Help Ren get Top Surgery
Hello I am Mia and this is a campaign for my sweet partner Ren which is the most kindhearted and fun person I know. I wish with all my heart that their gender dysphoria will be treated so I would be so thankful for any attention and help. Here is their story:
TW: gender dysphoria, transphobia, eating disorder.
Hello, my name is Ren (they/them), I am a non-binary transmasculine person and refugee from Ukrаіnе.
From childhood, I felt so out of place, everything about my gender assigned at birth seemed so off. Back then I more than anything wished I could be reborn as a boy.
When puberty started I started to experience gender dysphoria with renewed vigor. My body felt so wrong, all I wanted to do, was to hide it. I hated everything about it, but especially my chest. everything around me, media, pop culture, people sexualized women's chests and big breasts, which I was the unlucky owner of. And the least I could wish for was to be seen as a woman.
I didn't understand what was going on with me, my inner transphobia was saying: you are not one of "them", it's not you, it can't be you, you probably just need to lose some weight to like yourself. But deep inside I knew I was trans, I just couldn't accept it. I developed an eating disorder against the backdrop of gender dysphoria. I thought if I was thin, I would finally like my body. It wasn't the case though.
(Drawing by Ren)
It took me a long time, self-education, and good people around me to realize that I actually am one of them. I came out as non-binary two years ago after my family and I were forced to move to Poland due to the russіаn invasion of Ukrаіnе.
Binding myself I started a lot earlier, everything started with a bandage, I knew that it was not safe, but I had no other way to cope with dysphoria. Eventually, I started to wear binders but my chest never appeared flat enough.
I realized that I don't have to suffer spending every day in distress, I can have a body that feels like a home to me.
I want to express myself, wear clothes I like, have a good posture, run and swim, don't cry when I see the reflection in the mirror and finally see my true self. I want to be free from the burden of the dysphoria I feel every minute, even in my dreams.
I'm proud of who I am now, I've worked hard to achieve that, I love myself and my body more than ever before, I'm finally healing from long-term depression and I can change my body to finally feel comfortable with myself.
The surgery can't be covered by insurance here, in Poland, so going private is the only possible way. Researching my options, my choice fell on the clinic «Timeless» (Dr. Jaworowski). The surgery and aftercare together cost 6500€. Though I neither my family don't have this kind of money. We barely recovered from moving and now.. Top surgery seems like an unattainable goal to me. But it is my only option to live a full field life.
I'm so grateful for every cent, every share, every boost. even if it would be $5, $3 even $1 will help.
Other ways to support me:
PayPal - @RenTsokalo
for drawings: - hhhitro
for crocheting: - pomaranccia
(You can order a commission or crochet project to support me!)
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