Sandy Pavay

Hello everyone, as you've heard my mother has passed away from stage 4 pancreatic cancer. Since May of this year she had struggled with extreme back, leg, and sciatic nerve pain from degenerative disc disease, sciatica, and unbeknownst to use at the time, pancreatic cancer. She was bedridden for the summer and began to decline food. she lost a total of 50 pounds in the process and became extremely weak and lethargic. She was admitted to the hospital the first go around after becoming pale and too tired to respond to us. We then found out her bones were breaking down and releasing dangerous levels of calcium into her system causing the sciatica to be even worse. At the time we believed this was the reason why she was refusing food (from the pain) and causing herself to be too weak to participate in day to day life. After going back and forth with insurance, it was decided the she must be admitted to a rehab facility before she could visit an oncologist to inspect the mass they found in her lower abdominal area (thus wasting more time). While staying at the rehab facility, she continued declining food, had small amounts of physical therapy (all while still being in large amounts of pain) and fortunately did become a little more aware and responsive. We could talk with her again, visit her, pray with her, and she got to see her grandchildren. She was returned home on September 12th after her stay at the rehab center and resumed her decline. From here she became intolerable to food, and started getting worse very quickly. We called the ambulance on the 17th and they loaded her up which was very difficult to watch due to the amounts of pain she was in. She had a scheduled appointment the next day for the oncologist to figure out what kind of cancer she had and that appointment got canceled. We waited days for that doctor to visit my mom in the hospital. He finally came on Wednesday to tell us she had Stage 4 Pancreatic cancer and suggested she be sent to hospice. The following day her nurse told us we only had a few hours to days left with her. It was the shorter end. She never made it to hospice. She passed exactly the way she wanted to - sleeping. She was on the best pain medication, anxiety medication, and had her shows on. Earlier that day she got so see me, Mikey and my dad. She smiled at and kiss her granddaughters. Her viewing will be at McNeil's funeral home in mustang on Monday the 25th from 1-8 pm. Her funeral with be held at Lake Overholser Church of the Nazarene. I am asking you for help with the costs of her burial and headstone. My mother touched Many, MANY of your lives. She was also your mother, your friend, your sister. She was one of the only people I can think of that thoroughly enjoyed putting herself last. I KNOW she would walk to the end of the Earth for me and her family. You were also her family. I ask that you please consider donating towards giving her a beautiful headstone and memorial that she deserves. Thank you for reading.