Help Stuart and his family through his treatment

Hi, my name is Deborah and i'm Stuart's wife. We have 2 children Mason 11 and Pippa 7.

I've been asked by a few people to set this up so here we are. I've been round in circles debating whether to do this or not as we aren't the type of people to ask for help or money but as time goes on and things get tighter the help will be greatly appreciated.

So here's our (well Stuart's) story....

Early hours on the 9th September Stuart woke up around 3am and began to seize. We had an ambulance out who suspected a TIA (mini stroke) and took him to the hospital after a very long wait he was told he had an anxiety attack and to go home and rest.

Then on the 22nd September Stuart had another seizure this time a lot worse and was taken to A&E again, whilst waiting he seized in the waiting room and was then sent for a CT scan. Never in a million years did we expect to be told that he has a large tumour on the right side of his brain.

The next few weeks were a whirlwind of appointments, scans, tests, medications, worry and anxiety. Not just for us but for everyone around us.

surgery was scheduled and then had to be cancelled so after a long wait he had his surgery on the 10th November at Addenbrookes. All went well everyone involved seemed happy.

A week later we were told that the tumour is cancerous and is a grade 2 astrocytoma tumour and he will need to see the oncology team to discuss further treatments.

At this appointment we were told that unfortunately they have located another tumour that is in the centre of his brain above his optical nerve and they will not be able to operate and all they can do is try to shrink the tumour and hope for the best (Whole world comes crashing down at this point)

Treatment was explained, symptoms and side effects gone over.

On the 2nd January Stuart started his Radio Therapy session 1 of 30. 5 days a week at Addenbrookes for 6 weeks.

In between all of this there have been other things going on in the background and trying to stay up beat and positive has been extremely hard.

Side effects so far have been fatigue, small seizures, headaches, sore/sensitive scalp, small amount of hair loss and occasional blurred vision.

18 down 12 to go

After this is a 4 week break with a scan to see how the treatments worked and then months of chemo.

in 2020 Stuart was diagnosed with anxiety and put on meds that he didn’t need. We found out that the placement of the tumour was the cause of his anxiety and had been frowning all this time. He was also told that he’s been having mini seizures for a while that he was also told was his anxiety.

All of the above has changed our lives completely. I haven't worked since September and have now had to quit one of my jobs so that i can be here for Stuart. He can no longer drive, he can't be left alone and has to have someone with his at all times.

We had to cancel our holiday that we had booked this year as he cant fly.

It all leaves a bitter taste in your mouth and you cant help but think Why us, Why him, We/He doesn't deserve this, Its not fair for the children.

The children know that Daddy is poorly and just like the amazing children they are; are dealing with this so well.

The money raised will be used to help us have some amazing family days together and make magical memories that the children deserve.

Stuart had life insurance and we are in the middle of a dispute with them about this but they refused to pay and canceled his policies because of his misdiagnosis by the DRs

As a family we thank everyone for the support they give us regardless as to whether its financial or emotional we love you all and with out you it would be so much harder.