Support Bird Taking the Next Steps

New update. Somehow my house in mt vernon has been burnt down. Andrew and grace was in Louisiana for days so I doubt it was them. The electricity and gas had been shut previously due to Andrew not paying the bills. Currently don't know how it started.

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I want to sincerely say thank you to everyone for the support, you guys are amazing

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Hey, Bird here.

2 years ago Andrew had a severe manic episode. During which time Andrew went on a $120,000 spending spree and took out loans using the paid off car and house as collateral.

Jump to now, we were almost debt free again, I got extra jobs along with continuing to try to work with Andrew to pay off the debt left while paying expenses. Unfortunately with his BPD, work was difficult because the high highs came with equally low lows.

With the recent episode I've moved away and started a new life with a new career (I still do jiujitsu but not nearly as much.)

Unfortunately, even after 2 years, I'm still financially tied to him. For the health of everyone involved, this needs to no longer be the case. I need to be free to move on and live my life independently without reaping the consequences of Andrew's choices as he goes on living his life. I cannot sell the house without a lawyer to clear my name, which I currently cannot afford. I cannot get him to refinance the mortgage in only his name (even though it's 85% paid off).

Normally it wouldn't be a big deal, but now Andrew is getting treatment and none of his side of the bills are possible to be paid until he's released, which might take a while. Hopefully when he comes out, he'll be better but between the mental abuse and having to pick up after him for this long, I need help.

There's 3 options for me.

Pay off the last of the mortgage and remove my name from the house. My name would no longer get held liable for his stuff.

Get a lawyer and go through the courts to sell the house through partition laws, splitting the profits equally. Letting us both move onto the next chapter of our lives.

Or last until he gets out (hopefully sane) possibility/probably stuck in the same situation.

the funds would go to helping me separate safely from Andrew.

Some people told me to add venmo or PayPal so @sathyawiltse for both

He has since started threatening me and my loved ones.