you donated thank you so SO so much!!! it means the world to me, my mom, and my sisters. <3
cashapp: $bryanvillas
paypal: paypal.me/bryanvillaa
dm me on instagram for zelle! (@bryanvillas)
this doesn’t surprise me considering he has always been emotionally abusive towards us and occasion physically when he would drink. which was always, he’s an extreme alcoholic. this time though, he has decided to stop financially supporting me and my mom, making us pay rent ($400 each) and other bills in the house while still expecting me to pay for everything i’ve been saving up for and gather enough money for a small apartment my mom, my sisters, and i can get.
★ if any of you who know my father come across this, please do not share this with him. do not ask him anything or provoke him. i am begging. i do not want this to escalate any further. we just want to be left alone. we just want peace. we just want to be left alone. we just want peace.
i work a part time job as a cashier at a fast food place and get minimum wage so i already don’t get much money. im starting to get my hours cut because of the holiday season so i get around $200 biweekly which clearly is nothing at the moment. i’ll have to start working full time from now on to try and have enough money for everything i need but the only downside is a full time job spot doesn’t open until february at my place of work and with the incoming covid lockdown that may come soon our hours will be cut even more and we will be closing earlier so it’ll make it even harder to get to the goal i need to be at to move out asap. when i’m not working i have to take care of/cook for my little sisters, alexa (6) and naomi (10) from 7am-3pm while they’re doing their online schooling because my mom has gotten a job to help me out. my father was supposed to leave the house after we had found out he has been cheating on my mom but he refuses to leave on good conditions. he’s threatened me and my mom, refused to give us financial help, taunts my mom on taking her to court over custody of my sisters which puts my mom in a dangerous situation, and more fucked up shit. so instead, he’s making our lives miserable because he won’t admit to the fact that he’s a horrible father and a horrible human being.
next year, i am supposed to enter into my college studies as i was meant to go last year but my dad didn’t want to help pay my tuition and he’s once again refusing to help me out for next year. i’m not so sure what might happen now but i might have to push the idea of college a bit later once again which i really would hate to do unless i can find some good scholarships to help out with that considering my tuition is 7x the amount regular college students would pay meaning i’d be paying $13,000 a yr (around $6,500 a semester) just for attending community college. i can’t get student loans because of my status therefore i’d have to pay in full. (regardless, if you can’t help with money i understand and thank you for wanting to find a way to help!! it means a lot :D so another way you could help me besides sharing this around if you’d like is if you know of any scholarships for undocumented students or any scholarships that aren’t exclusively for citizens/any of that fafsa stuff for fall 2021. i will hopefully be studying + living in fullerton, california if they’re location based scholarships thank you!)
which leads me to a subject i should bring up: i’m undocumented so this only makes my new position i’ve been given as essentially a second parent to my sisters, the money provider in the household, and my mom’s support system at barely the age of 18 way harder as if it wasn’t already. i am soon to have my application sent for daca and hopefully obtain it which would make my life so much easier, the only thing is i have to pay $500 for the dhs fee and another $500 for my lawyer firm to do the work, both which i don’t have but i’ll do my best to make sure it happens. i have applied to several places providing aid to help cover the costs but to no avail, i can’t seem to find anywhere where i can get the help. this would mean the world to me, i need this daca application to be accepted more than anything. my entire future quite literally relies on it. so i will be trying to use whatever fraction of the money i get from here towards that as well!
on top of that i’ll need to buy my own proper car due to the fact that my dad is taking the one he gave me to get around/go to work. i was originally going to sell this car for at least $800-$900 on craigslist because its not the best car but it still works; just to somewhat help me get my new car a little faster but now my father has also told me that he won’t be letting me sell it and he’ll be selling it himself to pocket the cash. he won’t even let me use it to go to work anymore so i’ll have to start ubering to and from work every other day which is a $25 round trip — i only get paid $12 an hour so i’m basically busting my ass for nothing. our rent for our house currently is $1,500 monthly + water/electricity/groceries/etc. i’ll have to try and pay for our house wifi so my sisters can continue to be in school and service for me and my mom’s phone as well. i’ll be looking for cheaper apartments near us so we can start renting there and get out of this hellhole because anything is better than this. everything is too much. i cry myself to sleep almost every other night and i just can’t go on any longer without admitting that i need the help.
i don’t want to come across as begging for money with no work put in, i just need a boost or some help with this if any of you can. please. another way to help as well if donating isn’t really your thing: i have a depop, you can ask me for the link or you can look the username up on the depop app! it’s @/bryanvilla. i’ll be putting a lot of my clothes and other things on there to try and earn some money that way as well. i’m sorry once again for asking at all, but i hope this can somehow help out for at least a little and raise some money. thank you all so much for reading and if you donated thank you so SO so much!!! it means the world to me, my mom, and my sisters. <3
cashapp: $bryanvillas
paypal: paypal.me/bryanvillaa
dm me on instagram for zelle! (@bryanvillas)
Organizer and beneficiary
Bryan Villa
Organizer
Mesa, AZ
Ramon Armando Cabanillas
Beneficiary